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    I am to the point that I won't do anything for "someone" in family. After helping them out with a fully furnished place to stay for $350 a month (trash, internet, Dish, water, electric included), my DH called them tonight at 9:15 to see if one of them would run him up to the bowling alley so he could drive me home because I had such a bad migraine (I still have it and all that goes with it). I was dizzy and nauseated, my eyesight was blurry and other things and the answer he got was "No, we are in bed". They live 20 feet behind us and the bowling alley is less than 5 minutes away. (All of this after my husband or I would get up at 7 am every morning to take her to work). Her useless boyfriend doesn't work so there was no reason he couldn't have run my hubby up there.

    No matter what we have done they don't appreciate it.

    Just very hurt right now.
    "Our Lord has written the promise of resurrection, not in books alone, but in every leaf in springtime." Martin Luther (founder of the Lutheran Church)


    #2
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    You know where I stand on this. The minute she moved him in there with out permission, they would have been given a time line in which to move out. You don't need that, and all the BS that comes with it. I don't like what they are doing but I have no recourse in this as it is your house. Kick em out....been telling you that for weeks. If it were my house, they would have been gone months ago. JS
    Blankets wrap you in warmth, quilts wrap you in love

    Marilyn......
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      #3
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      I'm also to that point, but you know how her mother would be. Regardless of what they do, Fred and I will be the bad guy in all of it.
      "Our Lord has written the promise of resurrection, not in books alone, but in every leaf in springtime." Martin Luther (founder of the Lutheran Church)

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        #4
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        I have no problem being the bad guy in my family. I do the right thing, what is best for all as much as I can. That does not mean I am always right, I make mistakes. You have to look at it that you are enabling them and the only way they will learn lifes leasons is the hard way. For some it is the only way.
        Karen
        Life is short - Live everyday to the fullest

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          #5
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          I think it used to be called "Tough Love".

          My family is going through this with a daughter (niece/cousin to me), and a good friend had it happen with her sister. At some point you have to do what is best for you and your immediate family. From the sounds of things from past posts about this situation, it is beyond time for them to experience the "real world", as harsh as that may sound.
          If her mother is so concerned, perhaps that could be their next flop location?

          I hope you can come to a good place with this.
          Be who you are and say what you feel
          because those who mind don't matter,
          and those who matter don't mind. - Dr. Seuss

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            #6
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            i have also had bad situations with family. you need to do what is right for you not what other people would consider nice.there are givers and takers in this world and it sounds like you are being taken. my brother lived with me on several occ. he had a drug problem so it was always with the terms that if he slipped up he had to go and i did throw him out but always told him when he wanted real help meaning rehab i would be there to help and he learned to expect to lose his home whenever he messed up.some times it's the only way people learn. i think this was called school of hard knocks. good luck.
            :icon_wave:Joan

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              #7
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              {{{{HUGS RHONDA}}}}

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                #8
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                A lot of inconsiderate, unappreciative, lazy people nowadays! They're just everywhere.
                Sharon

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                  #9
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                  They say, you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family...I think this is total crap! Family should NOT treat each other like that. Take control and kick their a$$es out on the street. They will never appreciate what you did for them and won't understand why you kicked them out, but you'll feel better so who cares!? And who cares what others think! If they're okay seeing you treated like that then who needs 'em? People treat you how you LET them treat you. And as Oprah says, if someone shows you who they are, you should believe them!

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                    #10
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                    ((((HUGS))))) btw...I know that hurt you are feeling and it sucks.

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                      #11
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                      Don't let yourself be a doormat. Don't let yourself be manipulated by other family members. There comes a point when you have to cut all the riff-raff and negativity out of your life, and if that includes certain family members, then so be it. In the long run, you will be happier and much more at peace.

                      Friends are the family we get to actually choose.

                      I guess what I'm trying to say is, just because we share DNA doesn't mean we have to eat poo. If a friend kept treating you this way, you wouldn't be friends much longer, would you?
                      Last edited by Peggi; March 28, 2014, 11:22 AM.

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                        #12
                        Re: Hurt

                        Ya know theres got to come a time when you take care of YOU!!! Im so sick of this kind of crap! I too feel your pain,my youngest son married a young lady whos mothers HATES him blah blah blah anyway when my husband and I try to "help" him we get attacked cussed at and it gets ugly real quick! Now this child has gone back to Kansas an is staying with his oldest brother,his new wife got discharged from the marines so shes there now as well. As if thats not enough for my oldest son and his wife to handle they go out and BUY a puppy! All the while owing his brother in excess of 600$ I told my son "KICK THEM OUT"!!!! Blood or not at the end of the day ya gotta take care of you and to H#@@ with the rest of the snot faced brats who think the world owes them something.
                        Good luck ((((hugs))))))

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                          #13
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                          I have one thing to say about it. Don't allow yourself to be a doormat. I've learned the hard way that some people will take advantage of you the minute you try to do something nice for them. The boyfriend sounds like a total loser. Stand your ground. Why are you worried about being the bad guy? Doesn't sound like these folks are the kind of individuals you should worry about in terms of what they think of you. I wouldn't let this lie. I'd be having words with my daughter regarding this incident.
                          Goodbye Europe! Hello California! Home sweet home.

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                            #14
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                            Now it does sound like YOU need a hug and some prayers to make a good decision about these "people"; one that is best for you and your DH. Sounds like they will continue to take advantage and not appreciate anything that you do for them----and whatever you decide, do not let them or anyone else make you feel guilty. You really do need to take care of yourself and your DH. Sounds like it time for those two to grow up and take some responsibility for themselves.
                            Last edited by Lindagie; March 28, 2014, 12:10 PM.
                            :icon_wave: Linda
                            "Home is where they love you"

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                              #15
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                              Take 'em to court: Judge Judy

                              I'd let Judy handle them . . . she'll certainly give them whatfor!
                              Sometimes, when there's a raging fire,
                              it's best not to try to put it out with gasoline.

                              "...pal carajo con la negatividad..."

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