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    Having a Rough Time of It

    Ever since I kicked my niece and her POS boyfriend out of my extra house, I have been inundated today with the most terrible text messages from her. I have told her that her and her boyfriend are not welcome back down her and that if either of them show up I will have the arrested for trespassing. I am going to pack up her things next week, she is threatening me with the police if something comes up missing. Once this over I will have only one sister and one niece and two great-nieces and one great-nephew left. Since I have lost most of my family, I think I just may move out the state and try to find some peace somewhere because apparently no one wants me around here.
    "Our Lord has written the promise of resurrection, not in books alone, but in every leaf in springtime." Martin Luther (founder of the Lutheran Church)


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    Re: Having a Rough Time of It

    Rhonda, sweet woman, stop and breathe. Remember, you don't really want to make any hasty, or rash decissions while you are feeling angry or hurt. Would it be possible or desireable to have your niece's mother come help you pack up all their stuff? Intentionally having a witness there could protect you from false acusations. Maybe she is mad too, but I would try to get someone both you and your niece trust to help you with that job. Hugs for you dear, and good luck! Sheri
    sigpicMiss Sheri

    For me, it's all about Love, . . . Always!

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      #3
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      I don't trust her mother any more than I do her when it comes to my mother's belongings
      "Our Lord has written the promise of resurrection, not in books alone, but in every leaf in springtime." Martin Luther (founder of the Lutheran Church)

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        #4
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        (((Rhonda))) I don't have any of my childhood family left. My aunt passed in 2010 and that was it. I have my two dd's left and my two stepkids and their kids I don't want to get into my story but I have to tell you that even though it's a family member you don't have to be friends with them. My youngest dd is turning into a mean person. I refuse to think I had anything to do with it. She is just taking sides. She flip flops. maybe when I'm eighty she will come to my bedside. lol

        Do what's best for your situation and forget she is a family member. Your not forced to get along because of blood. I'm tired of trying so hard that I could go without speaking for awhile. At least until she stops being so selfish.
        🌺 Lorie

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          #5
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          Hey... you will still have more family than some people have. You gotta look at that glass half full. Better to have a few good family than a ton of bad ones.

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            #6
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            I 'm so sorry you have had such troubles.... But, you do have family there, and I know they would miss you, if you moved away. In any case, don't make any rash decisions while you are so upset. ((((((((Hugs))))))))


            Sandy from Cincinnati


            AKA Kermit

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              #7
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              Ya gotta quit worrying about all of it. It is what it is...pack up their stuff...and be done with it. They can only get to you if you let them. Ya gotta consider the source and let it go. Dwelling on all of it isn't going to help. You know I am here for you if you need me.
              Blankets wrap you in warmth, quilts wrap you in love

              Marilyn......
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                #8
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                Turn off your phone. You have done what you needed to do, and it took courage. You can be proud of that.
                Courtesy is not optional.

                http://theeclecticabuela.blogspot.com

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                  #9
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                  Rhonda, family can be the best thing ever or the worst thing ever. Believe in yourself and the stand you took for yourself and the ones you hold dear. Maybe someday she will grow up and recognize what the situation truly was...or she won't, and that shouldn't change your own resolve to do the right thing.
                  Quilts may come, and quilts may go, but the stitches stay the same.:icon_hi:

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                    #10
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                    You know you can pick you nose, you can pick your friends, but to some extent you are stuck with your family. That's not to say you have to let them run over you. I have 8 neighbors that I'm closer to than anyone in my family at this time in my life. If I needed anything my neighbors are the ones that are there for me, to the extent that if I go to the hospital one of the neighbors takes me. If there are people in your family that are causing you so much grief, then you should cut them loose and move on. I'm not saying it will be easy, but sometimes the best way is to just make a clean break. I don't think you have to move to another state, unless you really want to move, but don't let them control your life or cause you stress and upset. Life is too short to be upset all the time.

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                      #11
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                      Listen to your quilting friends, Rhonda. What they say makes good sense. I would not subject myself to this kid's abuse. I wouldn't even listen to her texts. She should be so ashamed of herself for the way she's behaving. You need to look at the loss of family ties as their loss not yours. I certainly understand why you would like to pick up and leave. That's a normal reaction to the kind of drama you've been dealing with. I hope things settle down. Sure would be ashame for them to have such an affect on you for you to move out of town because of them. I wouldn't give them that kind of power. Sometimes blood isn't thicker than water. Sounds like the case here.
                      Goodbye Europe! Hello California! Home sweet home.

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                        #12
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                        I totally agree with Rebecca. You've done the right thing even if it's causing you upset right now. It will blow over and settle down and then you'll be glad and life will be more peaceful for you. Remember you were at the end of your tether with these two, so things can only get better.

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                          #13
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                          I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! I know things look dark and depressing right now, but clearly you have lots of folks that love and care about you - that is such a gift!! And we all support you and your decisions, so you know you have tons of moral support right here!!

                          This is an ugly time for you but it WILL pass. Let that be your mantra "this too shall pass" and I believe that (and all the love and support your are getting here and from others in your life) will get you through this stronger than you went into it. Hugs!!!!!
                          Courage is being scared to death, and saddling up anyway. ~John Wayne

                          Quilting is my passion . . . chocolate is a close second!

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                            #14
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                            Rhonda, I can understand how you feel, but just do what you have to do and give yourself some time to get past this. Your feelings are still raw, understandably. Take a deep breath and try to avoid acting too hastily, that often makes things worse.


                            (((HUGS)))
                            Donna

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                              #15
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                              With Marilyn in your corner you can handle it. Plus you can vent here any time you want.
                              Vonnie

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