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    Designer Diva

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    Default Too pretty to use

    So I've been quilting for a few years now, and I've gotten this response several times... most recently, I made some potholders for a friend who just moved, to replace the ones she has which are very worn out.

    How do you handle it when someone tells you your quilting gift is "too pretty to use"? How do you design a quilt project that is neither too pretty nor too ugly to use?

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    Missouri Star

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    Default Re: Too pretty to use

    Maybe say, "You deserve pretty things. And I hope you do use them!"

    Your friend's comment could possibly be a query to see how you'd feel if she used the potholders.
    Toni ... If I keep sewing long enough, will they make their own dinner?

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    Default Re: Too pretty to use

    My potholders get grungy pretty fast. The ones that were once pretty are now ugly lol. I have always wanted a pretty one to hang on the wall to display. So perhaps she is thinking the same way. A potholder/very small wall hanging. A wall hanging is technically used by just hanging on the wall.
    At my house is a pretty one was dedicated to hang on the wall, someone would use it and make it grungy....argh.
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    Default Re: Too pretty to use

    Maybe she is saying she appreciates the work you did you give her such a gift. I always tell folks that I make stuff to be used. They do no one any good in a drawer or closet unused. Tell her how you treat your own and maybe she will feel more comfortable. Or tell her to think of you when cooking. LOL
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    I always say that I didn't make it to be saved and donated to goodwill in good shape. The greatest honor is to use it and wear it out.

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    I think people are nervous about ruining quilted things in the wash, even though they might not say so. I always tell them it's washable and I already washed it for the first time for you and put it in the dryer. And see, ot didn't shrink or fall apart and the colors didn't run.

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    This sounds like my mother. She said I take care of my things and yes, they looked brand new ... Well, she didn't use them! I think her generation grew up during the depression and this had a lasting effect on how they looked at possessions.

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    It's precious to her!
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    I try to address the issue ahead of time. I tell the recipient that the greatest compliment would be for them to love it and use it until it falls apart. Then I'll make them another one.

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