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Hulamoon
May 9th, 2018, 12:11 AM
I went to my little sundry store and while looking for my keys I looked over to a guy getting out of his car. Normal as usual. He walked around to the passenger side and opened the door for a lady. I sat there for a few minutes more and they came out with a small item and he walked her around and opened the door for her again. They weren't old or needed help if your wondering.

I wanted so badly to ask if something was wrong with the door? lol

When was the last time you saw a man open a door for a lady?

nativetexan
May 9th, 2018, 12:27 AM
not in a very long time. i do say Thankyou to anyone opening or holding open a door for me. A little manners go a long way in my book!

Angelia
May 9th, 2018, 12:48 AM
My husband does that for me. :)

I've got a bum hip, and when I am at work, students hold doors for me. I laughed last week when two young women swept open both sides of a double door for me--I felt like royalty!

JCY
May 9th, 2018, 12:49 AM
I've occasionally had someone hold the door open for me when I'm going in or out of Wendy's. I always say thank you.

GuitarGramma
May 9th, 2018, 02:10 AM
Isn't it a shame that these niceties are so rare now?

I've actually had the opposite happen to me. The clerk at a tire store wasn't thrilled with my questions, and as we walked outside to look at my car, he squeezed through the door and let it all but slam in my face. I actually had to hold back tears, it was so rude. At least he grew more polite when he saw the tears in my eyes.

quilt_gems_25
May 9th, 2018, 02:11 AM
I feel truly blessed each time my DH holds the door for me. It makes me feel special. Whoever holds a door for me, I let them know how appreciative I am of their gesture. Once I was told by a young man that he gets nervous opening doors for ladies now because many of them want to open the door for themselves.
Lately, at the grocery store asked by store employees if I would like someone to take my cart to my car. I wonder if it is the grey hairs that I have earned throughout life that allows me this honor?

chelea
May 9th, 2018, 03:08 AM
Hubs still opens the car door for me. We've been married for 38 years.

TMP
May 9th, 2018, 05:52 AM
My 5 year old grandson runs to open the door for me :) I commented to my DD and she said I am teaching him the way to treat a lady.

Star lover
May 9th, 2018, 06:51 AM
My son has been doing this for his wife (even when they dated) since day one......where that came from......no idea! DH has only done it when I had shoulder surgery years back. I think it's wonderful. And sometimes wonder if we, as woman who can do it all, put guys off, so they don't do stuff like this anymore.

CheyMom14
May 9th, 2018, 07:14 AM
First of all, my husband is great about things like opening a car (truck) door for me. He's a sweetheart about things like that. A couple of weeks ago I had to drop off two implement tires at our local coop for repair/replacement. Four worker guys stared at me while I finally unloaded them out of the back of our pickup and took them in myself. Not even an attempt out of any of them even after the first one. They weren't busy, just gossipy and worthless. I'm pretty independent and capable, but it really disgusted me. I made a point of thanking the employee for loading them for me when I picked the tires up.

Jean Sewing Machine
May 9th, 2018, 07:35 AM
I have a sweet gentleman friend who tries to be galant and do this for me. I've been on my own for so long, I forget to wait for him to do it! Poor guy! He can't make points if I won't go along with it!

JulieC
May 9th, 2018, 07:45 AM
There was an older gentleman last night who opened up the door to the pizza place for me and let me get my order first (he even had his grandson with him). Quite a few people at work were great about opening doors for me when I had the sprained knee. One of the guys picked my keys up for me when I dropped them. I haven't seen any gentlemen open a car door for a lady in a long time, although my sisters and I always open and close Mom's car door for her on the rare occasions she leaves the house. Actually, we open all doors for her...she's 88 and uses a walker.

Carlie Wolf
May 9th, 2018, 08:49 AM
Men around here seem very thoughtful toward older women here, it's been very apparent to me since I moved here. (Ironically not as respectful to their girlfriends or wives). Where I formerly lived I did have a very well dressed women go through a door just ahead of me, she looked at me, made eye contact and let the door shut in my face with a very smug attitude. Guess who was just behind me when I went to to leave the store. Yup, Yup. And guess what I did :-)

Sandy Navas
May 9th, 2018, 09:00 AM
There was an older gentleman last night who opened up the door to the pizza place for me and let me get my order first (he even had his grandson with him). Quite a few people at work were great about opening doors for me when I had the sprained knee. One of the guys picked my keys up for me when I dropped them. I haven't seen any gentlemen open a car door for a lady in a long time, although my sisters and I always open and close Mom's car door for her on the rare occasions she leaves the house. Actually, we open all doors for her...she's 88 and uses a walker.

Julie, I have to laugh at your last sentence. Al and I were having lunch and I watched this woman open a door and stand there waiting for a woman with a walker. Just as the woman with the walker started through, the first woman rushed to open an adjacent door and the first door started to close on the woman with the walker, almost knocking her to the ground. And NO, it wasn't funny at all.

Sandy Navas
May 9th, 2018, 09:03 AM
Men around here seem very thoughtful toward older women here, it's been very apparent to me since I moved here. (Ironically not as respectful to their girlfriends or wives). Where I formerly lived I did have a very well dressed women go through a door just ahead of me, she looked at me, made eye contact and let the door shut in my face with a very smug attitude. Guess who was just behind me when I went to to leave the store. Yup, Yup. And guess what I did :-)

Oh, I love it when I stand and hold a door open for someone and they walk through like royalty without a word. I yell at them, "You are WELCOME, Witch."
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okay, I probably don't call them a witch . . .

KPH
May 9th, 2018, 09:13 AM
My oldest son will open the door for me when I'm riding in the van... childproof door locks- hehe, I can't get out!

tsladaritz
May 9th, 2018, 09:19 AM
My husband does this every time we go out. He trained my boys to do this also.

tsladaritz
May 9th, 2018, 09:23 AM
Oh, I love it when I stand and hold a door open for someone and they walk through like royalty without a word. I yell at them, "You are WELCOME, Witch."
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okay, I probably don't call them a witch . . .

Oh my. I do try to always thank anyone who holds doors open for me. I also will hold it for the next person to catch if they were a few steps behind and I just realized. But opening doors for others was pretty common where we lived before- Texas. Here I am not out as much and have not paid attention if it is done less.
When I took my mother and grandmother out I tried to be mindful and get doors ...and not let them close on them. lOL

cv quilter
May 9th, 2018, 10:40 AM
I'm blessed. Fred and I have been married 46 years in June and he still opens the doors for me (car, shopping, restaurants). We often open the doors for others and find that for the most part someone will hold the door open for us if we have packages in our arms.
Sandy, you made me laugh....there are times that I've held a door open for someone and they don't even acknowledge it...just walk on through and never even look at me. Irritating....

grammaterry
May 9th, 2018, 10:45 AM
Here in the southeast it is common practice to hold the door whether you are a man or a woman. Some of the move in's don't get it. That's when DH calls them YANKEES. Politeness should be universal.

LLLinda
May 9th, 2018, 10:58 AM
I am the same way. When you have kids and are used to doing all things yourself it just becomes the norm. My second DH used to fuss at me and told me to wait for him to do it. When boys and young men hold doors for me I always make sure to thank them and compliment them.

Carolnnc
May 9th, 2018, 11:55 AM
You see this quite a bit here in the south, especially if you drive by a church when people are arriving or leaving. There have been multiple times I've tried to hold the door of a business for a male anywhere between the ages of 10-99 & they will tell you, "no ma'am, my momma would kill me if I let you hold the door for me". I taught my sons to hold car doors & business doors for people in general. I think it helped them to be more mindful, helpful and kind.

quiltingaway
May 9th, 2018, 12:21 PM
This is a timely post. DH and I were just having a discussion about this. While he always holds doors for me he doesn't go around and open a car door and close it for me. I rarely see this anymore which is what brought up the conversation. I always hold doors for people if I notice them coming a few steps behind. I generally hold doors for anyone that needs assistance or if a group is all coming up to the door at the same time I will get it. Sometimes people will act surprised but that is just the way I was raised. I always thank anyone who holds the door for me.

Debbie Watters
May 9th, 2018, 12:24 PM
I am so lucky! My husband (50 years in October) insists on opening the doors for me. He is constantly telling me to "don't touch that handle!" I think we are both courteous to others ... it costs nothing and the act of being polite makes us feel good for having done a good deed! Sometimes just a smile and "Hi" can make someone's day!

Carlie Wolf
May 9th, 2018, 12:29 PM
Haha Sandy, good for you! I always hold a door open for the next person, male or female. When someone does it for me I always break out in a big smile and a few kind words. I also always smile at people in stores. It's amazing how many people don't make eye contact

jjkaiser
May 9th, 2018, 12:40 PM
My dh and I both hold dors open for each other and customers at stores and restaurants all the time, and people are pretty good about that here in Wisconsin. Not so much true with holding car doors open unless one of them is elderly and needs help. I remember the days when men always opened the car doors for the ladies, and I kind of miss that!

EnumclawGramma
May 9th, 2018, 01:01 PM
My husband has been doing this for me since we started dating. He raised our boys to do the same. My youngest son is with a girl who hates it! He's actually had to work to remember not to do it. I don't get it....but there it is.

geegeequilts
May 9th, 2018, 02:08 PM
My husband always holds the door going into a store or restaurant for anyone coming or going. We still hold hands (married for 46 in July).

Why would anyone NOT hold the door for the next person?

Gina

RockinLou
May 9th, 2018, 02:24 PM
This is a timely post. DH and I were just having a discussion about this. While he always holds doors for me he doesn't go around and open a car door and close it for me. I rarely see this anymore which is what brought up the conversation. I always hold doors for people if I notice them coming a few steps behind. I generally hold doors for anyone that needs assistance or if a group is all coming up to the door at the same time I will get it. Sometimes people will act surprised but that is just the way I was raised. I always thank anyone who holds the door for me.

my husband and I have had the same conversation. When we're headed out, just the two of us, he will open the door for me if I let him get ahead of me, but when it's the whole family and kids need help with seatbelts, it doesn't always happen. I'm okay with it at the car, but he does always hold every other door we come across for me, and so do both of my kids, boy and girl.

auntiemern
May 9th, 2018, 06:28 PM
Why yes I have. My little Gabe opens the door for me all the time. DH does as well...sometimes.

nativetexan
May 9th, 2018, 09:12 PM
ha, ha. Gray or white hair helps a lot. sometimes not so much. that's life.

Navy Wife
May 9th, 2018, 10:39 PM
I also find most men and most older teenage boys hold doors for me. DH always does, but not car doors. He is 84! I feel fortunate that he still can open his own door! I have also found in our travels that men are much more likely to help out. I had women almost slam the door, even when I needed a walker or cane. I always express my thanks.

bubba
May 10th, 2018, 02:48 PM
MM opens it for me, then closes it once I am in the car. I open it myself when getting out.

Hulamoon
May 10th, 2018, 03:29 PM
I don't expect someone to open a car door for me. It's a nice thing to see though. I thank people all the time for holding doors and I do the same. One of my rudest encounters was at a local super market and three ladies where standing outside with their carts. They weren't really blocking the door close, but you had squeeze in back of them to get in. Me and another lady wanted to go in and I said can you guys move? The answer was why should we? If your a Haole over here don't expect as much Aloha as they advertise. Women are the meanest.

auntstuff
May 10th, 2018, 04:00 PM
Gee, sounds just like our local Walmart

Heather
May 10th, 2018, 04:43 PM
The other day I had to use the casino bathroom across from work because our water was shut off temporarily. As I was exiting a man noticed me after he was about 10' away from the door in the mirrored vestibule. He trotted back and apologized for not holding the door, and held it for me.
DH opens doors (not car) but buildings and such. He holds the garage / kitchen door for me when I come home from work too. Which is great because I'm navigating my way past some very wriggy dogs.

ETA: when people block me in the grocery store (usually women), assuming the timing is right, I get as near as possible and fart. They move.

Gloriana
May 10th, 2018, 05:58 PM
This reminds me of an occasion several years back. I bowled on a morning ladies league. All women here. I would get out of my car, grab the baby and put her in a carrier. Then grab my bowling bag and purse. All three were pretty heavy. Walk to the bowling alley door, put my bowling bag down, open the door, prop it open with my foot, pick up my bowling bag, and THEN walk through. Of course, there was always that one woman who would sail on through as I had the door propped open. No thank you, no let me help. Bah!

I love young men with their courtly manners. I encourage them always.