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    Not Leaving
    Just taking a break. The fact is, I love MSQC. I love the company, the employees, the family and Hamilton. I love their products, and their stores. I support them in everything they do. I don't do this blindly either. I know them. I have sat and had meals with them and conversed like old friends would do. It truly bothers me that are so many people on here now, that are so negative to the forum members, and to the company, that provides this free forum for their supporters. So yeah, when people post things complaining about them, I take offense, and get defensive, the same way I would if someone was picking on one of my grand kids. I don't understand why anyone would want to be a part of 'their' forum if you are only going to complain about them. Griping about the cost of their fabric, their precuts, their everything. Complaining about shipping, them not answering your phone calls right away, customer service, emails that weren't answered an hour after you sent them. Seriously, why are these people even here? This is 'their' forum, for there customers. Then you have the ones that generally have nothing nice to hardly ever say, and seem to look for reasons to target people because, God only knows why. I have to think, they are just unhappy in their personal life, and their personal situation. Then the other unwitting followers, follow suit for what ever reason. It has nothing to do with 'old timers' picking on 'newbies'. It actually seems to be the other way around. We have lost so many wonderful members because of this kind of nonsense. Look at the 2014 retreat group and see how many, that were such a big part of the forum are no longer here. It really is heartbreaking. And the simple reason is, that they too were tired of the negative turn that this once friendly, supportive group used to be. Look at the number of post in a day now, and the number of responses....those numbers speak for themselves comparatively to what they once were.
    Granted, I have had my 'moments'. But in my defense, it has always been in defense of something or someone that I felt was wronged. So really, IMO, if you can't support their business, buy from them, be supportive of this forum then you should find someplace else to complain about them, and the members that love them.
    I have 2 charitable groups in this forum, and they will continue. I won't give up my my mission, because of a few, out of touch people.
    I have many friends here. You know real ones, not just ones I have talked to here....the kind that I have shared meals with, been in their homes, laughed with, cried with and had genuine hugs from. So I am not leaving....just giving myself a break from the dramafest that some members seem to create.
    Love to my dear friends...in the words of Arnold " I'll be back"
    Blankets wrap you in warmth, quilts wrap you in love

    Marilyn......
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    Don't make it too long before you come back though. I too love this forum. I can't afford to buy my fabric from MSC because I live on the other side of the world and that makes the shipping prohibitively expensive but I stumbled across this forum in 2014 (I think) when I started my quilting journey. I check in here most days, even when I was in hospital recently because I enjoy the company of the like minded people on here. I have also received so many kind wishes recently from people I have never met but "talk" to frequently. It can be a great place to spend time.

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      #3
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      I understand, Marilyn....I have somewhat felt the same way for a little over a year now. I don't post like I used to; and having met you and a few others that first Fall Festival in 2013? I will always admire your quilter's knowledge and passion!

      And, I will be accountable to state....I apologize to anyone if I have ever offended or seemed negative...it was not my intent.

      Don't stay away too long and drop a private note every once in a while! Quilty hugs to you and I sent you my number, Ms. Marilyn!
      Sherri

      "Don't let someone else's ugly spoil your beautiful. " Thanks, Bubby!!!!!!

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        #4
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        My personal motto is "IF YOU HAVEN'T GOT ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, THEN DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL"

        Take a well deserved break and we will see you back here soon, because you will miss me too much. LOL!!!!!

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        Blessed are the children of the piecemakers for they shall inherit the quilts!

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          #5
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          We will really miss you, Marilyn. I understand how you feel, Marilyn. Keep in touch....my info is in my User Notes. Hugs....
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          Scottie Mom Barb

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            #6
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            I agree with Monique 100% If you can't say something nice or helpful STFU! Plain English. Marilyn we love you and will be missed . Don't stay away too long. I also used to post much much more , but it is not the same place I first found a few years ago. Some people are down right nasty . I work retail so I see this first hand every day. It leaves me shaking my head in wonder what happened. I have never met any of you in person, but still feel I know a lot of you have shared your joys and sorrows and cyber hugs and high 5's. I belong to several groups here and will continue with helping Marilyn's groups as long as I can (hopefully a very long time). I do not participate in many groups anymore because of lack of support and follow through on some. But I have done a few swaps lately that were run perfect I thank you for those and hope more open I can join.
            sigpic:icon_hug: Iris Girl = April = fabric, Fabric FABRIC!!
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            Sigmund Freud

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              #7
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              I get it

              I have not been on the forum as much, mostly because I'm getting my life back in order (no need to explain, most of you know why).
              However, I, too, have noticed some very snippy posts lately. I really don't tend to jump into the fray, but I do read the posts.
              I do remember working in retail years ago, and it's true what they say - you can give great customer service (repeatedly), and the customer might tell 1 person. If you slack/make an error/don't get it right/etc., the customer will tell 10 people. Let's be careful choosing which bandwagon to jump on. Take a deep breath. Walk away from your post before you hit 'post'. Think about the impact of your words. Is it constructive criticism? Or just a hurtful rant... anyway... jumping off of my own soapbox now.

              Marilyn - don't stay away too long

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                #8
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                I completely understand why you need to step away. It's OK for a while but please don't make it too long. See you next month.

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                  #9
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                  I'm sorry to hear this. Although we may not always agree, I do try to be respectful and kind to all members. I have noticed a lack of posting here, but I normally only hang out in this portion of the forum because I have nothing of value really to add anywhere else right now. I know I would have been lost without this forum over the past year to help me overcome the pain of my divorce. I hope you won't stay away long as I will miss your support and encouragement going forward. (((HUGS)))

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                    #10
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                    Sometimes we all need to take a break from our 'family' so keep working on your charitable groups as your aims are an inspiration to all of us.

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                      #11
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                      I'm sure you will be back, sometimes we just need a little rest from things :-) ((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))
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                      Women are Angels. When someone break's our wings we will continue to fly-usually on a broomstick.We're flexible like that.

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                        #12
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                        Seriously, why are these people even here?


                        Seriously, what right do you have to even ask that? And therein lies the problem. How completely condescending can you get

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                          #13
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                          Marilyn I completely hear you. I have backed off a lot in my postings in the past year not only because the tone of the forum has changed but also because it can consume so many hours in a day if you let it. As with all groups, dynamics change, the group gets larger, people move on etc etc so nothing ever remains the same nor would we want it to. There are still very many wonderful, giving and loving people on this forum that I am proud to call my friends. We met on this forum but we also have met face to face and enjoyed each others company and shared meals. This is a good spot for ideas, support and just plain fun. We care about one another even if it is in a virtual environment.

                          Discussion and debate is healthy but I'm not sure why people feel the need to snipe at each other if they don't agree and you are right, if people don't like M* (for whatever reason I can't imagine) just look and say nothing. There are lots of other places to purchase and no one forces you to come to this site. No one or no company is perfect so from time to time things will happen but it doesn't need to be dealt with in an open forum. M* always treats people fairly and they will make it right if you perceive you have been wronged in some way. Like I say to the kids when they just keep up the verbal jabs- "just zip it, I dont want to hear it anymore"

                          Posting that negative stuff offends people who are loyal and feeds into the negative attitudes of the bullies (hate to say that word in this context but it has been true). We are all adults and should try to ignore the negative. If it gets no response then people will move on but some people only feel happy when they can stir the pot and get something going. Personally, I will drive 50 miles out of my way to avoid a conflict or confrontation, its not in my nature and it is very upsetting to me and I hate the feeling even when others fight. I have my own feelings about things but do not expect that others must share them, if we disagree that's fine, we carry on.

                          Don't stay away too long Marilyn. We'll miss your contributions and expertise.
                          Grandma Nan

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                          Nancy

                          "Some of the best memories are created in flip flops"

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                            #14
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                            I feel your frustration and respect your decision, however, as a relative new comer who feels like she has been embraced by the forum, I must say I will miss you and your wisdom. The positive feedback and encouragement that I have received from what I perceive to be "the regulars" has been so valuable in my efforts to plod on. You are among my regulars. I find that there are about a dozen "regulars" that seem to hold this forum together.
                            You are absolutely correct that MSQ deserves better than this. This is truly a wonderful outlet for us and we have so much to learn from it. It is easy to access and it seems to me that they listen to our desires and try to provide for them. They have a tech person that keeps us private and safe without slamming us with unwanted spam. What more could we ask for.
                            They provide us with unlimited access to fabulous product and even give us sales.
                            Please remain with us as a regular. We do need you. And, as a side note, as soon as my Shriners Project is completed, I will try to help out with your charity.
                            Walk in peace with the Lord by your side.
                            Terry

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                              #15
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                              I agree with you Marilyn. I love this site, love the Doan family, love the fabric I
                              buy. Too bad one or two members always stir the pot.
                              I have disagreed with posts in the past and I just let them pass by. Life is too
                              short for me to be worried about stupid stuff. My friends husband has brain cancer,
                              that is what I worry about. This is a FREE QUILT forum, we all need to remember that.

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