So mad I could spit nails...

[kensington]

I am so hurt and angry. Insulted. UGH... My niece just had a baby girl three days ago. My MIL (Monster n Law) posted on face book today how happy she is this is her third great grand child, and first great grand daughter

I wanted to throw up... but now I want to go over there and beat her soundly about the head and shoulders for a good five minutes!! She has 3 great grandchildren? Um... We have 8 grandkids. And this is her first grand daughter? Really, 2 of our grandkids are girls.

She just posted as if they don't exist. We think it's because my husband adopted kids that were already mine when we got married before having more kids. So she doesn't see them as her grandkids or their kids as her greatgrand kids.

I find this to be horribly ironic considering that she was adopted by her dad herself. She can BITE ME.

I'M SO MAD!!

[Divine Daisy]

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oh love..........big hugs

We should form an in laws club ............. membership open to all who get hurt and have to bite their tongue with regards to in laws. Do you think your mother in law would like the cheese grater I got for Christmas? Or maybe you would like it, imagine what you could do to her with a cheese grater!

[bubba]

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I am sorry I can't join the club....mine are both no longer with us. Altho he was never bad, she was kinda knitpicky. Towards the end of her life when we were taking care of her, I finally came to learn she truly did care for me and for that I am glad.

[K. McEuen]

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Haha, Daisy has already heard about my monster in law, but I don't hold my tongue where that woman is concerned. She's rude and inconsiderate and the list goes on, so I see no reason to be nice to her.

You should unfriend her on Facebook.

[kensington]

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She isn't my friend on face book. My niece is. She posted the comment on my nieces page. Where our kids can see it. I didn't reply, But Martin did, reminding her that he has grandchildren too... and now the niece is telling him not to post on her page. Oh Well...

[MRoy]

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I'm sorry she's doing this to you all but....you can't fix stupid! My MIL didn't like me until she got dementia and forgot how she'd treated me. She loved our son, but was jealous of his children...her grandchildren. Go figure!

[Vonnie]

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One of my Aunts went through something similar. She told everyone she had 5 grandchildren. I caught her crying one time because she had butted heads with someone - I'm thinking Granny - who told her she only had two. Her daughter could not have children and adopted two little boys who were brothers. Her son had married a nice lady who had a son and he adopted him and they had two daughters. I don't understand people.

Ignore her.

[K. McEuen]

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She isn't my friend on face book. My niece is. She posted the comment on my nieces page. Where our kids can see it. I didn't reply, But Martin did, reminding her that he has grandchildren too... and now the niece is telling him not to post on her page. Oh Well...

Good grief, unfriend them all! How can they be such buttheads and Martin be related to them? Are you sure he wasn't adopted?

[ilive2craft2]

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Sorry you are having to deal with this - my family is the opposite, we count everyone, no matter how they got into the family. Some of the parents of the steps are really surprised that we treat them all the same - gifts at Christmas, etc. Had one tell us that we treated her son from a previous relationship better than the family of the biological dad. So sad, kids do not pick the situation and I can't stand to see a child feeling different or apart at family things.

[Monique]

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KARMA will come knocking some day.

[Kgrammiecaz]

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That is really crappy. When I was married I did not have the best motherinlaw so I just put her on the back burner and let my ex deal with her. While my girls knew she existed, I took no time out of our wonderful life to spend with her. I agree you cannot fix stupid.

Your family deserves better and trust me, the best way to annoy them is by ignoring them.

[Quiltfreestyle]

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I'm a grandmother to 4 & 3/4 (newest baby is due next month). 3 are by blood & 2 are by marriage. I love them all!!
I don't know how anyone can't love their kids, I just don't understand it...
I pity your MIL that her heart has so little love in it that she can't share it with ALL her grand kids.
It's really her loss.
Hang in there...

[Grandma G]

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I am sorry she has upset you. She is, as I like to say, not worth the powder to blow a hole through. She more than likely will never change and the loss is all on her part. Put it behind you, Kensie, and just continue to enjoy your DH and your kids. It is the very least you deserve. Take care.

[Meli]

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(hugs) My mom was kind of like that when DH and I got married. The boys were excited to have another set of grandparents and immediately started calling them grandma Jeannette and grandpa John. A few months in, mom called and told me to stop pushing the boys to call her that, because she wasn't and never would be. I let her know it was the boys' idea and that she should enjoy it because they were likely to be the only grandchildren she ever got! Did I mention my parents are kind of... odd? (HUGS) (MORE HUGS)

[Pamela R.]

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It's always painful when someone says/does something that you know will hurt your children or grandchildren. My ex MIL was horrid. I just remember thinking I will out live her. Morbid I know, but it got me through alot of years having to deal with her.