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CarolynK
March 20th, 2016, 06:30 PM
I miss being here more than once in a while but I try to keep up with everyone and what's happening here but it's only occasional for now.

The last several months have been a little tough. My Mom, with Alzheimers and other issues, is now on Hospice Care in the facility that she is in. She has been back and forth to the hospital multiple times from falling all the time (she was forgetting to use her walker) and we almost lost her about a month ago. So far she hasn't broken anything but each of these traumas set her back and she never regains where she was before the trauma. She barely recognizes me and my sisters and for the most part cannot walk anymore. It's so hard to watch her deteriorate like this. She doesn't eat much of anything and doesn't drink much either so she becomes dehydrated easily.

Then Friday, we made the decision to let my Lab, Haley pass on. I picked her out the day she was born and she's had my heart ever since. This has been an exceptionally raw and difficult weekend but we knew it was best for her. I miss her dearly. I still have two other fur kids and they are missing her too. She was their leader and made the rules. I believe they will be fine - they just need a little extra momma love right now and they're getting plenty.

There have been a few positive things - the hubs got a great pay raise this year and in the aircraft industry that rarely happens. Then a week ago, I got a promotion and a really nice pay raise. I've only been there 11 months but I must be doing something right.

I also have been doing a little sewing. A couple weeks ago, I took a Log Cabin Block class and loved it. I'm probably the only one in the universe that is intimidated by those blocks but I think I'm on my way. I made a wall hanging in the class and it really turned out nice.

I'll take a few prayers and thoughts if you have them. Thanks for listening - things will get better, I know, but this is such a long journey. Love and hugs to you all.

~~Carolyn

mischiefkat
March 20th, 2016, 06:36 PM
I think we have more than a few thoughts and prayers for you. Throw in a few hugs for good measure too. Everyone can always use a hug. Kathy

Hulamoon
March 20th, 2016, 06:43 PM
Carolyn my heart breaks for you. That's a lot to handle at once. Hospice is a great organization. My aunt decided to do it at home. It was difficult,but she still knew me. My thoughts are with you.

Monique
March 20th, 2016, 06:48 PM
Nice to see you pop in. You have my prayers. My husband's family is going through the same thing with his mom although she is still at home.

tamsterg7
March 20th, 2016, 06:55 PM
Hugs and prayers, so sorry that you are going thru such a difficult time.

KarenC
March 20th, 2016, 07:35 PM
Thoughts and prayers for your mom and family. Treasure the good moments. Congrats on the pay raises. Those are rare everywhere these days.

Jean Sewing Machine
March 20th, 2016, 07:51 PM
Life sure can have it's ups and downs! Thanks for thinking of us and sharing you story of what's been going on in your life. Keep in touch!

mommamarsh
March 20th, 2016, 07:58 PM
Having been in your shoes, I am sending you hugs and prayer for comfort and peace .

KPH
March 20th, 2016, 08:08 PM
Been in your shoes. Could show you pictures of mom's skinned up arms from when she fell. Her last two years were so hard. Sending you hugs, and lots of prayers. Lean on Hospice, they are wonderful (at least those we worked with were).

SuzyQue
March 20th, 2016, 08:10 PM
My mom has been gone now just a little over a year. I know the path you are on and the difficulty. I have walked it 3 times now. This is a sad, hard, and sometimes lonely walk. Know that I will be praying for you and your mom. It is too easy to say hold onto your memories and be grateful for your blessings, although important. Take care of you.....grieve...cry....experience the loss.....then pick yourself up and keep on. Someday you will miss even this phase of your life. It is all part of the journey, although not the easiest or happiest. I pray that you will find strength, peace, and comfort.

Simply Quilting
March 20th, 2016, 08:26 PM
Hugs and prayers.

easyquilts
March 20th, 2016, 09:38 PM
Oh, Catolyn.... You have been through do much..... Seeing your Mom having such a hard time, and losing your previous fur baby.... It's a lot. You certainly have my prayers...

You aren't the only one a bit Leary if the log cabin blink.... I've only made a few, and always had trouble keeping the blinks square.... Maybe I'll try again...

God Bless...

jjkaiser
March 20th, 2016, 09:47 PM
Hi Carolyn, glad to see you back. Oh my there's a lot going on in your life right now. Sometimes life is just so darn hard and nothing seems fair. Or easy. It takes such a toll on you mentally. Come here any time you need to vent. We are here for you.

quiltingtrish
March 20th, 2016, 09:57 PM
Hugs and prayers - Carolyn. I'm sorry to hear your mom is going through so much - it is hard for us to watch them and try to care for them - I am glad you have the Hospice helping. Sorry also to hear about your lab. Is that her in the photo? She is beautiful. They sure tug on our hearts, don't they?
Come here anytime - we are thinking of you.

Sandy Navas
March 20th, 2016, 10:18 PM
Always love getting to catch up with you. Like others, all I can offer are prayers and hugs along with the typical BTDT. Never, never easy to lose a parent and it's more difficult to see them injured and not knowing you. Painful, I know. And to lose a companion who has been with you for such a long time isn't easy either.

Grandma Nan
March 20th, 2016, 11:28 PM
Carolyn, my thoughts are with you.

GrammaBabs
March 21st, 2016, 12:01 AM
Prayer, Hugs and good thoughts to you Carolyn... so much on your plate right now! Glad that some positive things have come your way at this time to help you keep faith... LIFE is such a challenge sometimes. It's how we get thru it all that makes us who we are... Thank you for sharing.. Hugs, GB

MBCA
March 21st, 2016, 12:14 AM
Thoughts, hugs and prayers. Went through it with my mother-in-law and ironically she didn't know her sons but always knew me and I was the only one that she would listen to when she was disagreeable. Glad you other things in your life are going well and you are able to get in some quilting. It is my bright light at the end of the tunnel and very therapeutic. God Bless!

JaniceR
March 21st, 2016, 12:29 AM
Carolyn, I am so sorry for all the sadness and pain you are going through. So much at once. Watching your Mom slip away is just heartbreaking. I know that from personal experience. It hurt my heart to read your post. I am very sorry about your lab too and am very glad you still have two fur babies to love. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

auntiemern
March 21st, 2016, 12:41 AM
So sorry to hear you are having to endure all of this at the same time. Hugs and prayers for you.
Congrats on the good news though. Pay raises all around doesn't sound half bad.

Granny Judy
March 21st, 2016, 05:02 AM
Know that you are in our hearts as you travel this road. Others have been there and come out the other side stronger, but never the same. It's been 12 years ago that I made that trip,, twice in less than a year. Sending you hugs..

MayinJerset
March 21st, 2016, 08:25 AM
Glad you stopped by to let us know how things are going, so sad about your mom and your long time fur baby. Sending you a few hugs to help you get through the day.128003

Suzette
March 21st, 2016, 08:40 AM
You are in my thoughts and prayers Carolyn. Your wonderful spirit shines through your posts. God bless.

ceiliam
March 21st, 2016, 09:26 AM
Carolyn, so sorry you are going thru so much my heart hurts for you parents are our so dear to our hearts. I am so sorry about your dog . Prayers and hugs being sent your way

amartin24
March 21st, 2016, 09:45 AM
Prayers of peace and comfort for you. Extremely difficult all you are going through. I just lost my own Mom in February. Although she didn't have alzheimers, it is still painful to see them whither away while on hospice. And then your dog! Oh my. ((hugs)) for you. We have a 13 yr old lab that we love dearly. Glad to see some positives coming your way too. John 14:27

Cool Breeze Quilter
March 21st, 2016, 11:31 AM
I will say a prayer for you, your mom and your family. My father had Alzheimer's. Excuse my French but it sucks.

I'm sorry you lost your sweet Haley. I hope it comforts you somehow to know that Haley knew how much she was loved and cared for.

I'm happy that your husband got a pay raise and congratulations to you on your promotion.

Dollyquilts
March 21st, 2016, 11:33 AM
Carolyn, many prayers for healing and solace for you. I lost my mom in 1993 suddenly and lost my 12-year-old longhaired dachshund one week later. Blondie was born in my kitchen and slept glued to my side every night. It seemed like it was the final blow, but God brought me through it, as He will you. Hugs, Dolly

rebeccas-sewing
March 21st, 2016, 01:41 PM
Carolyn, Sounds like there are some very difficult things and also some really positive things happening in your life. We were just talking about Alzheimers research yesterday. They are learning more and more about the disease. I am feeling somewhat positive that the scientists will come up with a way to successfully treat this. It's just a matter of time. I really don't think it will be that long either. I'm sorry your mother and your family must deal with this. Hopefully, by the time we're her age this disease won't be a problem for us.

Saying goodbye to our pets is never easy. We just have to keep remembering all the joy they bring over the years they are in our lives, which far outweighs those final difficult and sad days.

As to the happy things in your life congratulations to you and your husband with the successes you're experiencing in your careers.

songbird857
March 21st, 2016, 03:12 PM
Carolyn, praying for you - thank you for taking some time to give us an update on life. I'm sorry it's been so challenging lately. (Happy about your raises though :-)).
Hugs to you my friend...

dwil23
March 21st, 2016, 03:46 PM
Carolyn, you are going through a difficult time now, but the sun will shine again. Sending prayers and hugs your way.