View Full Version : Archer goes to his new home today. :(

April 19th, 2014, 07:26 AM
So we have made the decision to rehome our border collie. :( We love him so much and that is why we have to let him go. Over the past two years my knee has degenerated and I am no longer as mobile as I need to be for his optimal care. While I am a firm believer in pets are for life, sometimes you have to do what is best for that pet and let them go. He has been licking his forelegs maniacally and creating brown spots on his beautiful white fur as a result. He also chews his "ankles"...this is behaviour caused by stress and lack of proper activity for such an intelligent dog. He is too smart for us! We play hide-and-go-seek with his toys and he almost always finds them. But he is bored beyond belief and we just cannot provide the stimulation he requires. My poor cats are stalked and herded relentlessly because he NEEDS a job.

So a friend who has four acres which backs onto 200 acres of crown land has agreed to have him. This friend had a heart attack ten years ago so must exercise daily. He walks their other dog twice a day. Archer will be incredibly happy there I know. I will miss him terribly. Although he was supposed to be Scott's dog, I am the one of course who feeds and grooms him and he follows me wherever I am. I NEVER go to the bathroom without my entourage. lol. I am heartbroken but I KNOW this is the RIGHT thing for him and for us as well. Because of his boredom he causes a lot of damage and stress in our home. But that doesn't stop me from being incredibly sad. I feel like this might be the first step in the dismantling of my life.

I will miss you my beautiful boy.


April 19th, 2014, 07:49 AM
He is a gorgeous dog. I know what you are going through. We had to do the same thing when I was a kid. We had a beautiful german sheppard. She had long snow white hair and beautiful brown eyes. We could not keep her in the back yard without chaining her. Our fence was 6 ft and she jumped it easily. Our next door neighbor had a relative who had a farm and were looking for a dog for their children that would be gentle yet big enough to protect them. She was both.

So sorry you had to give him up.

April 19th, 2014, 07:56 AM
Wendy, you know I am not an animal person but I do understand. Sometimes in life, the hardest things to do are the most painful. What you are doing is an act of kindness on behalf of your beloved pet. He was lucky to have had you in the first place and now he is going on to another loving home. Chin up and pat yourself on the back. And you can always visit him, right?

April 19th, 2014, 08:00 AM
Wendy, you are doing what's best for Archer, so think of that whenever you get to feeling bad about it.

Cathy F
April 19th, 2014, 08:14 AM
Wendy, your Archer is a beautiful dog. I hear the pain your post how hard this is for you. Letting our pets go is one of the hardest things but you have put his best interests above yours out of your love for him. Hugs to you and I hope you will be able to visit with him.

April 19th, 2014, 08:38 AM
Wendy, I'm so sorry. I know you will miss him, but it sounds like you are doing the right thing. Back in 2005, when my ex and I sold our house, I had to give up my yellow lab because I could not find an apartment that would allow me to have him. He was my dog and I was heartbroken. He ended up going to ex hubby's sister, which was wonderful because I knew she would treat him just as I had. It was still so hard not having him there daily. I hope that you will be able to visit with him once in a while.

April 19th, 2014, 09:53 AM
What a sweet baby. It's wonderful that you have found him a great home. I'm sure you are heartbroken but at least you will know he has a good home. Hugs to you!

April 19th, 2014, 09:53 AM
Wendy - I am sorry that you have to give up Archer. Doing what is best can be the hardest thing ever. Be comforted by the fact that he will be happy running and playing to his hearts content. I applaud you for finding him a great new home.

April 19th, 2014, 10:10 AM
Archer is beautiful. Herding dogs need space where they can be active. I'm sure you're sad, but you're doing what's best for him.

April 19th, 2014, 10:12 AM
Awww Wendy, I know it hurts and will continue to hurt, but you are doing the right thing for your beloved Archer. Hoping that you can visit him after he gets settled in. How is Liam handling the dog situation? Hopefully, it is not as hard on him as it is on you. Hugs and good thoughts for you and your family.

April 19th, 2014, 10:54 AM
Thank you everyone. I am always overwhelmed at the kidness I find here. Thankfully it is more prevalent than other less desirable behaviour.... which is why this place is so awesome.

Liam has been very well prepared for this situation. About six months ago a friend moved away and we adopted their cockapooh who ADORES Liam and is a major joy in our life. He did not displace Archer in any way....just added to out life. Liam is very bright and understands what is best for Archer ...and it helps that I don't cry in front of him! Lol. No promises that won't happen when we leave him today though. Lol. He will miss Archer but he thankfully understands.

April 19th, 2014, 10:57 AM
We got our Border Collie last summer because the owner was unable to give her what this breed requires, which is a lot. We did not know at the time how much we needed her! She is happier with stay-at-home "parents" and playing with our older dog who is her constant companion. Her previous owner can rest assured she is in a loving home. Sometimes, even though difficult to do, it's a "win-win" situation, like ours and yours.

April 19th, 2014, 11:01 AM
Wendy......Archer is such a pretty dog. I know you will miss him dearly but it sounds like his new home will fit him perfectly. Knowing Archer is happy and being loved in his new home will help. Thinking of you.

April 19th, 2014, 11:07 AM
(((Wendy))), you're doing what a responsible pet owner should do - what is best for the pet. :) It's a hard choice to make for sure but Archer will be happier on a farm/ranch. Being who he's is, and we all know that you and your family loved him while you had him and took good care of him. He'll always be a part of your memories. :D

Huggers, Ruby

April 19th, 2014, 11:08 AM
I'm sorry about Archer. Many hugs to you and him.

April 20th, 2014, 01:34 PM
That's so sad, Wendy, but like other posters have already said, you are doing the right thing for Archer. He'll be able to run around and get tired out which is what collies try to do (but never seem to manage!). He's a beautiful dog.

April 20th, 2014, 02:22 PM
It takes a lot of courage to let go, Wendy. I think it's great that you're thinking of your pet's best interests. His new home sounds ideal. I know how much you'll miss him, but you'll feel so good knowing you are giving him such an ideal living situation. Sometimes it just doesn't work out and changes should be made. It's great that you recognize that.

April 20th, 2014, 02:39 PM
I am sooooooo sorry. Pets are very special to us, too. The summer before last, I had total hip replacement. When I came home, my DH walked our beautiful, loveable dog who was poisoned by a drink of water. As I held my husband ,sobbing in my arms, I thought what else could go wrong. Nothing else went wrong except for a pain in our hearts. I know your pain and I totally sympathize with you. It does pass but it takes a while. You have been so helpful to me in your posts. Thanks for being a good guy. Love y'all, Mart

April 20th, 2014, 04:17 PM
my DH walked our beautiful, loveable dog who was poisoned by a drink of water.

You must mean he was poisoned by something IN the water, not the water itself?

I have a friend who has a border collie. He takes "Hank" to a nearby farm that will let the dogs herd sheep for a few hours. I've never seen that dog happier than he is after a visit to the farm.

I think certain animals are like people - they need a purpose in life. Border collies and horses are two examples of "pets" that NEED to have a job in order to be happy. I think you are definitely doing what is in the best interest of your dog, and I hope that is a comfort to you.

April 20th, 2014, 04:20 PM
Thanks all. You have made what was a very difficult decision, much easier to deal with. I am sad but I know that we made the right decision and he will absolutely be much happier there. You should have seen him running around their property! I will miss him terribly but I can visit him and get regular updates. AND he IS on a 30 day trial so I may get him back! lol. I doubt it though...he is SUCH an awesome dog...I know they are going to fall in love with him and he will fit right into their home.

Ginny B
April 20th, 2014, 06:01 PM
Oh he is a beautiful boy. Border collies are so smart --- and do need something to do for sure. I can hear how hard it is on you having to give him to another home but it sounds like he loved it being able to use up all that energy. I am glad you will be able to visit him and to know how he is doing. Please don't think of this as dismantling; you said it was causing stress and any stress you can get rid of is a plus. Also, it sounds like Archer was very stressed too so you have de-stressed him too. Positive things in our lives are not always the easy things. It sounds like you have done a very unselfish thing for Archer. Think of it as one of your children leaving home for a great job. You miss them terribly but are also very happy for them. {{{{{hugs}}}}}}.

April 20th, 2014, 06:49 PM
Wendy I understand. He is so beautiful. What you are doing for him is a courageous act of love. As for the dismantling of your life.... not sure that is a good word choice, but i understand it as well. Dh and I are having to do repairs and such with the physical challenges we know are coming. I'm trying to declutter and simplify our life. With my health issues I simply can't continue like things are. Hugggs to you.