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    BobW
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    Thank every one for the beautiful comments. I still don't know why this bothered me so very much, I had never met my friends SIL, but I think time makes things easier to handle and accept. I understand there are people who would miss me, but I think the thing that got me was that he had a young child who needs him, and I don't. Someone told me that I'm reacting based on emotions of my own health and situation.

    Again, thanks to everyone for allowing me to vent and wallow in my emotions.

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  • MRoy
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    Bob, first of all you would be missed greatly here if something happened to you. Six years ago, DH's twin brother collapsed at church and died within 3 hours. He was 54 years old and there was no warning or sign of a problem beforehand. I think a part of my DH died that day too. God's plan is not always for us to understand, but it's so sad when that plan involves the death of a young person.

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  • IBake
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    20 years ago my hubby has his first heart attack-and only one so far. He was running 35-40 miles a day, his bp was fine, so was cholesterol....the cardiologist said that he just had bad family genes....he is still with us, and for that I give thanks as he helps me so much since my back surgeries.... I tell him he is still here for all of the scouts that he supports and represents and counsels. Craig is a 57 year active Boy Scout...and will go down with his Scout uniform on I am sure.

    For each of us a time and for every time a season.....I just continue to offer thanks for those we have with us. Craig's GM said that God never intended you to bury your children. She buried three of her 4 until she passed at 102.5 yrs.

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  • alliek
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    It is so tragic when this happens Bob. Each life is so precious and can contribute something, even if it is a good thought about someone, or a prayer or a smile. So when we lose someone that it seems there is no explanation for we feel helpless and a little guilty I think. Life can be so paradoxical and tragic, but is also can be joyous and fulfilling. All we can do is put one foot in front of the other each day and hold us all in hope and joyful expectation of the next day. Be Well, Stay Well.

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  • Bubby
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    Some things are not to be understood and are best left in God's hands. I am the sole survivor of my entire family (other than my daughter and her two kids). I have often wondered why me. Bob, you would be seriously missed if you weren't here. It's amazing how woven together we are as people even though most of us have not physically met each other. Know you that hold a special place in our hearts.

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  • rebeccas-sewing
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    I think it's a question we all ask when this type of tragedy happens. I try not to dwell on these things because there is so much in life that can't be explained. All we can do is be thankful for every day we have and sympathize with those who aren't as fortunate.

    It makes me sad to think you feel that no one would miss you. Considering what I know of you from reading your posts here on the Forum, I'm sure you would be missed, Bob.

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  • CarolynK
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    I have wondered that too, Bob and don't have an answer, but I do think you would be missed terribly.

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  • sidesaddles
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    We may never know who we touch in our lives.

    Twelve years ago my husband had a heart attack and his doctor told him "God has something special for you to do that you have not done yet. There is no way you should have made it."

    Four years later our oldest grand-daughter had premature twins at age 15. We almost lost all three. My husband asked that very question, "Why them? Why not me? She has her whole life to live, I have already lived."

    Let me tell you,those girls are Papa"s. If they have a broken toy, its Papa who can fix it. They won"t even let us try. They live in our rental house two blocks away and they will run all the way to have him fix it or show them how. When he is feeling bad they wait on him hand and foot. There is such a bond between them.

    All my family say "They are the reason he is still here. God knew they needed his guiding hand."
    We just never know. There is a reason and someone still needs you.

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  • Amy R
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    I've also wondered why young people are taken too early (in our eyes). Babies, children, young adults. Whatever the answer is it's never easy and crushing devastation to the survivors.
    Your life isn't any less valued though, you've brought joy to many people, especially Inez and your group of friends. I am just getting to know you, and quite enjoy your posts. Your personality comes through. I know you're feeling down and when we hear of such things we wonder why not me?
    Chipper up new friend, you still have life left here.

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  • Blondie
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    (((((BOB))))) no words, just hugs, honey

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  • Suzette
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    I have pondered this myself over the years and of course, there is no answer to this question, at least none of us have it. But it is a good reminder that life is uncertain and we should enjoy every day that have here on this earth. Hugs!

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  • toggpine
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    Deep thoughts. It doesn't always make sense.

    I bet Inez is glad you survived, and we would be less for not having met you.

    Since we do not know the number of our days, it is a good reminder to make the best of the one we were given today.

    May peace settle over you and the family of your friend. It is a hard loss, and not an easy one to accept.

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  • MayinJerset
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    So sad when children die before their parents. Last year DS#1's wife passed at age 56 and her mother and I wondered why we're both here and not her. I've lost 2 younger brothers to heart attacks and 3rd brother had a silent heart attack like you did. He's doing well because unlike the other 2 he followed doctor's orders. All I can say we need to celebrate our time with our families and friends and do as much good as we can. I think all of us here accomplish that through our quilts so maybe that's our mission in life. Bob, I know we all cherish counting you among our friends and am glad you are here with us.

    Saying a prayer for your friend's daughter and grandchild - especially sad at this time of the year when we're thinking of sharing time and gifts with our families and knowing their holidays are marred forever with that young man's death.

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  • Midge
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    Bob, there can never be too many kind hearted people like you here on Earth. We can only hope there is peace ahead for all who are grieving, today and every day.

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  • SallyO'Sews
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    Bob, the short answer is, I have no idea. I survived colorectal cancer several years ago. How come I survived and so many do not? I have no idea.

    BUT... I do believe there IS an answer, that God has you and me here for a reason. I'm okay with not knowing the reason, but I am convinced that it's important that as long as I am here, I choose to be grateful.

    Count me among those who would miss you if you were not here, my friend. And I'm so sorry for your friend's loss.

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