View Full Version : My heartache...

January 23rd, 2016, 07:19 AM
... my cousin Mark passed away this week. He was only 37, he had a seizure and didn't come out of it.

He's been sober for years now, but too much drugs and alcohol on his brain in his early 20s did long term damage. It scares me what people can do to permanently alter their physical state. He'd had a few seizures as a child, and as an adult fought mental health issues (hence the self medication when younger) and it seems to have created a perfect storm in his brain that it just shut down. He had been struggling with medications for the past few months, and seems it was not sorted out in time.

My heart breaks for his twin brother and my Aunt and Uncle, I cannot conceive of what they are going through. His other brother just got married and had a baby who is only 4 months old. Mark was not married and did not have children, his life was not perfect, but he is loved.

Jean Sewing Machine
January 23rd, 2016, 07:21 AM
That is very sad! I am so sorry for your family's loss.

Angela J
January 23rd, 2016, 07:32 AM
My condolences to you and your family.

January 23rd, 2016, 07:41 AM
Very sorry for his loss from your life and that of his family.

January 23rd, 2016, 07:47 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss Lou. It's always sad to lose a loved one, but even harder when they are so young.

January 23rd, 2016, 08:16 AM
Lou, so sorry for your family's loss.

January 23rd, 2016, 08:47 AM
So sorry that your cousin has died. Prayers for his family at this heart breaking time. How sad is the loss of someone so young, My brothers, sisters and I still mourn the loss of our youngest brother 23 years ago at the age of 39.

Snip Snip
January 23rd, 2016, 08:55 AM
So sorry for your loss, and that he struggled so. Let's all pray for the day when mental illness is as socially acceptable as diabetes or high blood pressure.

January 23rd, 2016, 09:18 AM
I'm so sorry to hear your news of your cousin. I will hold you and your family in my prayers.

January 23rd, 2016, 09:32 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and the family.

Cathy F
January 23rd, 2016, 09:49 AM
My sincere condolences to you and your family.

January 23rd, 2016, 10:01 AM
So sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers. kathy

Kim T
January 23rd, 2016, 10:05 AM
So sorry for your loss. Hope you can find some comfort during this sad time.

Ginny B
January 23rd, 2016, 10:38 AM
So sorry for your family's loss.

January 23rd, 2016, 10:45 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. He was so young.

Grandma Nan
January 23rd, 2016, 11:03 AM
Very sorry to hear of your loss. My sincere condolences.

January 23rd, 2016, 12:38 PM
So sorry for your loss, Lou.

January 23rd, 2016, 12:47 PM
So sorry to hear of your cousin's death, Lou. Condolences to you and your family.

Kat Smith
January 23rd, 2016, 01:14 PM
Still feeling like I am new here and haven't earned my stripes yet, I find it difficult to comment, feels like I am intruding. However this kind of news touches us all in some way, and I just wanted to express to you my heart felt condolences and prayer that you will have the comfort and piece that can be yours through this difficult time .

January 23rd, 2016, 01:20 PM
We will pray for your sadness and your brother to have a better hereafter. He is in a better place now and the brothers child can fill the void in your families lives. Smile to the heavens and he will shine down upon you. We quilters care about you.

January 23rd, 2016, 01:24 PM
Lou, so sorry to learn of your cousin's death. Losing loved ones is tough regardless of their age, but when they are so young, it's hard. May you & your family sense God's peace & comfort. Thoughts & prayers going your way. God bless.

January 23rd, 2016, 01:43 PM
So sorry for your family's loss.

January 23rd, 2016, 03:04 PM
Lou, so very sorry for your loss. So sad and difficult to lose someone, especially so young.

January 23rd, 2016, 03:44 PM
So sorry to hear of your loss, my thoughts are with you today.

January 23rd, 2016, 05:01 PM
Oh my, I am so sorry to hear about the death of your cousin. It sounds like he was trying very hard to pull his life together and hopefully that fact will bring some comfort to loved ones left behind. Hugs.

January 23rd, 2016, 05:18 PM
So sorry for your family's loss.

January 23rd, 2016, 07:35 PM
I'm so sorry! It seems he was fighting so hard to get over his past problems. I hope the young one will help your family come through this sad period.

January 23rd, 2016, 08:45 PM
I am so sorry for your family, I will keep them in my prayers

January 23rd, 2016, 09:41 PM
My sincere condolences for your family.

Simply Quilting
January 23rd, 2016, 11:00 PM
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your cousin. Prayers for you and your family. Hugs

Grandma G
January 24th, 2016, 12:13 AM
I am so sorry for your loss.

January 24th, 2016, 12:24 AM
So sorry for your loss. Way to young. Prayers for your family.

January 24th, 2016, 12:29 AM
Way to young. (( hugs))

January 24th, 2016, 01:20 AM
So sorry about your cousin. I will say prayers for God to wrap his arms around the family and give them some comfort.

January 24th, 2016, 02:52 AM
So very sorry. Thinking of you all .

January 24th, 2016, 07:47 AM
Thank you, everyone, for your kind words and support. I'm feeling very sad about all this, but there is nothing that can be done. When I am home and see my aunt I will offer to make a memory quilt from his clothes. Other than that I can't do much, but my sisters are feeling like their hands are tied too, even though they are right there around the corner from them.

Much love and thanks to you all.

January 24th, 2016, 08:04 AM
This is so sad.... Cousins can be like siblings.... Prayers for all of you.

January 24th, 2016, 02:09 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this. Many of us, I'm sure, have been touched by drug and/or alcohol abuse. I certainly have known a number of folks who have loved ones who have caused themselves great harm from these unhealthy behaviors. I know this is a very sad time for you. My condolences to you and your family.

January 24th, 2016, 11:12 PM
So sorry for your loss, Lou. Will you be able to see your family, or is it too far to get there? Praying for you all.