Well he finally did it

[Hulamoon]

Tent man (aka DH) pulled a War Of The Roses. He split the house in half by putting up a wall though the hallway. He took three bedrooms and two baths and seven closets (all). I was most mad at the closets. lol He does't own anything. I left him a bed and a shower curtain.

I know most of you said to file, but I have no childhood family and my kids live here so I'm sorta stuck. I did get the better half. Kitchen, laundry room and huge covered porch front to the street and oh yea all the windows and sun instead of the back. I still have a full bath.That's a good thing.

Anyway, I found out he is sick and has to go for a liver biopsy next tues. I knew something was going on and he finally spilled it. I don't want to put the kids though a divorce right now. It would be cruel.

Well that's my news that has happened this year. Haven't stitched in two. Thought I would throw that in since it's a sewing forum. lol

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[grammaterry]

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Ah Lori, so sad...we loved them once so we can't really stop that part, we just fall out of like. Sorry he is sick but don't let that play too hard on your sympathy...take care of your own mental state.

[Carlie Wolf]

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What's going to prevent him from taking another part next week?

[auntstuff]

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That would be about all the mental abuse I could put up with. And yes, that IS what it is.

[cv quilter]

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Lorie,, I'm blown away and without helping words. Truly sorry for you and for your situation. And for your DH.

[Angelia]

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I'm sorry you have to go through this--I'm thinking a divorce would be easier for your kids (and for you) than watching him do this to you. (Only my opinion--I know that situations are much more complex than they may appear.)

[JCY]

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So sorry. May God give you strength for each day.

[DeniseSm]

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If your spouse runs up a huge medical bill, they can come after you for all of it. If your ex runs up a huge medical bill, you don't owe a dime.

You need to see an attorneyright now Stop fooling around and take care of yourself

[Hulamoon]

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If your spouse runs up a huge medical bill, they can come after you for all of it. If your ex runs up a huge medical bill, you don't owe a dime.

You need to see an attorneyright now Stop fooling around and take care of yourself

I was thinking of that and talked to my step dd about that (very supportive) when some one dies you are responsible for all the bills. When my auntie passed (last member of my family) I had to pay for every thing, but she gifted me with her house in Calif and I'm renting it out. He is super pissed about that.

He's been out there for 7 1/2 years. He can live here, but yea, I need to get out of the marriage thing. Thanks

[KarenC]

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Praying for you. I would think pretty hard about Denise's message. When I went through my "D", the attorney said assets were determined on the day we filed or he moved out. Rules are different from state to state. You have dealt with more than I could handle. Bless you.

[SuzanneOrleansOntario]

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All great advice. Go, Run to a lawyer. You need to protect what you have, at all costs. Try to be civil, as you do have kids, and this can be difficult for them.
I find it funny that he would physically slit the house, but that does happen. My friend tells of a house on Prince Edward Island that would chain sawed in half. The husband was upset that the judge ordered hi to give his wife half the house and all they owned. When she was at work, he took a chair saw to all the furniture, everything, including the house. Since he lived in the country the neighbours did not see to call the cops. It was a court case for years. The house was eventually thorn down, and neither had anything in the end.

Divorce can be bitter, but sometimes unavoidable. Sending you strength, patience and courage to go through this.

[201 Treadler]

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gosh building control would be quite upset over here, if did those changes without consultation , the insurance company may not cover you now. perhaps this house conversion may give you ' listed reason' for speedy divorce with the judge, (mentally insane springs to mind). sending virtual hugs cuppas and other much needed beverage.

[MaggieSue]

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I whole heartily agree with Denise. Please think about protecting yourself, mentally, emotionally, and financially!

[Heather]

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Wow. Just wow. Good luck Lorie, I hope you get that attorney soon. The kids will survive.

[jjkaiser]

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Oh Lorie I always thought your relationship with your almost-ex was pretty crazy but this proves it. I think you are a saint for allowing him the slack to get away with this because you know he has medical issues. You are gonna get advice from all over. Go with your gut, do what you think is best for your family, and good luck.