Okay, I need some advice. I am in a big fight with my BFF right now. She is the gal that just lost her SIL and then had a new great niece born two days later.
My BFF doesn't have children.....She was present at the first great-nephew's birth.( This niece is the great-nephew's mom and the mom of the new baby )
My BFF's dad ( 83 yrs old ) has been Dx'ed with cancer....and my BFF has got it in her head that "Daddy" can't be left alone. So, when the baby was born ( 2 days after the SIL's death....) BFF wasn't there to witness the blessed event like she was with the niece's first baby ( who is 10 yrs old now )
This couple who had the baby doesn't have much....( the dad is worthless....he doesn't work, etc. has other kids he doesn't support etc. You get the picture )
When I called the new mom, I congratulated her, and we chatted about the baby for a little bit....and she made mention that she was going home the next day and didn't have anything to take the baby home in. So, I told her I had a couple of outfits for the baby, and if she wanted me to I would bring them up to her.
Now....here's the thing my BFF ( of 44 yrs ) is pissed at......I took the outfits up to the hospital, and thought that they volunteers could take it up to her. There was only ONE volunteer at the desk, and she said she was the only one there until later on, and she didn't see the big deal WHY I couldn't just take the gift up to the new mom..( she looked at me like I was nuts )
This is when all hell broke loose.....I took a gift up when I shouldn't have??? ( how crazy is this ?? ) .....I did see the baby, BUT I didn't touch it.....
Now, my BFF has discussed this with her entire family, who said I was in the wrong....that the parents usually purchase something for the baby to go home in. But...the new mom said she had nothing for the baby.....and now, because the BFF is so mad, the niece LIED and told her aunt that she told me that they HAD something for the baby to come home in...NOW Come on, had she told me that, I probably wouldn't have even thought to tell her I would bring the outfit up to the hospital. I didn't tell the niece I would "see" her...as I thought I could just take the outfit to the front desk and leave it there.....the niece LIED....and I am paying the price for this.
Here's another thing....I have 4 kids. My DH Terry had a seizure disorder and couldn't drive....Because we didn't know what the babies were in the 70's I usually took the kids home in something someone brought up to me,. Not only that, but I chose an outfit from the things my friends and family brought even when our first son was born...
Don't most people still take gifts up to a new mom ?
IF I am really wrong here....how do I fix this ? I have apologized...over and over....and I am getting no where.
This is a mess.....I would appreciate any comments......
Another thing, we share a phone contract together. This BFF is into for Thousands of dollars ( she has borrowed over the years...and I have just let it slide )
I would appreciate any comments .....thanks!
My BFF doesn't have children.....She was present at the first great-nephew's birth.( This niece is the great-nephew's mom and the mom of the new baby )
My BFF's dad ( 83 yrs old ) has been Dx'ed with cancer....and my BFF has got it in her head that "Daddy" can't be left alone. So, when the baby was born ( 2 days after the SIL's death....) BFF wasn't there to witness the blessed event like she was with the niece's first baby ( who is 10 yrs old now )
This couple who had the baby doesn't have much....( the dad is worthless....he doesn't work, etc. has other kids he doesn't support etc. You get the picture )
When I called the new mom, I congratulated her, and we chatted about the baby for a little bit....and she made mention that she was going home the next day and didn't have anything to take the baby home in. So, I told her I had a couple of outfits for the baby, and if she wanted me to I would bring them up to her.
Now....here's the thing my BFF ( of 44 yrs ) is pissed at......I took the outfits up to the hospital, and thought that they volunteers could take it up to her. There was only ONE volunteer at the desk, and she said she was the only one there until later on, and she didn't see the big deal WHY I couldn't just take the gift up to the new mom..( she looked at me like I was nuts )
This is when all hell broke loose.....I took a gift up when I shouldn't have??? ( how crazy is this ?? ) .....I did see the baby, BUT I didn't touch it.....
Now, my BFF has discussed this with her entire family, who said I was in the wrong....that the parents usually purchase something for the baby to go home in. But...the new mom said she had nothing for the baby.....and now, because the BFF is so mad, the niece LIED and told her aunt that she told me that they HAD something for the baby to come home in...NOW Come on, had she told me that, I probably wouldn't have even thought to tell her I would bring the outfit up to the hospital. I didn't tell the niece I would "see" her...as I thought I could just take the outfit to the front desk and leave it there.....the niece LIED....and I am paying the price for this.
Here's another thing....I have 4 kids. My DH Terry had a seizure disorder and couldn't drive....Because we didn't know what the babies were in the 70's I usually took the kids home in something someone brought up to me,. Not only that, but I chose an outfit from the things my friends and family brought even when our first son was born...
Don't most people still take gifts up to a new mom ?
IF I am really wrong here....how do I fix this ? I have apologized...over and over....and I am getting no where.
This is a mess.....I would appreciate any comments......
Another thing, we share a phone contract together. This BFF is into for Thousands of dollars ( she has borrowed over the years...and I have just let it slide )
I would appreciate any comments .....thanks!
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