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    #16
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    what on earth happened?! how did you find out that he did that. .....you think you know someone, and then they pull that. stay strong!

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      #17
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      Originally posted by bttyboopette View Post
      what on earth happened?! how did you find out that he did that. .....you think you know someone, and then they pull that. stay strong!
      I'll reply to you since most here know that dh moved out to a tent in the back property , maybe five years now. He doesn't want a divorce because he want's to keep this dang place. He did a re fi without me signing anything.

      Turns out there was a compliance issue of putting a screen of some sort around the house, (we are four feet up) and he has known for a year and now has 10 days to do it and blaming it ( in part) on me, among other things. He doesn't talk to me so how would I know?

      Thanks for the advice. I have been trying to save up money but something always comes up like my water pump on my car and plumbing this week. I can't seem to catch up.

      The last thing he said a couple of days ago is that he can move me out.
      🌺 Lorie

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        #18
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        What a pain they are. My first ex was court ordered to continue paying the mortgage during the divorce proceedings. He didn't and regardless of the fact I was on the deed the mortgage company started foreclosure procedures and never notified me. Then they would not allow me to pay the late stuff. They're mistake that they never notified me. Didn't care about court orders etc. Awful and I fortunately had a buyer two days before they foreclosed.

        I feel your pain and you're in my prayers.
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        Women are Angels. When someone break's our wings we will continue to fly-usually on a broomstick.We're flexible like that.

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          #19
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          Not only would I get a lawyer, check my credit and utilities, etc but I would check the car's titles and anything else that is mobile. Also, run a check on him for bank accounts, etc.
          I know when my husbands last wife took off she left him with 33 maxed out credit cards he didn't know anything about and she had several bank accounts that he didn't find out about until after the divorce. She had been stealing from his business too.
          I would suggest a private investigator or a hit man whichever is cheapest
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            #20
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            Sneaky So & So, just like my XBIL. He moved to another state, had his girlfriend pretend to be his wife and she signed off on this pension so he could receive the full benefits instead of sharing them with my sister L, his wife of 35 years. He sued sister L for divorce and thought everything would go smoothly for him. Not so when my brother, 2 other sisters and I heard about what was going on, got her a lawyer and to court sessions. Boy was he mad when we demanded her share of his pension be sent directly from his pension fund to her or we'd expose his fraudulence actions. He kept his big annuity which he used to open a pizza shop, quickly lost the shop due to flooding because he had no flood insurance. Somehow we didn't shed any tears for his loss.
            Last edited by MayinJerset; September 2, 2016, 03:39 PM.

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              #21
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              Lorie, so sorry to hear that you're going through this. I will keep you in my prayers.
              Cindy

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                #22
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                So sorry you are having to go through this. Divorce is bad enough without this extra drama and headache. Praying for you.
                Karen
                Spring, TX

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                  #23
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                  Thanks for the prayers I married a surfer. As soon as the girls started going to school I became a single mom. I worked in the morning and then had the girls while he worked nights. He asked what I have been doing for twenty years.

                  I'll be okay, it's just going to take a little longer than I thought.
                  🌺 Lorie

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                    #24
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                    Hula moon,
                    Here's my advice/encouragement as a woman who is divorced from her first husband. Call every lawyer in the phone book and ask what a consultation would cost .. It may be higher where you live but for around 100 bucks here you should be able to at least meet a lawyer and explain your situation. Before you agree to meet, let them know you can pay for the consult but later appointments will need to be paid on a payment plan. See who calls you back .. Google them for reference and meet with one .. Or two. If your husband has actually got the the mortgage in his name only .. He can get you out of the house with 30 days notice. It may take a few years for you to prove he did this illegally. Start protecting yourself now. Not trying to sound the alarms here but having been thru divorce myself...the more leverage you have .. The better off you'll be. I wish you much luck and good thoughts in this situation... It's the hardest thing you'll ever do .. But you will come out stronger and better than before. I promise... For me it was HARD to admit that person I married had turned into someone so completely different and mean .. I promised to love him forever. But those things just don't always work out and there's no shame in saying I'm a better person than this sham of a marriage. I am happily remarried but that thought never crossed my mind when I finally walked out that door..I was ready to just be happy with me, myself and I. I wish you much happiness... Find a great lawyer that will work with you ..
                    Sherrie
                    Life ain’t always beautiful
                    But it’s a beautiful ride - Gary Allen

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                      #25
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                      He can take your name off of the house, but you can still get it back on. And if he refinanced it, you may not be responsible for any financial agreements he entered in to.

                      We refinanced this year... I had to sign everything... my name is on the deed. I am not responsible to pay the loan at all. Dh is. But, it's still half my home. All mine if anything were to happen.

                      PLEASE get that lawyer... He may have been planning this all along when he was squatting... Planning to take it from you from day one.

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                        #26
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                        Originally posted by kensington View Post
                        He can take your name off of the house, but you can still get it back on. And if he refinanced it, you may not be responsible for any financial agreements he entered in to.

                        We refinanced this year... I had to sign everything... my name is on the deed. I am not responsible to pay the loan at all. Dh is. But, it's still half my home. All mine if anything were to happen.

                        PLEASE get that lawyer... He may have been planning this all along when he was squatting... Planning to take it from you from day one.
                        That's scary that he would of thought to plan this. I have to wait for mail to come to find the mortgage company he did this with.

                        Originally posted by sherriequilts View Post
                        Hula moon,
                        Here's my advice/encouragement as a woman who is divorced from her first husband. Call every lawyer in the phone book and ask what a consultation would cost .. It may be higher where you live but for around 100 bucks here you should be able to at least meet a lawyer and explain your situation. Before you agree to meet, let them know you can pay for the consult but later appointments will need to be paid on a payment plan. See who calls you back .. Google them for reference and meet with one .. Or two. If your husband has actually got the the mortgage in his name only .. He can get you out of the house with 30 days notice. It may take a few years for you to prove he did this illegally. Start protecting yourself now. Not trying to sound the alarms here but having been thru divorce myself...the more leverage you have .. The better off you'll be. I wish you much luck and good thoughts in this situation... It's the hardest thing you'll ever do .. But you will come out stronger and better than before. I promise... For me it was HARD to admit that person I married had turned into someone so completely different and mean .. I promised to love him forever. But those things just don't always work out and there's no shame in saying I'm a better person than this sham of a marriage. I am happily remarried but that thought never crossed my mind when I finally walked out that door..I was ready to just be happy with me, myself and I. I wish you much happiness... Find a great lawyer that will work with you ..
                        Sherrie
                        Different and mean sums up the marriage pretty well. He became mean and it made me different. lol Thanks for your advice.

                        For those that went through this, did you find a difference working with a man or woman> I hope that's not sexest. I never hired a lawyer for myself before.
                        🌺 Lorie

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                          #27
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                          I've worked with both, over different things. No real difference. But if the lawyer doesn't seem to be on YOUR side, find another.

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                            #28
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                            You don't have to wait for the mail, call the mortgage company that is holding the original note and the deed and ask if a second mortgage has been taken out. If they say yes ask if your name was signed to the document. Stop by the courthouse and go into the clerks office. Tell the clerks you were wondering who's the best woman lawyer in town and boy will they tell you!
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                              #29
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                              You are getting a lot of good advice here. My godmother had a saying. "A woman needs a man like a duck needs a bicycle!" There, see, I made you smile! If your husband is in a tent in the back yard; goof luck to him. Last I checked you have two hurricanes headed your way. Karma is a ......! Stay strong!!

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                                #30
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                                Originally posted by PatinValrico View Post
                                You are getting a lot of good advice here. My godmother had a saying. "A woman needs a man like a duck needs a bicycle!" There, see, I made you smile! If your husband is in a tent in the back yard; goof luck to him. Last I checked you have two hurricanes headed your way. Karma is a ......! Stay strong!!
                                You did make me smile

                                My mom gave me good advice...never do a joint account
                                Grandma said... once you take the trash out, your always going to take the trash out.

                                The second one baffled me for awhile. Then I got it. I stopped doing his laundry. I don't think he ever got over it. lol
                                🌺 Lorie

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