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Sharyn J
June 4th, 2014, 07:41 PM
should put a large piece of duct tape over their mouth, keep opinions to themselves, tippy toe through my space and protect themselves from bodily harm! If all that fails, I will stop the microwave 3 seconds short of done and let it beep...beep.....beep

BobW
June 4th, 2014, 08:07 PM
I don't understand? Would you tell us how you really feel?

Hulamoon
June 4th, 2014, 08:16 PM
The duct tape would wake them up so I vote for turning the microwave off early.

kensington
June 4th, 2014, 08:45 PM
I don't have a problem with people who don't quilt generally. They are the ones telling me how magnanimous my quilts are and how absotivalutely amazing I am because I do quilt! It's a win, win. :D

Sharyn J
June 4th, 2014, 08:48 PM
I don't have a problem with people who don't quilt generally. They are the ones telling me how magnanimous my quilts are and how absotivalutely amazing I am because I do quilt! It's a win, win. :D

I don't have a problem either with those who don't quilt, unless they're living with me! It's my DD who always critisizes my fabrics or patterns. Everyone loves my quilts but she always has something to say that usually is not very supportive. And, she wonders why I won't make her a quilt?

Hulamoon
June 4th, 2014, 08:55 PM
Okay I change my vote to duct tape.

Sew Perfect
June 4th, 2014, 09:16 PM
Duct tape gets my vote in this instance too.

Kensington, you're just wonderful and marvelous all the way around!

auntiemern
June 4th, 2014, 09:46 PM
How old is this DD? My vote would be duct tape, and lots of it.

Sandy Navas
June 4th, 2014, 09:51 PM
A word of advice? Disown her now . . . and don't ask how I know.

Duct tape? Naw. Gorilla glue!!!!!

bubba
June 4th, 2014, 09:56 PM
You could drug her and shave her as she sleeps....

kensington
June 4th, 2014, 09:58 PM
Duct tape gets my vote in this instance too.

Kensington, you're just wonderful and marvelous all the way around!

Why thank you so much! I appreciate that!

kensington
June 4th, 2014, 09:59 PM
You could drug her and shave her as she sleeps....

Put NAIR in her shampoo...

EsGrandma
June 4th, 2014, 10:12 PM
I hope that I never make you all mad!!

Hulamoon
June 4th, 2014, 10:18 PM
I hope that I never make you all mad!!

Nah, there is just a general mother kid thing going around :)

IBake
June 4th, 2014, 10:47 PM
You know what they say...raising teenagers is like trying to nail jello to a tree.

I personally would go with the alarm that doesn't turn off and has an insufferable amount of snooze alarms that don't turn off.

Midge
June 4th, 2014, 11:07 PM
You meant to say a very loud alarm clock sitting in a metal pie plate, right?

LOL to all the parenting woes! Been there and done that. For me, I am ever so grateful that all that got resolved resulting in a wonderful relationship today. But we are talking lots and lots and lots of time for that to happen.

WendyI
June 4th, 2014, 11:14 PM
Ok...my boy is only 11...y'all are scarin me!

Hulamoon
June 4th, 2014, 11:20 PM
Wendy, boy's are easier than girls. No worries until you have to talk condom situation.

Sandy Navas
June 4th, 2014, 11:21 PM
Boys, I have heard, are easy . . .

Vonnie
June 4th, 2014, 11:22 PM
Turn about's fair play. Find something to criticize her about that you know will really irk her. Then after she blows up, you make a deal with her. Tell her you will stop if she does. Sounds juvenile but it might just work.

When DH and I first married, he was the worst back seat driver ever! I got so nervous with him in the car that I just got to where I would claim the passenger seat. I did not say a word to him. After some time had passed, I think it was a few months, he asked me why I never drove anymore. I told him he criticized me so much it made me nervous and I refused to drive with him in the car until he promised he would stop it. It was difficult for him at first but he managed it. When we first married it was a 22 hour drive to the closest relatives. So, they can learn.

Sharyn J
June 4th, 2014, 11:23 PM
Oh, you guys are so funny! Nair, Gorilla glue, non-stop alarm clocks. haha.....gave me a good laugh! She's not a teenager. She's a grown woman who has been through some rough times, post-divorce and health issues. She's chatty Cathy to the extreme, usually when my favorite TV program is on. She's got some very irritating OCD's that drive me nuts. I guess I was never the kind of person who found it necessary to have every duck lined up in a perfect row, but she does!

Sometimes I get mad when she gets so possessed over stupid things, like leaving a kitchen drawer open, or the correct lids were not placed on the correct pan before storing. Oh, almost forgot that favorite fork and spoon that she must use. What did I do with them? You'd think we were living here with plastic flatware and no other silverware to use. Once I made the mistake of keeping her busy laying out my quilt blocks on the floor. Two days later, she still couldn't make up her mind.

I am so thankful that she found a new job today and will be starting soon. I love her dearly and she's really a good kid, but I like my space and I actually enjoy "quiet." I enjoy listening to the hum of my sewing machine. :icon_heh:

K. McEuen
June 4th, 2014, 11:26 PM
Wendy, boy's are easier than girls. No worries until you have to talk condom situation.

Ah hahaha! My sister had the distinct pleasure of telling her then teenage son to not flush his used condoms down the toilet,as they were on a septic system, and they clogged everything up! The septic guy was snickering in the background ...

Vonnie
June 4th, 2014, 11:33 PM
Wendy, boy's are easier than girls. No worries until you have to talk condom situation.

LOL - I had to talk to them, DH did not see why we should! They are easier to buy clothes for, that's for sure. Jeans and t-shirts. Good pair of athletic shoes.

BobW
June 4th, 2014, 11:49 PM
I realize she is older than a child any longer. I am the person known in the group of friends I have as the person that cheers for the Child Catcher in the movie Chitty-Chitty Bang-Bang. I think every community should have one.

http://youtu.be/zUnhfvGdmmw

But since she is an adult, maybe you should tell her that if she can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.

WendyI
June 5th, 2014, 12:00 AM
Ok...I don`t remember this being from CCBB! That is one creepy dude!!

auntiemern
June 5th, 2014, 12:58 AM
Boys ARE so much easier. I didn't believe that until Gabe came along. I could take 10 of him. The girls....let's just say I have waaaayyyy more gray hair than I did before them, lol.

Mchelem
June 5th, 2014, 01:34 AM
Wendy, boy's are easier than girls. No worries until you have to talk condom situation.

Or find his secret stash of porn and pillowcases.

KerryA
June 5th, 2014, 01:34 AM
Wendy, boy's are easier than girls. No worries until you have to talk condom situation.

You guys are cracking me up. I guess because this conversation is hitting close to home. But I can add that I only have one kid - a 21 year old boy. Last night his girlfriend texts me that she had her birth control implant removed because it was making her sick. Too Much Info! I thought a boy was easier to raise - but then somehow the past girlfriend and current girlfriend seem to include me in every conversation so this mom ends up knowing too much!!!

Mchelem
June 5th, 2014, 01:41 AM
Oh, you guys are so funny! Nair, Gorilla glue, non-stop alarm clocks. haha.....gave me a good laugh! She's not a teenager. She's a grown woman who has been through some rough times, post-divorce and health issues. She's chatty Cathy to the extreme, usually when my favorite TV program is on. She's got some very irritating OCD's that drive me nuts. I guess I was never the kind of person who found it necessary to have every duck lined up in a perfect row, but she does!

Sometimes I get mad when she gets so possessed over stupid things, like leaving a kitchen drawer open, or the correct lids were not placed on the correct pan before storing. Oh, almost forgot that favorite fork and spoon that she must use. What did I do with them? You'd think we were living here with plastic flatware and no other silverware to use. Once I made the mistake of keeping her busy laying out my quilt blocks on the floor. Two days later, she still couldn't make up her mind.

I am so thankful that she found a new job today and will be starting soon. I love her dearly and she's really a good kid, but I like my space and I actually enjoy "quiet." I enjoy listening to the hum of my sewing machine. :icon_heh:


I just have to say, as some one who is OCD like this, it's not something a person can just stop doing. I have to have the drawers and cabinets closed. I can't do anything else if a drawer or door is open-it's like it consumes my mind. I'm the same way with my fork. I have a special fork and it's the one I eat with. The pans and lids thing I get too. I imagine that at sometime in her life, she lost control of a situation. For me, I was raped at a very young age. Those "stupid little things" to you, are something that I can control. They aren't stupid to someone with OCD.

I have lived in my house for 8 years. I know that there are 19 steps from my bottom floor to my top floor. Still, every time I walk up those stairs, I count them. I can't touch a cylindrical object without rolling it in between my fingers. I can't function if there is clutter or my things are not in their place. To you, stupid things. To me, things I can't help. It's the way our brains are wired. Before you judge her and say her ways are stupid, you should try to understand why she does them.

Just sayin.

maxwellthecat
June 5th, 2014, 02:16 AM
I hope your daughter lives far away from you, LOL.
I had 3 daughters and when they were young, my DH was working the night shift and during the day he had to sleep and I had to keep them kind of quiet. I never thought raising 3 DD's was so incredibly hard. Well, I've lived to talk about it. They are now in their 30's and now I could sit back and laugh from them.

rebeccas-sewing
June 5th, 2014, 05:24 AM
Now, hearing your story I kinda feel sorry for her and I understand why you put up with it. It's a terrible thing to have OCD. Just think you can never really relax unless everything is perfect in your mind. I guess the only thing you can do is ignore her negative comments and definitely don't ask her opinion. I'd imagine by now you no better than to ask. I used to think I had a touch of this problem but when I hear what it's truly like to have OCD I realize I don't. I've also noticed as I've gotten older that I'm not as fussy about things being perfect.

toggpine
June 5th, 2014, 11:49 AM
Wendy, boy's are easier than girls. No worries until you have to talk condom situation.


Boys, I have heard, are easy . . .

You REALLY don't want to talk to me about this right now.

I'll gladly take my daughter & her "moods" over what the son is dishing up for us.

Sharyn J
June 5th, 2014, 12:40 PM
I just have to say, as some one who is OCD like this, it's not something a person can just stop doing. I have to have the drawers and cabinets closed. I can't do anything else if a drawer or door is open-it's like it consumes my mind. I'm the same way with my fork. I have a special fork and it's the one I eat with. The pans and lids thing I get too. I imagine that at sometime in her life, she lost control of a situation. For me, I was raped at a very young age. Those "stupid little things" to you, are something that I can control. They aren't stupid to someone with OCD.

I have lived in my house for 8 years. I know that there are 19 steps from my bottom floor to my top floor. Still, every time I walk up those stairs, I count them. I can't touch a cylindrical object without rolling it in between my fingers. I can't function if there is clutter or my things are not in their place. To you, stupid things. To me, things I can't help. It's the way our brains are wired. Before you judge her and say her ways are stupid, you should try to understand why she does them.

Just sayin.

I'm sorry if I offended you or anyone else with OCD. You are absolutely correct that tramatic experiences often bring on these behaviors. Without getting too detailed, my daughter is 42 yrs old and never suffered from any of this behavior until she married, 18 yrs. ago. I blame my ex-SIL for his extreme controlling behavior; cutting phone lines inside & outside the home, disconnecting wires from her car so she couldn't go anywhere, dragging her to court twice a month for years with the divorce. His mother constanting interfering with their marriage and children. I could go on and on, but you get the picture.

When my DD started to have panic attacks, it was real and certainly not imagined in her head. She often had to pull off the road when driving to regain her composure. Then she started to be more compulsive with the little things. One thing led to another.

Since she's been living with me, she no longer suffers from panic attacks, her BP is near normal and she's gotten much better with the little things that annoy her. Little by little she is overcoming them and becoming the strong person that she once was. So, please forgive my teasing about her. It wasn't meant to offend anyone.

But, I'm still going to tease her about that darn fork and spoon!

kaydee
June 6th, 2014, 01:31 AM
In defense of girls . . . I found my son much more difficult in his teen years than my daughter (who was a breeze). I definitely breathed a sigh of relief when we dropped him off at college. In fact, I did a happy dance in the elevator on the way out of the dorm. He graduated from the University of Wisconsin in 2 1/2 years, moved back to our city afterward (but not home), and we get along fine now.

My daughter and I really have never had a harsh word. She moved out to grad school in California last year, and she calls me every day on her way home from class. I miss her so much.

As to which is more expensive -- that depends on what all you include. My son's activities (and associated trips) were every bit as expensive as his sisters, if not more so.

So, it all depends on the kid. My daughter and I butted heads DAILY when she was a preschooler, but since then, we've had no problems.

Mchelem
June 6th, 2014, 01:48 AM
I'm sorry if I offended you or anyone else with OCD. You are absolutely correct that tramatic experiences often bring on these behaviors. Without getting too detailed, my daughter is 42 yrs old and never suffered from any of this behavior until she married, 18 yrs. ago. I blame my ex-SIL for his extreme controlling behavior; cutting phone lines inside & outside the home, disconnecting wires from her car so she couldn't go anywhere, dragging her to court twice a month for years with the divorce. His mother constanting interfering with their marriage and children. I could go on and on, but you get the picture.

When my DD started to have panic attacks, it was real and certainly not imagined in her head. She often had to pull off the road when driving to regain her composure. Then she started to be more compulsive with the little things. One thing led to another.

Since she's been living with me, she no longer suffers from panic attacks, her BP is near normal and she's gotten much better with the little things that annoy her. Little by little she is overcoming them and becoming the strong person that she once was. So, please forgive my teasing about her. It wasn't meant to offend anyone.

But, I'm still going to tease her about that darn fork and spoon!



No offense taken. I can understand how odd it must be to someone who watches from the outside, wondering why in the heck a person must turn a key three times, every single time. I don't know how to explain it, but it's just something that your brain latches onto and unless you do it, the whole world just sort of stops, and nothing will be right until you go back and turn that key three times.
My ex was an ass like your ex SIL as well, and my sense of well being, and self esteem were non existent when I divorced. I didn't used to be A control freak, or OCD about things, but it seems that once I got away from him things started needing to be a certain way (my closets are color coded-shirts on white hangers, pants on black hangers, skirts on pink) and it's just gotten worse as I've aged. I hope that by the time I'm 80, I can pass a picture in the hall without needing to adjust it, or be able to walk past a drawer or cabinet without having to close them, but probably not. My nursing home will have the most organized arts and craft area lol.