I can see that we all are in this boat in some way and thanks for all of your enlightening responses. We didn't feel right just stopping cold turkey so am sending cards and money this year, but probably next year will discontinue the money part. I do not get a thank you or email or phone call to say they have received such--they just take it with no response to us. We are tired of this and think we will just tell them that birthday gifts are being discontinued. By the way, for my birthday I did not receive a card or anything from two of my children (I have three). The same for Mother's Day--got only two cards. For my own parents, I always sent a least a card as we did not live close to my parents. I never forgot them or neglected them. Has this been your experience also?