I had a fruitful morning

[Hulamoon]

I got a mammogram at eight picked up some divorce papers and was home by nine.

Any advice is welcome

[Kgrammiecaz]

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Divorce... for me was good, and crappy all at the same time. I did not agree with wanting a divorce but knew it was the best for all, especially my girls who were young at the time. (my ex was an abusive alcoholic)

So the day I left the courtroom, I got in the car and put my music up loud, and the song that came on was "Its my Turn" how appropriate is that.

So go for it - put on some awesome music, and make it an "all about you day" - you deserve it!!!

[HandsOffItsMine]

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(((Lorie))),

Congrats on having the TaTas checked, I'm proud of you! Got to take care of the girls, prevention/early detection is important!

Divorce...hard on whether you wanted it or not. Got to love yourself, take care of yourself. I agree, put on some Motown and get a Margarita and dance away.

Know that we're here for you. You're mood will be up and down I'm sure, that's only to be expected.

Huggers, Ruby

[ilive2craft2]

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Well, that is quite the combination of errands today. Glad you are taking care of yourself.

Even if you are the one wanting/initiating the divorce, please remember that it is kind of like the death of a family member, so allow yourself time to grieve. All those hopes and dreams and plans that will no longer happen need to be acknowledged. My brothers both got divorced the same year-- they were the ones who initiated and they were both surprised at how painful of a process it was. It was the right thing for them both. Hugs, Lisa

[Hulamoon]

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Thanks I really didn't want to bring it up because of Sandy's awful problems. She does know I have one but not how bad it has gotten. I'm not abused maybe verbally and mostly non verbally. 31 yrs. My kids are taking sides. He moved himself out into a tent on the back property (two acres) and now everyone is feeling sorry for him. He put in cable, water, electric, all from the house.
He had a grand plan.This is instead of talking.

I didn't tell him to get out and I actually thought he was doing it for a tv room to watch football. I haven't had sex in 10 years.

I need to move on.

[Divine Daisy]

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That was a big day before 9am!

Good for you re the mammogram. You know the saying..........don't be a boobie, get a mammogram.

As for the divorce. It is always sad, it always hurts no matter the reasons for it. Take each day at a time, protect your interests and the future will come. Try always to look forward whilst not forgetting the past.

Big hugs

[Bubby]

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Divorce is difficult regardless of the situation. My best wishes and prayers are with you, Lorie. I'm glad you got your mammogram. Hugs, Barb

[HandsOffItsMine]

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Lori, was listening to some Motown tunes as a friend on FB started with Curtis Mayfield with a link to YouTube. Hit this link with Gloria Gaynor's hit - I Will Survive! Appropriate for so many of us here on The Forum with what we're all going through now and in this last year.

Gloria Gaynor - I Will Survive (1979) HQ 0815007 - YouTube

[pcbatiks]

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Thinking about you Lorie........this must be difficult no matter what. Praying for you......for many brighter days ahead.

[Hulamoon]

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I'm doing good I told my dd that stopped by today (she's 24) She just asked well what are you going to do? If I don't do something I'm going to be in this time warp forever.

I bought every thing in this house Never got credit for that.I'm going to sell some stuff off slowly. That should keep me busy. lol

[Sharyn J]

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Thinking of you and offering support. Divorce is a sad and nasty business and it's unfortunate that it happens to good people. I've been divorced for 32 happy years. Yes, I said happy. It hasn't been without ups and downs, but better that we each have our own lives. My DH came home one morning around 30 a.m. When I asked why he was so late, he blurted out that he was in love and wanted to get married! Of course, my reply was: You're already in love and you're already married! Three months later, we were divorced and he remarried the day after our divorce.............go figure. Be thankful that your kids are already grown. It's time for you now. Things will get better.

[Leah53]

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I bought every thing in this house Never got credit for that.I'm going to sell some stuff off slowly. That should keep me busy. lol

Set up a HUGE yard sale right in front of his tent and if someone wants to buy the tent, sell that too.

[auntiemern]

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Congrats on getting the mammogram. It sounds to me like you are in a lot of pain. Understandably so. Thirty one years of your life, is not easy to walk away from...but sometimes it needs to be done. If it has been 10 yrs since you have been intimate, your problems have been going on for a long time. Some times there comes a time in our lives, that we have to live for ourselves. I think that time for you, came a long time ago. I imagine it isn't easy having your kids choose sides, but believe me when I say...the truth in all things will eventually open their eyes. You can't let their feelings dictate to you any longer either. After years of emotional and psychological abuse, it takes a lot to stand up for yourself. For that I am proud of you. I'm not saying it will be an easy road, but it is one that you need to take. Stand up for yourself, take control of 'your' home and life...and get on with the business of living. You will be surprised how much better you feel without that weight holding you down. I will have you in my prayers hun.

[buckeyequilter]

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Good luck to you. Sell his stuff first.

I don't regret getting divorced at all, he was an abuser (mostly verbal and emotional). It took me years to take that first step...but once I did, I didn't look back.

[Hulamoon]

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Set up a HUGE yard sale right in front of his tent and if someone wants to buy the tent, sell that too.

lol it's too far back to set up tables .

Sharyn. I'm very thankful my kids don't have to get dragged into this. The weird thing is that one time my youngest said I don't ever want be with someone that talks to me like dad talks to you. She forgets she said that. If I remind her she said it she say's I never said that.

I really don't get her.