View Full Version : Why I haven't commented in a few hours !

December 5th, 2017, 04:56 PM
By now, y'all know that I ( like a lot of forum subscribers here ) comment almost every day.
Yesterday I had to take my DH John into the ER who diagnosed him with Pneumonia. John doesn't believe in the pneumonia shot or the flu shot...period.
Anyway, the day was really hectic.
Last night I was called and told that they were moving John into intensive care.

I just came home long enough to shower & change. The pulmonary specialist wants to talk to me at 3:30pm( and yes, I know that the time is just an estimate....the Dr. probably won't show up for another hour at best.

Right now they have John pretty sedated,with the meds they are giving him. I was going to spend the day finishing up the things I need to do....but this is going to have to wait until tomorrow.

I had a pretty sleepless night after I was called and told they were going to move John to ICU. I went back up to see what was going on (Hey, I guess even though I am a retired RN....I can't help but want to not only "HEAR" what is going on, but I want to also "SEE" what's happening for myself. Sure, John is an adult, and I probably should have stayed home....but oh well, I didn't. Soooo....I am pretty exhausted. As soon as I see the Dr. I am going to come back home and take a shower and go to bed most likely ( if I don't fall asleep in the shower that is LOL)

Will keep you posted !
IF you will please pray for John ( pray for me too! )


December 5th, 2017, 04:58 PM
I'm sorry to hear this Sugar. Praying for you and your hubby!

December 5th, 2017, 04:59 PM
Oh Sugar, I know you are so worried. We will keep you in our prayers.

December 5th, 2017, 05:00 PM
Aww sorry to hear that. Prayers for John and that he recovers quickly. Get some rest too Sugar.

Caroline T.
December 5th, 2017, 05:01 PM
Praying for a speedy recovery for John and rest for yourself.

I understand how you feel about not just knowing, but also "seeing" what's happening. But please remember to take care of yourself too. You need to keep your own health and strength up so that you can care for John when he's well enough to come home.

Star lover
December 5th, 2017, 05:36 PM
I'm sorry so for you and your husband! I'll be praying for the both of you. Like all have said, take care of yourself.....you're gonna need to care for him, even when he comes home. So rest when you can and keep us informed, when you can. We'll be here.

Cathy F
December 5th, 2017, 05:54 PM
Sending good thoughts for his recovery. I can understand why you want to be there, every patient needs a advocate when their hospitalized.

December 5th, 2017, 06:05 PM
Oh my, so sorry to hear. Surely adding prayers for you both.

December 5th, 2017, 06:29 PM
So sorry to hear this, Sugar. Sending prayers for both of you.

December 5th, 2017, 06:40 PM
So sorry, Sugar. I know you are exhausted, keeping you both in my prayers.

December 5th, 2017, 06:49 PM
Oh no! I feel bad for you. Of course you can't sleep in the middle of all this trauma. Can they give him a flu shot while he is sedated so he won't know?

Mary Lynn
December 5th, 2017, 08:02 PM
Very sorry to hear this news. I have heard reports that it is going to be a bad flu season. Hope he recovers quickly.

December 5th, 2017, 09:02 PM
Your DH had better be thinking about getting his shots next year. Take some hand sewing and quilting books with you to the hosp.

December 5th, 2017, 09:05 PM
I hope you can get some rest, Sugar. Lifting prayers for a speedy recovery and peaceful rest.

December 5th, 2017, 09:22 PM
Prayers for you both. Hugs for you!

December 5th, 2017, 09:35 PM
Praying, dear one.

December 5th, 2017, 09:58 PM
I will most definitely pray for you and your DH. Please keep us posted on his progress!

December 5th, 2017, 10:06 PM
Thanks everyone....it's amazing how awesome this forum is!
BIG HUGS to ALL OF YOU.....you're the BEST !!


By the time I got back to the hospital John was on a ventilator and His white blood cell count has gone from 800 when he went into the hospital to 14000.
He is really heavily sedated and so I didn't stay very long....there's really no reason for me to stay there 6-8 hours a day. There's nothing I can do, he is being given the best care possible. He is on IV antibiotics, etc
So, I am going to go to bed early. All of you who mentioned that I should make sure that I take care of myself are correct. On the way home, I stopped and got my vitamins that I am low on, and went to a local restaurant and bought some of their potato soup which is awesome.
I am sure I won't sleep until morning, I am not someone that sleeps well,so maybe I will get back up in a few hours and call to make sure things are okay. I
I just got a phone call phone John's younger sister and she was furious that the nurses station wouldn't give her any information. John doesn't like visitors at all, and when he was admitted he asked me to tell the nurse that he didn't want anyone to know that he was in the hospital, period. OF course this was before he was transferred to the ICU....Anyway John's sister called and she was told there was no such person in the hospital....and of course she was upset. She called John's oldest sister and asked that she try to find out, and she couldn't either. So, guess who got the blame for that? ME ! LOL .....oh well, I explained to John's older sister why he wanted no one to know, and she agreed that he was someone that didn't like a lot of visitors or phone calls when hospitalized, but she did think that asking the hospital not to let anyone know that he was even admitted was going a little too far.....but it's something he asked the nurse to do. They gave me a card with a 6 digit number on it, so that I can call and find out information, but I am the only person that has that kind of access.
I remember years ago ( in 2001) when I had over 20 brain surgeries that my DH Terry did something similar because the phone in my Neuro ICU room was ringing off the wall. Sure, Terry understood that people truly cared etc. but the amount of phone calls he was getting was over the top. That was the first I time that anything like that was ever put into place when I was in a hospital. Actually when I started to get better, it was kind of nice not having the phone ring and tons of visitors coming and going as well. I don't remember now, but the last 1-2 weeks before I was discharged, Terry had the visitor ban lifted......I was really sick during that 65 days of hospitalization back in 2001......I actually was discharged from the ICU.....and even the nurses said was rare. Normally a patient goes from ICU to a step down unit and then sometimes to a regular floor. Every single time the Neurosurgeon attempted to move me, I would get sicker, require more surgery etc. So, one day he told the nurses and Terry he wasn't moving me period! I had never heard of that happening to a patient before. (when I worked as a RN, I usually worked in the ER or Labor & Delivery...so as a nurse I never seen things like that happen with patients)

Anyway....thanks to you all.....I really appreciate all the concern and caring and Prayer !

December 5th, 2017, 10:36 PM
Oh no! I feel bad for you. Of course you can't sleep in the middle of all this trauma. Can they give him a flu shot while he is sedated so he won't know?

They did that right after he was admitted and told him they had to do it, simply because they needed to try to protect the other patients too. He didn't say anything(he was too sick to) and I also talked to the Dr. about asking the hospitalist about getting other injections that John hasn't had in years....such as a tetanus booster etc. Might as well get these things done as long as I am making most of the decisions right???? LOL !


December 5th, 2017, 10:41 PM
Sugar, I'm sending prayers for you dh....take care of yourself, too!!

December 5th, 2017, 11:01 PM
Just saw this and saying a prayer right now. Hope John improves quickly. Glad you are taking care of yourself too. People mean well with phone calls and visits, but those can wait until he is feeling up to it. My DH did the same thing when he was recently hospitalized. He just wanted to rest and get better!

December 5th, 2017, 11:06 PM
Oh, Sugar, sorry to hear John is so very sick. That pneumonia can be very bad. Hopefully the meds will kick in soon & he'll be on the mend. By all means, he should not be pestered with phone calls or visitors. HIPPA guidelines now prevent anyone but the designated person to be given info. about a patient. I hope you can relax enough to get some much needed rest & sleep. I'll definitely be praying for you both.

Neither DH nor I get any of those immunizations -- flu, pneumonia, shingles, boosters, etc. Our choice. I've heard too many negative things about the harmful ingredients in vaccines. I certainly would not depress his immune system any further by giving him those shots while he is so ill. After he returns to health, if he still wants to get the shots, that would be the time to consider it.

Sleep tight! God bless.

Judy, USMC
December 5th, 2017, 11:22 PM
Sugar - praying for healing for John and strength for you.

Debbie Watters
December 5th, 2017, 11:41 PM
Prayers for you both.

December 6th, 2017, 04:49 AM
I'm adding my prayers too, that John's infection gets under control soon and that you can get some rest and peace of mind.

December 6th, 2017, 05:10 AM
Sending good thoughts and prayers your way. Hope John's white count is down this morning and on the road to recovery. Hugs!

December 6th, 2017, 05:45 AM
Sending prayers to you and your DH.

December 6th, 2017, 06:10 AM
I am so sorry to hear of your husband's illness and I pray for his recovery, please make sure you look after yourself as you will need to be fit and able to look after him when he is discharged from hospital.

In England the hospital staff are not allowed to give out any information to anyone who rings and when my FIL was ill prior to his passing DH (his son) had a password to quote before we could get any information. This ensures he had privacy when he needed it the most!

December 6th, 2017, 06:42 AM
Oh Sugar - I wasn't online yesterday, so am just now seeing this. I'm sending big big {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}} to you and of course many many prayers for healing for John and peace and comfort for you both. I'm glad you're taking care of yourself too girlfriend.

Simply Quilting
December 6th, 2017, 08:43 PM
Prayers for a quick recovery.

December 6th, 2017, 10:09 PM
Thinking of you both for healing.

Rhonda K
December 6th, 2017, 10:15 PM
Best wishes for you both across the miles.

December 6th, 2017, 11:58 PM
My best wishes to both of you during this stressful time, and a speedy recovery for John!

December 9th, 2017, 09:33 AM
And now, nothing? Been a few days

Georgie Girl
December 9th, 2017, 11:48 AM
And now, nothing? Been a few days

My husband was in the hospital a few weeks ago after calling 911. I stayed with him in the hospital. It's a stressful time and you don't get any sleep. You take a little time to go home to shower and back again. This stay was awful for him and me. You really have no time or thought for anything else. I don't have an Ipad or smaller whatever to go posting. I have my lap top at home. Your only concern is your husband making medical decisions. I'm sure she is overwhelmed with it all plus the holidays. She will post when she can knowing we are here.

December 9th, 2017, 02:03 PM
Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. I have you both in my prayers every night. Stay strong, and believe all will get better. Don't forget to take care of yourself so you will be there for your hubby. Please keep us posted.

December 9th, 2017, 07:27 PM
I looked back and Dec 5th was her last posting date. Things are not easy for them now I would guess.

Georgie Girl
December 9th, 2017, 08:32 PM
Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. I have you both in my prayers every night. Stay strong, and believe all will get better. Don't forget to take care of yourself so you will be there for your hubby. Please keep us posted.

Thank you for your concern. The reason I posted was to state how time consuming it is when someone is in the hospital and caring for them after they are home.

December 10th, 2017, 10:45 AM
Thank you for your concern. The reason I posted was to state how time consuming it is when someone is in the hospital and caring for them after they are home.

She gets thanked and I got spanked. Nice.

December 10th, 2017, 11:11 AM
AUNTSTUFF, I saw your post only as being concerned. No reason for a spanking.

Carlie Wolf
December 10th, 2017, 11:17 AM
I didn't see anyone spanking you. These are nice, concerned people here. You appear to be pretty new to this forum so you may not have had the time to see this. :-) We are concerned about Sugar's health too, I'm sure she will post when she can and I hope she is doing ok with this. btw, you remind me of someone from the past.

stitching woman
December 10th, 2017, 11:28 AM
Prayers for both of you, hope he is improving.

Sandy Navas
December 10th, 2017, 04:28 PM
She gets thanked and I got spanked. Nice.

Oh, surely not . . .

December 10th, 2017, 04:38 PM
Still thinking of you both and praying for good results.

December 10th, 2017, 06:02 PM
Hello Sugar. Just wanted you to know we are thinking of you and John and hope he is out of three woods soon. Please pay no attention to the snarky comments that someone posted.

December 10th, 2017, 06:04 PM
Sandy you are deceptively insightful-- I like your comment!

December 10th, 2017, 06:10 PM
My prayers goes with you both. It's hard on everyone. God Bless