View Full Version : Thanks and sorry...

February 26th, 2014, 03:56 PM
Over the last couple of weeks so many people have offered me kind words of support and advice both in threads here and via private messages. I feel like I have been so busy that I have not really acknowledged how much all of this has meant to me and my wife as we navigated childbirth, a stay in the NICU, and bringing little man home. I feel like I'm so tired I end up talking at all of you rather than to you and that is not my intention. All the support you have offered has been very uplifting during a very trying time in our lives and has meant more than you'll ever know. I want to apologize for not being as prompt in responding to all of you as I should have been. I know I could probably use the "I'm tired because of a new baby" excuse and get away with it but I am a firm believer that people make time for what is important to them. You have all made time for me and my family so we must be important to you and the friendships I have made here are important to me and I should make time for them too. (Also, my son sleeps like 20 hours a day so it isn't like I can't find 5 minutes to get on a computer).

As things settle down a little and we fall into a routine I hope to have more time to make quilts and more energy to be a more active participant on the forums here offering (often misguided) advice about quilting and ogling all the beautiful things the rest of you have made.

Thanks everyone for being awesome!

Here is little man with a rooster puppet that our neighbor got for him. They also keep chickens but they only have bantam (miniature) chickens which lay tiny little eggs.
http://i64.photobucket.com/albums/h170/HandsomeRyan/photobucket-11683-1393439817468_zps23099ba6.jpg (http://s64.photobucket.com/user/HandsomeRyan/media/photobucket-11683-1393439817468_zps23099ba6.jpg.html)

Here is little man in his "trucks" onesie hanging out in his bouncy chair.
http://i64.photobucket.com/albums/h170/HandsomeRyan/photobucket-9411-1393440655107_zpse95d90e6.jpg (http://s64.photobucket.com/user/HandsomeRyan/media/photobucket-9411-1393440655107_zpse95d90e6.jpg.html)

February 26th, 2014, 03:58 PM
What a sweetie pie! You are blessed

February 26th, 2014, 04:02 PM
You can absolutely use the I'm tired excuse, but no excuse is necessary. We are all so excited for you and Tabatha and your new family (I'm pretty sure I'm speaking for all of us). Baby Sawyer should be your main focus. Time goes by so fast, so don't blink.

February 26th, 2014, 04:08 PM
Oh, Ryan... You don 't have anything to apologize for.... Really.... Most of us have bern where you are today, so we know how exhausting a newborn....even one who sleeps 20 hours a day....can be....

I don't think anyone really expects personal replies to every post or PM.... We all just want to shower you and your sweet family with our love and admiration.... Little Man is, indeed, a darling baby.... We love to see pictures of him... He's kind if like " our " baby... He has tons of aunts and grammas out here....

So relax....

February 26th, 2014, 04:13 PM
Ryan all is forgiven as soon as we get our "fix" of little man pictures. New babies change your whole life and routines. Just relax and things will even out.

Jean Sewing Machine
February 26th, 2014, 04:14 PM
Ryan, feel no need to apologize! Any of us who have had children know what the first few weeks are like! I remember those 6 weeks after babies were born as fuzzy days of a time warp mainly around feedings, crying, diaper changes, trying to negotiate meals, caring for older siblings and catching some sleep when possible. Things didn't really form a routine until about 6 weeks out! And I never had a C section or a kid in the NICU!

Keep us updated when you can! Love your photos!
I drove past our city's Mini Cooper dealership today and of course thought of Sawyer!

K. McEuen
February 26th, 2014, 04:26 PM
Bantam chickens! I played with the two my brother had when I was 4 like they were my dolls. I'd wrap them in receiving blankets and push them around in a baby buggy. I'd hold them like babies and feed them with my disappearing milk baby bottle. They didn't care. They'd ride around all day in that buggy and would fall asleep while I held them. Of course I always had crackers or something else to give them too. That used to tick my brother off to no end because his chickens were never in the coop when he went to check on them. I honestly don't remember having dolls at that age, but I do remember the chickens.

Once your life falls into a routine, you'll be back in full force Ryan. I think everyone here understands why you are bit preoccupied right now.

February 26th, 2014, 04:37 PM
No need for apologies - we've all been where you are right now. Just keep the pictures coming. My my my...Sawyer is a real cutie pie.

Iris Girl
February 26th, 2014, 04:44 PM
Sawyer is such a cutie. No apologies needed. Most have been there and went through what you are . Keep the pictures coming and all is good. Take care of that adorable little man and his momma too.

February 26th, 2014, 05:02 PM
Ryan, there's no need for an apology. We all understand that you're busy caring for your family...and that's exactly as it should be. Sawyer is such a cutie. Thank YOU for sharing him with us!

Sandy Navas
February 26th, 2014, 05:10 PM
Ryan, the only thing you are required to do is to keep those wonderful pictures coming.

And, I won't tell what happened to my big Brother's bantam chick . . . but I have scars to prove it.

February 26th, 2014, 05:12 PM
Mr Ryan . . more important than us here on the forum is your family . . . your son is as beautiful as his parents . .
now for a little bit of a suggestion -- well maybe two . . L*~ . . . Momma is VERY important . . DON'T FORGET A DATE NIGHT
and when someone offers to help . . take it

-- when I had my 1st child . . I wanted my little family all to myself . . I didn't want help :|

when I was preggo with my 2nd child - the hubby *at the time*~ was in a horrible accident
-- a dump truck cross the line on a curve and hit the hubby *at the time*~ head on . . .
when I needed help and asked - NO ONE was around -- no one offer to help

-- make every moment count -- enjoy every single moment --
they grow up so fast and before you know it - you wonder where time had gone -
my baby was just 36 a few days ago . . .

February 26th, 2014, 05:29 PM
Ryan, no need to apologize. We do know what it's like and we all understand. Just keep the pictures coming when you have time and cherish each moment. Babies grow so fast. Sawyer is so adorable.

February 26th, 2014, 06:25 PM
You HAVE made time for what is important. Little man takes presidence over anything else and there isn't a single person who would or should say otherwise. You have a precious little guy there that needs you both so don't feel bad. We are adults here and totally understand. I don't think anyone will argue that.

Simply Quilting
February 26th, 2014, 06:44 PM
Ryan, no need for apologies. You are taking care of the most important thing right now - your family. Many of us on the forum have been there with a new baby and the life changes he/she brings. Although they may sleep many hours, it is not all at once.

Enjoy him and your wife and don't worry about us. The forum isn't going anywhere, there will be plenty of time to post in the years to come. Although we do like to see his sweet face, we know the changes a baby brings.

February 26th, 2014, 06:53 PM
Just as long as you keep the photos of your little guy coming we're happy. May in Jersey

February 26th, 2014, 07:07 PM
What a cutie pie!!! He is just the sweetest little thing! You are truly blessed. :icon_happy:

February 26th, 2014, 08:30 PM
Little Man's pictures are just precious! They always bring a smile to my face.

February 26th, 2014, 08:57 PM
No worries!
As one who sent you a PM, I did it so you knew you had people who had walked the same path. And if you needed to ask a question, that there was someone out here that might be able to help. Kind of like that giant air cushion they put under situations where people might fall. We'll catch you and help lower you to safety. You may not need us, but we'll be there.
(Did I just describe us as a bunch of air bags??? Great. Sorry folks.)

We are thrilled that you and the family have made it home and are getting things together. Having a baby is exhausting, both physically & emotionally. When things don't go exactly as planned, that adds to it.

Thanks for sharing Sawyer with us, and give Tabatha a hug!
Blessings to you and your family! C

February 26th, 2014, 09:44 PM
He is sooooo cute. How blessed y'all are.

February 26th, 2014, 09:48 PM
Well, I'm a newbie and I don't 'know' you Ryan, but just wanted to say what a cracking little boy you have. He's adorable.

February 26th, 2014, 10:00 PM
Well, I can't accept your apology! That's because none was owed...

Just give your little man all the love and attention you can, get some rest and check in whenever you have a minute.

February 26th, 2014, 10:09 PM
Yes you should be ashamed. We've been slighted and can't understand it. LOL

No, really - you will find out that time has magically disappeared and you have none to spare. Enjoy it with family and when you have time, post those great pics of Sawyer and his parents. We'll always be here for you when you need us.

February 27th, 2014, 01:57 PM
What a beautiful baby. Congratulations.

February 27th, 2014, 09:34 PM
Ryan, no apology is necessary. You are a brand new dad with a brand new baby. Your first to boot. As long as you keep the pics coming, we are all happy campers. Give Mini Cooper a kiss on the cheek from Cyber Granny Marilyn.

Grandma G
February 27th, 2014, 09:51 PM
Ryan - I think everyone on the forum understands. We are so very excited for you and Tabatha. Don't worry about the rest of us. We just love hearing from you and seeing pictures of "your little man" when you get a chance to post. I'm afraid you are just stuck with all of us new aunties!!!

February 27th, 2014, 10:14 PM
Ryan...your little man Sawyer is absolutely adorable! Relax and enjoy those quiet hours of him sleeping while you can...because those days will be short lived!

February 27th, 2014, 10:30 PM
I've been off the forum for a bit and missed all the excitement. With a stay in the NICU I bet your nerves are raw and with a newborn at home I bet your sleep is limited. But what a cutie pie. He is such a handsome little man - hm, must take after daddy.

Mina Jane
March 1st, 2014, 12:46 AM
Soooo precious! I second what everyone else is saying. Time goes by so quickly. My son is 19 now and I still look at him like the blessing he is. I also don't "know" you with me being relatively new to the forum, but you seem to have a wonderful, beautiful family.

March 1st, 2014, 01:21 AM
Dude - Sorry for what? Because you have a life outside the forum? I daresay nearly every one of us has been there - done that- worn the spitupon tee shirt proudly. That beautiful little guy, your wife and yourself (not necessarily in that order) are your priority right now. The rest of us get to live vicariously through you. Please get rid of the misplaced guilt. It will not serve you in the long run. Come back when you can, and bring more PICTURES! It's all good here.

March 1st, 2014, 03:58 AM
As everyone has told you, no apologies are necessary...
When you have a baby the whole world narrows down to him, and that's just the way it should be!!
Believe us when we say this time will go by so fast you won't believe it. Enjoy it while you can..
Blessing on you & your family. :-)

March 1st, 2014, 04:34 AM
Ryan please you have no reason to apologize or feel bad,please most of us have been right where you are. you have a big adjustment in life and it does not happen over night.

March 1st, 2014, 04:51 AM
Oh my goodness, that is one precious baby!

Ryan, no apologies necessary. If you will be so kind as to post a picture of Sawyer even once a week, the entire forum will be thrilled.

Oh, do be thankful you got a good sleeper! My second was like Sawyer and slept 20 hours a day. But my first only took three 10-minute naps a day until she was 18-months old. Heavens, *I* needed more naps than she did!

Hope everything is going well.

March 2nd, 2014, 03:10 AM
No apologies needed, there are priorities in life, and family is first. And, btw, Sawyer is just too cute, I mean really, really cute!

March 2nd, 2014, 05:41 AM
That is one cute baby and a good excuse for not being around so much. Congratulations to you both and hope you are gettingsome sleep. You'll be back quilting before you know it!

March 2nd, 2014, 03:15 PM
Precious and beautiful boy! God's Blessings

March 2nd, 2014, 07:38 PM
Ryan ( and Tabatha ) no need to apologize. Like someone said here, we have all been where you and Tabatha are.....
Just enjoy Sawyer....and your new role as Mom and Dad. Before you know it, Sawyer will be asking for the car keys to take his first date out ! :) ( Seriously.....my kids are all grown and it's amazing how time flew ! My youngest is 27 yrs old. )
Just take it all one day at a time....
Take care, and keep the photos coming ! Above all, all of us probably enjoy the photos you post above anything ! :) Sawyer is sooo cute !