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    Missouri Star

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    Default I said it once, now I need to keep saying it....

    I said.......wait for it............I said no!!

    I didn't say 'I don't think I can' or 'I am sorry, I don't have time' or 'I would love to but.....' I said non of that...... I said 'I don't want to do that'!!!

    My mother in law has for 20 years been involved in a theater group doing costumes. This year is a pantomime starting just after Christmas. The panto is Sleeping Beauty and there are so many costumes it is a lot of work. In the past when she has been pushed I have helped out, usually with the more arty farty costumes which she struggles with. Anyway the group has taken for granted that a) she will manage the costumes no matter how many there are and without a realistic budget and that if she is struggling that I will chip in. Well! Not this time. Nope. Nada. I don't want to!!

    I feel bad for my mother in law but I am refusing to feel guilty. When Jean was going through her costume drama I was remembering how awful it is sometimes............. lets be honest here..... it is often awful. That reminder did me good and when this phone call came I was able to be strong. So this time they will have to get MIL some PAID help and bloody well get on with it.

    Whispers..........I have told her I will make the fancy Beauty's costumes for her but the group won't know. To help her is one thing but as for the rest...... they just take advantage. So don't tell them will you?

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    Missouri Star

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    Default Re: I said it once, now I need to keep saying it....

    Another of the many, many reasons we all love you so very much!

    Stick to your Guns, Annie Oakley!
    Sometimes, when there's a raging fire,
    it's best not to try to put it out with gasoline.

    "...pal carajo con la negatividad..."

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    Missouri Star

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    Default Re: I said it once, now I need to keep saying it....

    Good for you! Hope that all is as well as it can be! Take care!


    God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
    The stash to make a quilt to help me cope,
    A quilt to give to comfort those I love in times of hurt, fear and uncertainty.
    And the courage to keep on sewing when life itself seems held together by a single thread of hope.

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    Missouri Star

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    Default Re: I said it once, now I need to keep saying it....

    Stay Strong, your have your priorities and that is not making costumes.
    Remember, people will see your quilts long after you are gone. . . Not your housework!!

    Leonie

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    Binding Belle

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    Default Re: I said it once, now I need to keep saying it....

    Hi - Good for you!! Standing up for yourself and saying what you really feel is such a stress reliever!!! I love it!!! Hugs to you!!! Mary Ann

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    Missouri Star

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    Default Re: I said it once, now I need to keep saying it....

    Sometimes you just have to think of yourself because nobody else does. I know that sounds arrogant but sometimes people take advantage of others and it's just not right.

    Fannie

    Live each day as if it were your last!

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    Missouri Star

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    Default Re: I said it once, now I need to keep saying it....

    You handled it perfectly! Offering to do a costume was lending a hand, yet not getting totally embedded...
    You really have enough on your plate Miss Daisy....
    It wasn't that hard, now was it?
    Now give yourself a pat on the back!
    And MUMS the word...lol

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    Missouri Star

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    Default Re: I said it once, now I need to keep saying it....

    Good for you and from the sounds of it, good for your MIL. Glad that you added such a useful word to your vocabulary.
    Thinking of you and Mr. D. -
    Sewing mends the soul.



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    Laughing is good exercise. It's like jogging on the inside.

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    Missouri Star

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    Default Re: I said it once, now I need to keep saying it....

    You Go Girl !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Stick to your guns !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Be Blessed !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    bopeep

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    Missouri Star

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    Default Re: I said it once, now I need to keep saying it....

    You have good reason to say no anyway. Don't you have vacation plans for sometime in January?
    K is for Karen .....................Cremation - My last hope for a smokin' hot body.

    Before you speak,
    T - is it TRUE?
    H - is it HELPFUL?
    I - is it INSPIRING?
    N - is it NECESSARY?
    K - is it KIND?


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