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March 11th, 2014, 08:12 AM
This is less of an "update" and more of a thinly veiled excuse to post pictures of the cutest kid in the world.

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Sawyer is doing well. We have been working on getting our days and nights straightened out. He isn't too happy that we wake him up about every 2 hours during the day but I think he is no less happy than I am to be woken up every 3 hours at night. He had a Dr. appointment last Friday and he was 9lbs 11oz. He was born 8lb 2oz but was about 7lb 11oz when he left the hospital. That boy loves to eat- he'll fit in well in this family.

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I think mom is a little upset that everyone keeps saying "The baby looks just like his dad!" because I think she wants to see a part of herself in the baby. I already told her he has her ears, is likely to get her eyes (While it is too early to know adult eye color other than "blue", his eyes have a darker ring around the edge of the colored part, my wife's eyes do too but mine do not.) and he is not a morning person so that comes from her as well. Also- she found me handsome enough to be with me for 14 years and make a baby with so looking like me isn't totally a bad thing.

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Mom is doing okay but at times is still getting a little overwhelmed by this whole parenting thing. I'm trying to be supportive but I think she wants to be coddled and that simply isn't my style. I'm more of a rationalist and completely honest with her (in a nice way). I think once you start telling someone what they want to hear rather than what you honestly think then you lose a certain amount of trust. Sometimes that works, other times not so much. She does/did have a clogged milk duct which was causing her a lot of pain. After talking to a few friends it was suggested to use a baby diaper soaked in the hottest water she could stand on the breast then to breast feed directly rather than pumping and bottle feeding (which is what we usually do). This seems to have helped but if anyone has other ideas/suggestions besides "apply heat" feel free to share your motherly wisdom either here or via private message.

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I am hanging in there. It has been tough between trying to help with the baby duties, help with housework, care of the chickens, and going back to work. I think I'm finally coming to terms with the loss of sleep and it seems to be getting easier to function on only a few hours of rest.

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We are going to Tennessee to visit my both of our families soon and I know the grandparents can't wait to meet the little guy. People have called us crazy for not having the moms up to "help with the baby" but honestly I think that what we did worked for us. I think we were both glad to figure this parenting thing out without someone looking over our shoulder telling us how to do everything and it has given us more time as a family to bond. I think other couples should certainly do what works best for them but we have no regrets about telling the family that we needed a few weeks to get our feet under us. My mom was completely understanding, I think my in-laws were disappointed because they were at the hospital for my niece's birth and my S-i-L relied heavily on them (still does actually) while dealing with parenting and some post partum depression. I think they'll get over it though. I said- if you weren't in the room when the baby went in, you don't need to be in the room when the baby comes out. ;)

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Mom doesn't really take any pictures of me and little man so pretty much all of the pictures are of him or of the two of them. I promise I really do hold him sometimes!

March 11th, 2014, 08:22 AM
I feel Tabatha's pain. Hot diaper can help. Perhaps one of our nurses know something newer and more effective. Dont give up on the breast feeding.
Of course, Sawyer looks a lot like you but I do see Tabatha in him as well. Looks change over time and what she is giving him over the next 5 years will be more important and serve him better than his good looks. Generally speaking, boys look like their daddy's and girls favor their moms in appearance. Of course that is just a general rule. All my children take after my side of the family. My oldest son is a ringer for my Great Grandfather. My Middle Son looks like my Dad. My Daughter favors my sister more than me.
Now just give your precious wife some extra hugs. And remember to sing in your head the old Fleetwood Mac song "Tell me lies, tell me sweet little lies". Every gal knows the truth deep inside, you silly boy.
Hugs to y'all

March 11th, 2014, 08:25 AM
He just gets better all the time. I can see why Tabitha wants to see some of her in him. Since we don't have baby pics to compare, we can only go by what is seen without them. I think the mere fact that he is a boy, and light headed pushes the vote your direction.
Great advice about the heat on the breast. That should work just fine. It IS very painful.
You don't need to 'coddle' Tabitha, but make sure you don't turn your entire lives into 'all about Sawyer', ya know? Give her ample attention. At least the same amount she got prior to giving birth. She is after all, the one that did the hard part. JS
I think you MIL decision was a good one. Sometimes it is harder to get a handle on everything if you have to many 'helping hands'

March 11th, 2014, 08:40 AM
...Since we don't have baby pics to compare...

I don't have any pictures of Baby Tabatha but here is the side-by-side of my nice compact little 6.5lb self next to him at 8.5lbs

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Hard to tell much from this picture but comparing him to pictures of me and both of my brothers as babies- the boy is definitely a Cooper baby. :) I was a nice compact little 6.5lb baby where-as he is closer to 8.5lbs in his pic.

March 11th, 2014, 08:43 AM
These pictures are great, Ryan. I love the second one of Tabitha holding Sawyer...she's glowing and looks beautiful! I agree with you about having too many people around in the beginning. Sawyer gets cuter every time you give us an update. Wishing you all nothing but the best...

Iris Girl
March 11th, 2014, 08:51 AM
He is getting so big!! The second picture of Tabitha and Sawyer is a beautiful picture. I can see some of her in him also. Hang in there and things will all work out. Give Mom a few extra hugs.

Jean Sewing Machine
March 11th, 2014, 08:53 AM
Love the pictures and the story! Hang in there with the breast feeding. I was a La Leche League leader(35 years ago!), and the hot wet cloth is a good help, but continued and frequent nursing is necessary. You have to grit your teeth as the baby nurses, but it will pass.

March 11th, 2014, 09:03 AM
Thank you SO much Ryan for the smiles you gave me this morning! This little man just gets cuter and cuter. Oh my!
I think you guys are doing a wonderful job figuring this out as you go along. Just listen to that "inner voice". It'll never let you down. For Tabatha I call it the "mommy voice". It works!

As for the breastfeeding, being a HUGE advocate (and having nursed my last baby till she said "NO, don't want that!") here is a link to what I called "my bible" and shared with EVERYONE I know who has walked this path. I bet I've purchased a dozen copies of this book.

The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding: Diane Wiessinger, Diana West, Teresa Pitman: 9780345518446: Amazon.com: Books (http://www.amazon.com/The-Womanly-Breastfeeding-Diane-Wiessinger/dp/0345518446/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1394539117&sr=8-1&keywords=the+womanly+art+of+breastfeeding)

And lastly, please keep the updates and pictures coming! It's the joy in my day when you do! ***HUGS***

March 11th, 2014, 09:14 AM
Viewing the latest photos was a grand way to begin my morning. Such a sweet look little guy with his quilts and afghans surrounding him like all the love from Tabitha and you as well as from all his Aunts and Uncles here on the forum.

March 11th, 2014, 09:21 AM
Ryan find any excuse you like to post pictures of your darling baby and beautiful wife.

March 11th, 2014, 09:27 AM
It's nice to start the day with a dose of Sawyer. He's doing great. His looks will change some over time so Tabatha shouldn't give up on him looking like her too. My son also takes after his dad. I've never thought he resembled me much and I'm surprised when someone says he does.

March 11th, 2014, 09:28 AM
Maybe its just me, but his eyes look just like his moms. What a beautiful pic of Tabitha and Sawyer. It is good to hear things are moving along well. The grandparents will be stealing him away for sure.

Thank you for sharing with us. Love seeing the pics.

March 11th, 2014, 10:32 AM
Great post Ryan - thank you - your wife and baby are beautiful...
Someone gave me some great advice years ago - you are a wife/husband FIRST, mommy/daddy second - make sure you always make time for eachother (it gets easier to do that, I promise) - if you and your wife are a 'united front' no matter what, your kids will feel secure in that (and believe me they will think twice before trying to pit you against eachother when they want something - ask me how I know :) )... it was good advice that I never forgot and we're coming up on 26 years in April. Our now adult daughters comment on how they always knew we loved eachother and respected eachother; even when we had differences.

Quote by Ryan...
"I said- if you weren't in the room when the baby went in, you don't need to be in the room when the baby comes out. "
I'm with ya there....

March 11th, 2014, 10:40 AM
He is just so sweet! And mom is just beautiful!

You three are off to a fantabulous start!!

Simply Quilting
March 11th, 2014, 10:44 AM
Beautiful pictures. Keep them coming.

As far as the milk duct, try breastfeeding that side first and massage as he is nursing. And try different nursing positions, like the football hold. I have had a couple in my day, thankfully, they never turned it to mastitis but they sure were painful.

March 11th, 2014, 10:46 AM

The last pic with Sawyer on the afghan is the cutest of all to me. He is quite a handsome Sawyer. And I think that getting your feet on the ground is a great idea. You have a beautiful family.

Miss Sheri
March 11th, 2014, 10:51 AM
Thanks Ryan,
You made my morning too. I love that picture of Sawyer on the Big S on that quilt. Like a little superman.
Just a tiny hint that you may embrace or ignore. . . It took 9 months for Tabitha's body and hormones to give life and birth to that sweet little mini-cooper. . . . It takes a while for both the body AND the hormones to get back to normal. Now is a really good time to give that darling woman EXTRA doses of love and thoughtfulness. And, btw, from all accounts, YOU are doing a super great job of being the Adult sized 'superman', willing to take on extra responsibilities and hubby/daddy duties and heading back to work too. It isn't easy, I know that, but it will always be worth it. (and, the hard parts settle down pretty soon, I promise) Blessings on you all. ~Sheri

March 11th, 2014, 10:53 AM
He is so precious.

March 11th, 2014, 10:58 AM
I wasn't around for the immaculate....on the forum that is, but you two made a beautiful fella! Your posts sound like you are working your plan, and from my experience, successful plans include mitigation. Keep up the good work, for that is what makes success! Congratulations! From the Grand Mesa in Colorado.

March 11th, 2014, 10:59 AM
Love, love, love starting my day with Sawyer pics!! He really is a cute patoot! :icon_bigsmile:

Oh, I remember well that sense of being overwhelmed in the beginning! Both you and Tabatha sound like such great parents who are tired but adjusting well to the demands of parenthood. Hey, no disrespect to the marines, but despite their slogan - it's motherhood that is the toughest job you will ever love! :icon_bigsmile: And these days, (especially in your case) I think we can add fatherhood to that as well since dads are so much more hands on. :icon_bigsmile:

You have a beautiful family and I love sharing in your journey through your posts and pictures. :icon_bigsmile:

March 11th, 2014, 01:07 PM
Sweetness! I love his precious face! I love even more how proud you are of him to share him with us!

March 11th, 2014, 01:08 PM
Thanks for the update, Ryan - your little "Mini Cooper" looks wonderful, as does his lovely mama!

And, try to remember: coddling children (NOT newborns! it's pretty much impossible to spoil 'em prior to 3 months) = bad. Coddling wife = good. Rational is great as soon as her hormones return to normal and neither of you is sleep-deprived. Until then, you are doing YOURSELF a big favor by making liberal deposits into her "My DH is the Best" account. Trust me, it will pay off amazing dividends!

And while you're at it, try to coddle yourself a little, too. Spend some "me" time if you're able. Enjoy!

K. McEuen
March 11th, 2014, 01:24 PM
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This is a great picture! Sawyer does have Tabatha's eyes. Same shape at least, the color may come later like you said. You can tell Tabatha she has good taste. No Ryan, nothing to do with you! I have the same shirt as she is wearing in this picture. :)

March 11th, 2014, 10:27 PM
Oh my goodness, Sawyer is the prettiest baby! I love all the pics, and beautiful Tabitha is just glowing! Hang in there on the feeding and lack of sleep, it will get better. Keep the pics coming, they make the day brighter!

March 11th, 2014, 10:49 PM
Oh, you're right, your little Sawyer is ab-so-lute-ly adorable.

Hang in there with nursing, it's the best start you can give your baby. It's fun to think about your wife being an expert on cows, and then taking a stand for her own species by nursing your baby instead of using cow's milk. Way to go, Tabitha!

Thanks for posting more pictures of Sawyer. We are a bunch of lucky cyber-aunties to have him.

March 11th, 2014, 11:02 PM
Thank you Ryan for taking the time to send some precious pictures of mama and baby. Like others have said already, Tabatha really is glowing in the picture with the pink shirt. She looks so proud to be a mama to her little Sawyer. And you, the proud papa, sharing stories about your little man with us. Steal little minutes for yourself, and keep giving Tabatha little moments for herself. Things will smooth out, as a little time passes.

Andrea F
March 12th, 2014, 03:24 AM
Tabatha and Sawyer look great, absolutely adorable. Make sure to take pictures of yourself with Sawyer too. When our first son was born I took tons of pictures from him and Thomas. Later I was a bit sad because I realized that there are only very few pictures from me with him during his first months.