breast cancer diagnosis.. and I am just going to throw myself into my quilting..

[littlemisslinda]

had my first round of chemo the day before yesterday.. feeling pretty good so far.. I just want to have friends that are supportive. my husband has decided that this is something he is just not willing to deal with.. no help, no support at all.. I just don't understand how someone that I have spent the last 18 years of my life just up and leaves me like this. I'm disgusted and just wish he would hurry up and leave.. so heart broken and confused... I have learned that for the most part that I can and never again count on any man to do the right thing... I know there are husband's out there that wouldn't dream of doing something like this... but it is obvious that mine isn't one of them.
I just want to feel normal.. I just want to build friendships that will be supportive.. I think I have found the right community here...

[songbird857]

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Praying for your recovery Linda Be sure to post pics of what you are working on, we'd love to see them!

[KarenC]

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I am so sorry to hear this. We are here for you. I have a very good friend that went through the chemo about 5 yrs ago, and another about 10 yrs ago. They both live very full lives. Please know that you are in my prayers to have to deal with the treatments and then now with the person you thought would be there for you. Hang in there. You will find out how strong you really are. I never thought I'd get over my ex leaving me, but I have grown and blossomed a lot in these past 7 years.

[Bubby]

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I'm so sorry you are going through this. We have a strong group here and we will pray for you and be here when you need to talk. (((HUGS)))

[asta]

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(((((((HUGS))))))))))
Praying for you.

[Bouse]

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A useless husband on top of that diagnosis is a hard shift to deal with. Once his sorry ass leaves, you can devote all your time and energy to your healing. My thoughts are with you.

[Snip Snip]

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Praying for you, sending a hug. I just think some men are not built to handle stuff like this. Linda, don't cut him out of your life just yet, if you still have feelings for him. You may have to be the bigger person here, and let him find his feet. If he leaves now, this will be hanging over the two of you long after the cancer is gone.
I know you will be fine. Quilting apparently is great therapy!

[EsGrandma]

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We're here to support you and pray for you. Take care of YOU!

[WendyI]

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I'm so saddened to read this. As someone who was devastated by my husbands leaving a year ago (after almost 18 years) I can only imagine what you are going through with a cancer diagnosis at the same time. Make sure you lean on the people in your life who ARE there for you, reach out to them and let them know how much you are hurting, both physically and emotionally. Find a support group as soon as possible, aside from this forum, for people who are sharing your experiences. It really does help. I won't say any of the things that people normally say when a spouse leaves because I know it doesn't change anything. Just take care of yourself and post often. Throwing yourself into quilting is a fantastic idea!

[Monique]

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You will get support here as there are many cancer survivors here, including me. (Private message sent)

[MayinJerset]

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Little Miss Linda, Yes, you have found the right supportive community here so please post as often as you are able through this difficult time. We'll be with you through laughter and tears.

[Navy Wife]

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My prayers will be with you. I agree with all the advice you've been given. Find a local support group. Nothing helps more than someone to talk to face to face. Know that we are all thinking of you.

[laura44]

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Praying for a fast and complete recovery. Lots of understanding friends here.
Quilting can do wonders.

[rebeccas-sewing]

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It's hard to imagine how a spouse of eighteen years could just walk away. I guess he hasn't given a single thought to what it would be like for him when he develops health problems. What happened to "in sickness and in health?" You've been given some very good advice from others. You should follow that advice. I'm sorry you're in this position. I can only imagine how you are feeling right now.

[Granny Judy]

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It's a horrible path you've been given.. And I will support you all along the way.
Am going thru this with my youngest DD.. she is clear and past the chemo, surgery & Physical therapy. It's been a change of life for us all.

Don't give up on the Husband... He may just need the time to accept and come to terms with it all. How he handled other bad situations should give you an idea of how he is handling this.