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LauraP
December 25th, 2016, 07:33 PM
so last night was DH's family Christmas which I am never invited to. Long story dealing with the wicked witch!
Anyway, the only presents I made were the queen size pinwheel quilt and the animal book. I guess the parents liked the book but they didn't even take the quilt out of the plastic shrink bag and look at it or show it off, so I don't know if they liked it or not. ARRRRRGH!

Bubby
December 25th, 2016, 07:45 PM
I feel your pain. My MIL ignored the blue Orange Peel quilt I gave her for Mother's Day this year. When we sent her a roll of postage stamps as a stocking stuffer she told me she likes them better than the quilt! Go figure...

Carolnnc
December 25th, 2016, 08:27 PM
Sometimes you just have to go into your walk-in closet and scream: you people suck! These women must be related to my mother. Mom doesn't even know I quilt and I've been quilting around 30 years. All six of her children have wonderful artistic talents of which she shows no interest at all. I will never give her a quilt and don't feel bad about it at all. Relatives can be so cruel and I'm so sorry you both got dissed.

Kgrammiecaz
December 25th, 2016, 08:52 PM
I would never make or give anthing to someone who did not care for me. Just would not happen. And if I had a husband he surely would not be going anywhere I was not welcome as I would do the same for him.

I am do sorry you are dealing with such crap. You surely deserve better.

Carlie Wolf
December 25th, 2016, 09:02 PM
I love when your husband is invited but you're not and yet they except you to cook something. bwahahahahaha, like that's going to happen.

MRoy
December 25th, 2016, 09:09 PM
You're a better person than I would be to make them a quilt when they don't include you. Although it's easier said than done, try to not let it get to you too much.

LauraP
December 25th, 2016, 09:30 PM
I love when your husband is invited but you're not and yet they except you to cook something. bwahahahahaha, like that's going to happen.

oh I don't get to cook either cuz they know I would season with poison. My husband supports me in this battle of the witches. He pretty much lets me do what I want.
the wicked witch is his oldest sister, I told her as far as I was concerned the next time I want to see her is when I am dancing in my stilettos on her grave.

snippet
December 25th, 2016, 10:33 PM
I had a witch of a sister-in-law when I was married too. I stopped going to any family affairs and my husband did too, but he did make quick visits and to drop off gifts.

Don't be miffed at their ignorance of your gifts. They obviously don't know quality - in people or in material things - and won't change. Give the gifts if you must, and be happy that no matter how crappy they behave, you won't lower yourself in giving them something made less than exceptional. (Although I certainly could tell you stories of what I'd prefer to do to them!)

Rant on Laura! People can be so ungrateful.

cashs mom
December 25th, 2016, 10:52 PM
You're a better person than I would be to make them a quilt when they don't include you. Although it's easier said than done, try to not let it get to you too much.

My husband's family doesn't like me and, believe me, the feeling is mutual. After 5 or 6 years of doing every Thanksgiving and every Christmas dinner for them and never even being invited to their house or out to dinner, I totally quit. I told my husband it was their turn and after they did a holiday, I would do the next. I knew I'd never do another holiday. I would never ever make a quilt for them. I don't even send them a Christmas card. I used to do a lot of things to try to make them like me, but I finally decided they weren't worth the time or energy.

My husband was spending a lot of time running out to there house to do things for them so they didn't have to pay anyone to do it. I finally put a stop to that when they went a bought a new TV just because they wanted a bigger one. I decided if they could afford to do that, they could afford to pay a handyman. Plus, I have things here I've waited for years for him to do. I made a list.

kaydee
December 25th, 2016, 11:15 PM
And if I had a husband he surely would not be going anywhere I was not welcome . . .

I'll second that (and I do have a husband)!

Iris Girl
December 26th, 2016, 06:09 AM
Definitely a better person then I am. I would never make a quilt for anyone in that situation. AND hubby would never go without me.My in laws were decent when they were alive and enjoyed anything and everything I made them. Wasn't a quilter back then though. Remember making my FIL a sherpa lined denim vest he wore everyday , he loved it so much. Now hubbys Grandmother was another deal. She did no crafting of any kind and no baking. They had never even had real whip cream you whip yourself til I brought them a pumpkin pie one year and had to ask for the mixer to make it...she had no mixer we whipped it by hand !
I feel sorry for your situation and the treatment you got. My hubby sister is a prima donna and we don't talk to each other and hubby wouldn't have it any other way. Family sometimes just sucks.

Monique
December 26th, 2016, 08:36 AM
You can pick your nose but you just can't pick your family. God love ya for trying.

Sheep Farmer
December 26th, 2016, 12:23 PM
Don't be upset if someone doesn't appreciate your quilt.
Some people are just not "quilt" people.
Meaning you're off the hook and never have to make them a quilt.

jjkaiser
December 26th, 2016, 12:26 PM
I would tell my husband they need to give the quilt back to you. And anything else you ever made them.

LauraP
December 26th, 2016, 12:52 PM
The only reason I made the quilt is because the niece asked for one and was really excited by it. But I think I've learned my lesson. Give up hope that they will change. His other sister on the other hand loved her quilt and immediately put it on her bed. She and I are bestest friends.

Bneighbor
December 26th, 2016, 01:34 PM
oh I don't get to cook either cuz they know I would season with poison. My husband supports me in this battle of the witches. He pretty much lets me do what I want.
the wicked witch is his oldest sister, I told her as far as I was concerned the next time I want to see her is when I am dancing in my stilettos on her grave.
This is his family, he needs to confront them and demand respect from them for you. If he chooses not to put them in line, then the problem is his. There should be no battle for him to support.... HE Has to set their boundaries as to how they respect you. This is his respect for you and his responsibility to protect you.

Carlie Wolf
December 26th, 2016, 01:58 PM
Boy you couldn't have said this better Bneighbor. :-)

LauraP
December 26th, 2016, 02:20 PM
you guys are so funny! I'm gripping about my quilt not being admired and you all are concerned about me not "getting" to go to his sister's for Christmas. I've gone and believe me I'm not missing anything but pure chaos. I encourage my darling husband to go because his Mom is 95 and one of these days she won't be around. It's only for a couple of hours Christmas Eve and I go play cards with his other sister who won't go out there either. We have a much better time, even my husband agrees.
When his mom is gone we will see what happens but until then I am fine with the status quo.

Deegles
December 26th, 2016, 06:45 PM
Oh that is too bad. Unfortunately in our consumerist society, those consumers are also filling the trash cans, and therefore have no respect for the time it took to make it. They must have a pretty good life. Sometimes money makes people careless about things that really matter. (And sometimes the lack of money, makes people make poor choices) It is their loss, and I would probably not go to the trouble again. Who knows, if they are really witchy they may be doing that on purpose to tick you off and get under your skin. Don't give them the satisfaction. You are obviously better in your heart than they are and they are jealous!

Hulamoon
December 26th, 2016, 06:57 PM
you guys are so funny! I'm gripping about my quilt not being admired and you all are concerned about me not "getting" to go to his sister's for Christmas. I've gone and believe me I'm not missing anything but pure chaos. I encourage my darling husband to go because his Mom is 95 and one of these days she won't be around. It's only for a couple of hours Christmas Eve and I go play cards with his other sister who won't go out there either. We have a much better time, even my husband agrees.
When his mom is gone we will see what happens but until then I am fine with the status quo.

He should be with his mom. Mine passed at 65. It would be sad that your husbands mom passing would bring the family to realize how stupid they act towards each other. Keep yourself happy :)

amyquilts
December 26th, 2016, 07:59 PM
If someone made me an orange peel quilt I'd be thrilled! I'm not skilled enough yet to try to make one. So sorry she prefers postage stamps. Do you think if I sent her a roll of stamps she'd send me the quilt? ha!

snippet
December 26th, 2016, 09:14 PM
you guys are so funny! I'm gripping about my quilt not being admired and you all are concerned about me not "getting" to go to his sister's for Christmas. I've gone and believe me I'm not missing anything but pure chaos. I encourage my darling husband to go because his Mom is 95 and one of these days she won't be around. It's only for a couple of hours Christmas Eve and I go play cards with his other sister who won't go out there either. We have a much better time, even my husband agrees.
When his mom is gone we will see what happens but until then I am fine with the status quo.oh I understand your actions better then. I would do the same and enjoy the time with his nicer sister too! So glad you are doing what makes you happy instead of sulking at home.