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Cokie
December 30th, 2016, 10:26 PM
My dad fell this week. He dislocated his shoulder and broke his femur just below the hip. Had surgery to put in a rod, and they were able to put the shoulder back into place so he is just in a sling. He is in the hospital now and will be going to a rehab facility, probably over the weekend, for 3-4 weeks. My mom has back issues and can't ride in a car easily so she hasn't been to see him. They live 1500 miles away from me - fortunately my two brothers and their families live nearby. This happened on Tuesday and I just found out about it!! I'm trying to decide if I should go out there - thinking I'll wait until he's in rehab and there is more of a plan - it might be better for me to go when he gets home from rehab. My vacation days are limited and my husband has been out of work for a while so it's hard to know the right thing to do. UGH - I hate being so far away!

If you have a prayer to spare on his behalf, I would appreciate it greatly. Thank you so much!

Mimi_Howard
December 30th, 2016, 10:48 PM
Saying a prayer right now. I hope his recovery is a quick one.

cashs mom
December 30th, 2016, 10:59 PM
I'll say a prayer for all of you.

seaturtle
December 30th, 2016, 11:06 PM
So sorry, Cokie. It's not easy when you're so far away. I'll pray for your dad, mom, and you. If you just found out about it, you probably need a little time to figure out when your visit would be the most helpful to your parents. Hopefully, your brothers can help mom with transportation to the rehab facility. Maybe you could call him at the hospital? Good luck and keep us posted.

bubba
December 30th, 2016, 11:21 PM
Sorry this has happened to your dad. I'd be having a stern talk with my siblings if they had done this. If I were you, I would wait until he is released from rehab to come home to go visit. That way you will be able to help your mom and dad out. There is not much really for you to do right now as your brothers can ferry your mom around and your dad is where he needs to be and is getting the care he needs there.

Simply Quilting
December 30th, 2016, 11:30 PM
Prayers for your dad to heal quickly, for your mom and for you to have wisdom on when to visit.

lovemyavy
December 30th, 2016, 11:41 PM
Praying for you and your family. Hugs!

KarenC
December 30th, 2016, 11:59 PM
Adding him to my prayer list.

Anitamae56
December 31st, 2016, 12:21 AM
Saying prayers your das and mother and for you. You are in very bad situation . I will continue thinking of you.

auntiemern
December 31st, 2016, 12:23 AM
Sending prayers for all.

sweetiepie
December 31st, 2016, 12:34 AM
Praying also.

Cokie
December 31st, 2016, 01:50 AM
Thanks for your prayers. I was able to talk to him for a while tonight. My brother was there and said he'd had a rough day - they had him sit up on the side of the bed and he was in quite a bit of pain, and was running a slight fever. Dad sounded pretty good but a little confused - he asked me if the Broncos won today (he thought it was Sunday). He referred to this as a "little bump in the road." That's my dad - always seeing the positive. He just turned 88 years old the week before Christmas.

toggpine
December 31st, 2016, 04:50 AM
Prayers for you and your family!
Having dealt with a dad in the hospital this summer, I am going to suggest that you wait until he comes home to plan your visit.
By then the rest of the family will be exhausted. He will need help getting around, and you can come in and give them a respite.

Monique
December 31st, 2016, 07:37 AM
Aw so sorry this happened to your Dad. "A little bump in the road" sounds like it's hard to keep a good man down. At least he has a positive attitude, this will go a long way in his recovery. I will add my prayers to the long list here.

Bubby
December 31st, 2016, 09:42 AM
Praying for your Dad and your family. It's really hard when you are so far away. I think your help would really be appreciated when your Dad comes home. It would help both of your parents. ((HUGS))...I know how frustrating it is to be so far away.

Carolnnc
December 31st, 2016, 12:22 PM
Sending prayers for all of the family.

Amarillo19
December 31st, 2016, 05:26 PM
I'll be praying for you and your dad.

Cokie
January 3rd, 2017, 01:57 AM
Little update - Dad was moved to the rehab facility yesterday. They've had him up sitting in a chair a few times and had him standing for very short periods but he can't put any weight on his right leg, and his right arm is in a sling. I talked to him again tonight and he's in good spirits, ready to get the therapy started so he can go home. My mom is having a hard time - she can't go up to see him because of her own physical problems right now and she feels guilty, and even though my brothers and their families are stopping by I know she's lonely. Her 85th birthday is on Thursday of this week, too. The doctors and therapists should have a plan for Dad's therapy soon and then I'll have a better idea of when to go out. I'm going back to work tomorrow and plan to let my boss know so he can get used to the idea - it's not a good time work-wise for me to be gone, but family comes first, and my brothers will need a break at some point. Thanks for your continued prayers.

Judy, USMC
January 3rd, 2017, 05:47 AM
Time to get mom something to do at home to make her feel less helpless. I'd recommend you get her started thinking about how to prepare the house for his homecoming. She may have to come up with a plan for moving furniture to make it more accessible for him. Or putting dishes in a lower location. Just think of ideas to make things more accessible for him. She just has to plan ... and let the boys do the heavy lifting. When my mom came home from rehab they sent a safety consultant to look over the place and they had several suggestions on what to do to get rid of trip hazards.

And to make sure she's eating herself she may want to start cooking for 2 and freezing half. My mom had a great appetite when she came home ... and I wish I had something tasty and quick to reheat rather than making her wait and taking the time to cook. Hope my experiences help.

bhaggerty
January 3rd, 2017, 10:42 PM
Praying for your dad and all those affected by this!

jjkaiser
January 3rd, 2017, 11:12 PM
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry this happened to your Dad. I know the feeling of helplessness and anxiety when you are so far away. You want to go now and stay about three months but you can't. I think you should put off going until your Dad has been home for a week or two, and have a long talk with your Mom about when she think you would be most useful. I will be thinking of you all. Take care and try not to worry too much. Sounds like everything is under control for the time being.

GaGa
January 4th, 2017, 02:01 AM
Just wanted you to know I've been keeping you and your family in my prayers. I'm only 125 mikes from my 86 year old parents and even that can seem far away sometimes. I'm glad your brothers live near your parents.