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Pandabear
August 27th, 2016, 12:39 AM
And I hate it. I'm not a crier but today we dropped our boy off at college. I did really well not crying when saying goodbye. I even made the trip home dry-eyed.

I just walked into his room to put something away and broke down.

I hate this feeling. I know he's fine. I know we taught him how to take care of himself and be a good person.

But I miss him.

And I hate crying!

quiltingtrish
August 27th, 2016, 12:41 AM
Aww, that's not stupid - you are just a mom who loves your kid. I'm sending HUGS for you.

GaGa
August 27th, 2016, 01:13 AM
It's not stupid at all! I did the same thing when we left our first son at college. Made it all the way home, went into his room and totally lost it! It's absolutely normal for a loving mom to do! With my other 4, I didn't even try to be brave - I promptly lost it in the car going home. The last was the worst!!

stationarymom
August 27th, 2016, 01:59 AM
Your not stupid your feeling are normal.This adjustment can be harder for us than them sometimes.((Hugs)). I made my daughter call weekly,she hated that she had to do it but I needed to hear her voice and know she was ok without interrupting her .

bec
August 27th, 2016, 04:59 AM
That's totally normal. When we took our son to college, I cried most of the way home (a 3 hour trip) and every time I fixed a meal that was one of his favorites, I cried. I was a mess for months! I still miss him and he is 39 now. Did pretty much the same thing with our daughter. You'll always be a mom even when your kids have left.

KarenC
August 27th, 2016, 06:39 AM
I did OK until I got in the car. My husband planned the trip so that we went to Canada for a few days immediately after. After getting the cry out of my system in the car, was ok. Fast forward 4 yrs when dropping my daughter off, she decided to argue with us about something and stormed out the car. Hubby's comment was "she sure made that easy". No tears shed.

LauraP
August 27th, 2016, 08:15 AM
I always told my daughters that the reason they were so hard to deal with during their teenage years was so that when they said, "I'm moving out!" I would be saying, "Good riddance!" but it never really worked. I think I should have done like my mom and had lots of kids over lots of years, so by the time I left home she had so many grandkids to take my place she probably didn't even know I was gone.

Suzette
August 27th, 2016, 08:44 AM
Not stupid at all, you are a loving mom who misses her child. I've been there. Hugs!!!!

songbird857
August 27th, 2016, 09:07 AM
Awww.... of course you miss him! :icon_hug::icon_hug:

Snip Snip
August 27th, 2016, 09:45 AM
I hate to cry too. I know it's a good emotional release, but when I cry, My head throbs, my eyes get very red and puffy, my nose runs, I can't talk. It takes my face all day to get back to normal.
I know people who can have a screaming crying fit, buckets of tears and the whole shebang. 5 minutes later, you can not tell they were crying. I envy that ability, somehow.
Just take solace in the fact that your son is heading in a good path. Those tears would be so much more bitter if your son were heading to prison.

MRoy
August 27th, 2016, 10:51 AM
Not stupid at all! I was crying as we pulled out of the dorm parking lot, all the way home, and off and on for several days afterwards. We try to raise them to be independent, but it's hard turning them loose that first time!

MayinJerset
August 27th, 2016, 11:12 AM
Aww, that's not stupid - you are just a mom who loves your kid. I'm sending HUGS for you.

I'm sending you some Hugs too.

Navy Wife
August 27th, 2016, 11:14 AM
I also shed a few tears on the way home after leaving DD. She was lonesome also, and called almost every day. Then she got her first phone bill! That was in the 70's before cell phones! The good thing was that she was not far away.

laura44
August 27th, 2016, 11:49 AM
We have all been there. I still cry for my son who lives in NY (I'm in CA),
and he is 28. Dropping off to college is tough. Sending you a "hug"!

GaGa
August 27th, 2016, 11:51 AM
One thing so special about this forum is that we find we are bound by so much more than the love of quilting!!

Monique
August 27th, 2016, 02:24 PM
Greg is 32 and I still cry when he leaves so don't feel bad. We will always be their mother and they will always be our little boys.

pcbatiks
August 27th, 2016, 02:43 PM
Our son didn't move away for college but when he moved out.......I cried some. Hugs to you.

It appears that you are a normal mom.

jjkaiser
August 27th, 2016, 03:55 PM
If it's any consoluation he probably cried after you left too, only he probably won't admit it for a long time. Also I am sure he will get a pang of homesickness eating in the cafeteria and thinking my Mom's meatloaf is way better than this stuff!!

tamsterg7
August 27th, 2016, 08:39 PM
I know the feeling! Our youngest is 12 hours from home, going to school in South Dakota! This is his 3rd year, and it still makes me cry every time we leave..........but, as you said, we taught them well and they will fly on their own!

bec
August 28th, 2016, 12:14 AM
I hate to cry too. I know it's a good emotional release, but when I cry, My head throbs, my eyes get very red and puffy, my nose runs, I can't talk. It takes my face all day to get back to normal.
I know people who can have a screaming crying fit, buckets of tears and the whole shebang. 5 minutes later, you can not tell they were crying. I envy that ability, somehow.
Just take solace in the fact that your son is heading in a good path. Those tears would be so much more bitter if your son were heading to prison.

I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one who takes a whole day to get back to normal after a cry. I don't even have to really bawl. Just tear up and a few tears run down my face and I'm Rudolph the rest of the day! lol

Pandabear
August 28th, 2016, 12:28 PM
Thank you everyone for the hugs and words of empathy and encouragement. I, too, send hugs to all the moms who are going through this, or something like it.

Yesterday was a so-so day. I kept busy during the day, my sister-in-law came by and we went to our LQS together. She, like me, loves Halloween fabric so it was difficult not to buy a yard (who am I kidding...2 yards) of everything.

Night was worse.. my movie watching buddy wasn't here. I did however, make my DH watch an English murder mystery with me. But I let him flee halfway though. :)

I'm determined to get into my sewing room and begin completing all the UFO's I have piled up. (after starting and completing a new project I promised my nephew. Oops.) I am determined to practice on my Grace frame that I have been looking at every time I have walked by it. I've had it for well over a year (two maybe?) and still can't use it well. It intimidates me. But dang it, I can't let it be the boss of me.

And now I'm off to organize the UFO's to see what can be completed quickly to get the pile down.

WendyI
August 28th, 2016, 04:46 PM
My son is only 13 (14 in October) and I can't even imagine the mess I will be in when he leaves home. I know if I have done a good job parenting he will be ready to forge out on his own when it comes time for University...but thankfully he wants to go locally which means living at home which is more cost effective...so after high school, I will still have him for at least 4 more years! Maybe by then I will be happy to see him go! LOL!

LLLinda
January 9th, 2018, 01:45 AM
We teach our kids to be independent but somehow we neglect to teach ourselves. For those moms who haven't had your kids leave maybe you should start planning a strategy for yourself to keep busy and mind occupied. But I really don't know if that is a workable solution.:icon_sniff::icon_shake:

laura44
January 9th, 2018, 01:56 AM
Ahh, I feel for you! You should have seen me when my
son left us in California and went to live in New York.

tamsterg7
January 9th, 2018, 09:54 PM
Been there and done that! Ours is a 12hr drive from home and I may have sniffled and cried the whole way after we dropped him off the first year. It gets better, and he will remember how you raised him and do well..

GuitarGramma
January 10th, 2018, 02:33 PM
Shoot, I cried when I dropped my first one off at Kindergarten!

And—get this—that same eldest child, now age 36, rents from us, just 15 minutes away. We told her that we're going to sell the rental this Spring. When she found another place to live, 30 minutes away from us, I cried then, too!

We never stop being a Mom!