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February 16th, 2014, 06:33 AM
I think I am finally starting to feel better about our entire situation so I thought I'd post a quick update about the state and progress of my little family.

Baby Sawyer is doing really well. He is still in the NICU getting antibiotics for his infection and being monitored for his breathing but he is strong and he is already off his canula (sp?) and his IV fluids. We are still working on breast feeding but mom's milk has not fully come in so we are pumping and feeding milk/colostrum but supplementing with formula as needed. The idea is to transition him to milk as it becomes available. He has a little jaundice and is spending some time with a special light blanket to help with that. I have gotten to hold him and feed him and change him a couple times. I'm still sort of fumbling around and every "baby task" is made 10 times harder when the baby has half a dozen wires and tubes coming off of him. I think I'll be better at all these tasks once he is not on so many leashes.

Mom is doing really well. I think we hit sort of a wall of tiredness, fear, anxiety, and general anger at the unfairness of our situation on Friday night but yesterday we got some sleep, had some visitors, and made some great progress on the feeding side of things and I think we're more positive now. Mom is up walking and eating with little to no trouble. She is still on pain meds but is only taking about 1/2 the allowable dose. I have been overwhelmed by her bravery and fortitude throughout this entire process.

I am hanging in there. I'm physically and emotionally exhausted after all the excitement and uncertainty and splitting my time between mom and baby but I think I'll be okay. I had a really low point about 3AM yesterday when all I wanted to do was cry about our situation but we made a lot of progress yesterday and I think things are getting better.

If everything keeps tracking the way it is now, Mom and I will be released from the hospital on Monday in the late AM. Little man is stuck here until at least Thursday. We are trying to mentally prepare ourselves for the psychological effect of going home without our baby. I honestly don't know how hard that will be until we get there.

I think I've covered most of the high points of what is going on but if anyone has questions I'm happy to try to answer them. Mom and I really appreciate the outpouring of love and support from all of you throughout this adventure and I promise once we all get out of the hospital and life begins to feel normal again I can get back to participating here and sharing better news and better pictures of my sweet little man.

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I hope all of you are staying warm or cool or wet or dry or whatever you need to be happy.

Ryan, Tabatha, and Sawyer

Jean Sewing Machine
February 16th, 2014, 06:49 AM
Thanks for the update, Ryan! I think of you and Tabatha and your little guy often, and have shared your story with several of my good friends! Will keep you in my prayers fir good progress on all fronts! Tab, hang in there with the breast feeding!

February 16th, 2014, 06:55 AM
You have a beautiful family. You have so many blessings! Please remember to take time for yourself. As a caregiver, you can only be effective when you are well rested and healthy. Be patient with yourself, babies don't come with manuals, and most of the learning is by trial and error. Ask the nurses on staff any question you want an answer to. If they can't answer, ask the doctor. You're not expected to know everything - and don't let them put you off with 'you don't need to know that' or 'you wouldn't understand' attitudes. For now he is in the best place he can be, surrounded by caring and knowledgeable people. He is getting the best possible care. How lucky you can love on him even with all the wires and tubes!

You didn't ask for my advice - but I'm giving it nonetheless. I'm fairly certain that OB doctors don't prescribe meds that will harm a baby when the mom takes it. If she is thinking she's sparing her baby by only taking 1/2 the meds, she can be delaying her recovery. As a life-long chronic pain sufferer, pain medication is sometimes necessary for the body to heal. She just had major surgery! Her body is healing in ways and in places that we as civilians don't know about. If her pain is controlled by using half the prescribed dosage - good for her! If she's trying to prove something by only taking half the prescribed dosage, she's prolonging her suffering and possibly her healing needlessly. For me, I'm allergic to pain, so give me the drugs to take it away - even if they make me sleepy or stupid. I know its only for a little while.

For now, relax and enjoy! Be gentle with yourselves. Life is unfolding as it is meant to unfold for you. I can't wait to hear more about your journey when you reach your new "normal". By the way - 'normal' is a myth, and a setting on the dryer... You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

February 16th, 2014, 07:10 AM
Take it easy on yourselves.....and take the few days you have to catch a little rest! God Bless!

February 16th, 2014, 07:41 AM
Hey there Sawyer you are looking so sweet and cute and from Dad's news doing pretty good. Blessings for you, Mom and Dad and prayers that you all will be home together real soon.

Learner quilter
February 16th, 2014, 07:54 AM
He is a beautiful baby.. Go home and rest... Knowing that he is well and will be home soon. Love to you all. xxx

February 16th, 2014, 08:10 AM
That little Sawyer sure is adorable.....I just want to give him tons of hugs. Sending lots of prayers up for all the Coopers for peace and healing and for the little man to come home very very soon.

February 16th, 2014, 08:12 AM
Ryan, thanks for sharing your news on little Sawyer. He is in the best hands in hospital, you and Tabatha get all the rest you can before your beautiful boy comes home.

February 16th, 2014, 08:24 AM
I've been thinking of your little family Ryan. As unfair as it is, Little Sawyer is where he needs to be getting the best care possible. And who knows, maybe they will let him come home early. In the meantime, rest up cause it's game on when he comes home. Your family is on all our prayer lists here and I hope you and your wife can take some comfort in that.

Hang in there Coach!

February 16th, 2014, 08:54 AM
Thanks for the update, Ryan! Your baby boy is beyond beautiful! :icon_happy: I am sorry you have a bit of a rough patch right now with his health, but how wonderful that the knowledge, medicine and technology exists that will help him to get better soon! My thoughts and prayers are with you, your wife and sweet Sawyer. :icon_happy:

February 16th, 2014, 08:56 AM
(((Sawyer))) First think out of Aunt Ruby's mouth was "Ahhhh"! You're adorable and wish I could come out and hold/hug you!

Your mommy and daddy are doing a great job in this situation. We want to make sure mommy takes her meds and gets stronger too so that she can take heal quickly and be herself again. Daddy needs a giant hug 'cause he wants to be the protector of you and mommy! He is...daddy Ryan is a great guy! You're very lucky Sawyer. :)

Prayers and healing light plus my Special Guardian Angel Daisy is watching over you dear Sawyer.

Much Love and Huggers, Ruby

February 16th, 2014, 09:10 AM
Thanks for the update. I know you have been through a lot with Sawyer's birth and the C-Section and Little Man having to stay in the hospital. Things will smooth out all at one time soon. This is a good chance for Tabitha to get a jump start on her recovery. It's difficult for a new Mom to be separated from her baby when she wants to breast feed.

My DD went through this with her first child. Her DD had to remain in the hospital for two weeks due to a heart valve issue and my daughter had bronchitis and she wasn't allowed to be around the baby. My daughter pumped and I drove her milk to the hospital and fed Bree around the clock. They lived in southern California at the time and traffic being what it was, by the time I would get back home from one feeding it was time for me to head out with another batch. She never was able to get enough milk ahead to take extra for the nurses to feed her once in a while. It was an exhausting two weeks, but we made it and all was fine with Bree.

Keep the faith...we love you and your little family. We're praying for you. My husband loved your family photo you posted and commented that you're a beautiful family and that you and Tabitha "fit" each other.

February 16th, 2014, 09:10 AM
Thank you for the update. He's so precious. My advice (even tho you didn't ask for any) is get as much sleep as you can as often as you can. I remember the time when I didn't think I would ever feel rested. Many hugs!

February 16th, 2014, 09:18 AM

You & Tabatha have a beautiful son! All will get better with time. Ryan is very blessed to have such a loving dad and mom and because of that love he's going to be just fine! God's blessings on all of you!


February 16th, 2014, 09:19 AM
Kathy has given you very good advice.... Please take it to heart".

Your little one is adorable....as our Jenny would say.... You are going to have so much fun with him.... Remember that babies don't come with manuals.....as our sewing machines do....... Wouldn't that be nice? Oh... I know there are baby how to books, but they can only go so far.... Each baby, and each set if parents is unique.... You have to learn what works for you and your family....

We has to go home without our second child, Andy, so I know how you are feeling.... It will be hard, but you and Tabitha are strong people.... You can do it.... Just think how wonderful it will be when you can bring Sawyer home.... Lots of rejoicing!

God's blessing to you all.

February 16th, 2014, 09:34 AM
Thank you for the update. Your little man is so handsome and looking very healthy.
It has been a very emotional week for you and mom and being out of your home and comfort zone can play on the emotions.
Once you are all home together you will feel more at peace.
God Bless all of you.

February 16th, 2014, 09:42 AM
Sawyer is indeed a handsome little man! I'd love to give him a hug. Ryan and Tabatha, take this time to enjoy Sawyer but rest when you can. It's also okay to have an occasional meltdown (dads too!)...been there and done that. Emotions and hormones are running high right now. When you get Sawyer home, things will begin to fall into place more for your little family. Keep loving and supporting one another and you'll be fine.

February 16th, 2014, 09:55 AM
Glad to here things are going in the right direction. I nearly had to leave DS (#$) in the hospital and just couldn't stand the thought. Fortunately, the census was low so a few caring nurses discharged me but "forgot" to take me to the curb! We both wen t home 24 hours later.

February 16th, 2014, 09:57 AM
Thanks for the update! Remember to fuel up, going without sleep needs compensation. It's ok to feel low (in the case of your wife, it's an almost mandatory part of the hormonial process), overwhelmed, angry and frustrated. Just breathe, ahve a cry and carry on. :) You will do great!

February 16th, 2014, 10:18 AM
Aw Ryan....nothing I can add to all that's been said here. What a BEAUTIFUL baby you have!! Oh my goodness he's just adorable! Life will smooth out, there is a normal right around the corner, I promise! I wonder if little man has any idea he's the focus of an entire forum of quilty friends?? This will make for a good story someday! And there is a huge group of us here sending positive thoughts and praying for you and yours daily.

Thank you SO much for keeping us updated! Hugs!!

February 16th, 2014, 10:31 AM
I have nothing to add to all this great advice either. God bless the Cooper family. (((Hugs)))

February 16th, 2014, 10:41 AM
Ryan... congratulations to you and your wife on a beautiful son. Another "Handsome" in the family. I feel like a new Auntie!!!!!
I hadn't been on in a while and missed the announcement on the 13th. Glad to hear that both the baby and mom are doing well and getting stronger.

Iris Girl
February 16th, 2014, 10:45 AM
Sawyer is a very handsome young man. Take the time to rest and get a routine going. Things will get easier as the days go on. Relax and enjoy your beautiful bundle of joy. You 2 will make great parents.

February 16th, 2014, 10:46 AM
Hugs and prayers from Texas for all of you. It is so heartwarming to read the posts on this forum - what an amazing group! That being said, Ryan, I have four sons, the last two were twins and they were premature so were in the NICU for 4 weeks. Anyone who has experienced the NICU knows those people are indeed amazing and a different breed. The care the wee ones get is truly amazing. The time will fly and soon you will have your precious family in your own home - patience is a work in progress when you are a parent. And the C-section comments are spot on - I had one with the twins. Tell your sweet wife to take it easy! God Bless you Ryan - you are a special man and God has truly blessed you!!

February 16th, 2014, 10:50 AM
What a beautiful family Ryan. Take it one day at a time, we all know that babies don't come with manuals. Get lots of sleep now. Sawyer is where he is getting the best care to make him 100% healthy. Yes, it will be hard to leave without him no doubt. Try not to worry too much about the small stuff.

February 16th, 2014, 10:59 AM
Picture perfect!! Blessings!!

February 16th, 2014, 11:01 AM
Ryan; Congratulations to you and Tabatha!!! It has been so interesting following Sawyers impending arrival. Looking forward to more as you settle in with your little man. He is a beautiful boy! I agree with the advice of getting as much sleep as you can now. My son started a photo blog for my granddaughter where he took a picture every day for a year. It was so great and is still my go to when I need a smile. Take care & hugs ...Val

February 16th, 2014, 11:25 AM
CONGRATS to you and your lovely wife!! I hope you don't mind if I suggest a WONDERFUL resource for help and support with breastfeeding.

LLL of MD-DE-DC (http://www.lllofmd-de-dc.org/)

You can find your closest group on that website and can call your local La Leche League leader at any time with questions. Most hospitals nowadays are great with supporting breastfeeding, but the nurses may have limited time to assist you. LLL is fully focused on helping moms with nursing and I got amazing help and support from them with both my kids. I just wish I had called them sooner than I did!

CONGRATS again on your little man!


February 16th, 2014, 11:39 AM
The picture of little Sawyer is adorable. Thanks for the update and we will be praying for Sawyer to be going home with you very soon. Be sure and rest when you can........that means both you and Tabitha. :)

Annette Ackley
February 16th, 2014, 11:45 AM
Sawyer is cute!! Can't give you any advice. You have been given so much. All I can say is it will get better. You will be home as a family. Life goes on!!! I know it is hard to leave the little one in the hospital. When my 2nd son was born, he had to be life flight to another hospital. He was born with a hole in his lung. Only got to see him 2 times. Once on a weekend and the other to pick him up to bring him home. My Ex Husband was selfish. He thought he should come first and the baby last. But, long story, things worked out his lung healed shut, and he didn't have to come with any monitoring machines. Best to you and your Wife.

February 16th, 2014, 12:41 PM
Thank you for sharing the new, wonderful picture. He looks so much healthier than the last picture (even tho both pics are beautiful). I can only add that each day will get easier and in a month I think you will be amazed at how much better you all are doing. It does get better!!! Blessings on all of you!

February 16th, 2014, 01:29 PM
He is adorable!!! A meltdown by either of you at this point is totally understandable and perfectly normal - so many emotions in such a short time, compounded by all of the fear and anxiety of the snowstorm and having a police escort to the hospital and Sawyer's infection.

Hugs and prayers for all of you!

Mary Ruth
February 16th, 2014, 01:43 PM
Little Man is so content and comfortable in his blankie. This is a hard road for you and your wife - cling to each other and look forward to all Sawyer's firsts. There will be many. My prayers are with you.

February 16th, 2014, 01:47 PM
Ryan, your family is so beautiful. And what a special blessing your little one is.

I too am going to offer advice. As kathy is, I too am a life long pain person. I will live with some degree of pain the rest of my life. And as I use to tell my Lamaze groups. When you fight pain and try to heal, your body is fighting on two different fronts. IF you can get one of those fronts to go away, such as taking meds for the pain, then the body can work on healing on only one front. Just like the military campaigns, the fewer ways you have to split your men, the better your odds are of winning....just some advice from someone who has been there.

And the next thing you can do(besides more pics), is to make sure that both of you sleep as much as you can. It is healing, and will give you a step ahead for when Sawyer comes home...

Know that you are surrounded by an entire group of wanna-be Memas and Aunts and Uncles and Grandpas....and their prayers.....
Hang in there..it will all work out...

February 16th, 2014, 03:06 PM
Ryan, thank you for the update. Hang in there and as everyone has said try and get as much sleep as possible. Realize that both of you are on an emotional roller coaster between excitement, stress, worry, exhaustion, etc. but things will settle down. You have a wonderful support group with this forum and we are all pulling for you and keeping you in our prayers. Looking forward to new pictures when you get the opportunity.

February 16th, 2014, 03:24 PM
Ryan, firsts are always scary. First pregnancy, first birth, first illness, etc,etc. Meltdowns are normal too. My first was doing great, and at one of his checkups, maybe 3 or 4 months, the Dr said I hoped his feet would have straightened out more by now. HUH???
his feet, not his ankles, were turned inward a little. Went to ortho and he put him in casts. Both feet.! He told me it was just how he laid in my uterus. I cried for days because it was my fault, I did something wrong with my first baby.
He is 38 and fine now, except for the fused ankle he broke while building his house. LOOONG story. :)
He was doing something once while he was in Germany and we were talking on the phone. I told him he was driving me crazy, and he replied "It's my job mom". It's Sawyers JOB to drive you crazy and you will love him all the more for it. :)

February 16th, 2014, 03:42 PM
He is so adorable...you all are...holding all of you in my heart and in my prayers.

February 16th, 2014, 03:51 PM
He is absolutely adorable! Hang in there! Going home without him will be tough, but you guys can handle it! Visit him all day long and then at night get some sleep! Let the NICU nurses and doctors do their job - this is their special calling. Use this to your advantage on catching up on sleep at night and healing for your wife - as soon as he gets home in a few days you will be glad you have a "full tank" to start with!

February 16th, 2014, 03:53 PM
Ryan, you, Tabitha, and baby Sawyer are an inspiration to all of us. All of you have had a very rough beginning to Sawyers arrival. It is hard to be the one to 'take care' of everything, and can become overwhelming. As much as you want and need to take care of them, you have to take care of yourself as well. Sawyer and Tab are being cared for by the medical staff, in the best possible way. There is no one taking care of the caregiver, so you have to do that yourself. If Little Man has to stay for a few extra days, then he does. It is what is best for him, and that is what you want. If that happens, take the time to get caught up on your rest. We will all be continuing our prayers for all of you. I can't wait for you to get him home and start the multitude of pics you will be taking. Share, share, share...we WANT to see them.

stitching woman
February 16th, 2014, 04:22 PM
It will be so hard for the two of you to leave baby Sawyer in the hospital. Give yourselves the space to have a few meltdowns you will bounce back quickly and be all that much more ready to bring that precious baby home. Know that being in the hospital with trained professionals is just where he needs to be for now. Take advantage of the quite time and get some much needed rest.

Prayers for the family.

February 16th, 2014, 04:53 PM
Glad things are looking up for all of you.
Voice of experience, it isn't easy to go home without your precious bundle but you will get through it. Keep your focus on your little Sawyer being totally well and the day when you will be bringing him home.
Praying for you.

February 16th, 2014, 05:07 PM
Sawyer is adorable!!! And I can totally sympathies with your fear, anger, anxiety & meltdown!!
My youngest son was born 8 weeks premature via a C Section due to a technical error. He was almost 8 lbs when he was born but his lungs had not matured & he couldn't breath on his own. He had to be moved to another NICU at the hospital on the other side of Phoenix so I didn't even get to see him until he was 5 days old. He was so jaundiced that he was orange, they talked of a complete transfusion to help correct the problem. He had to have blood gas studies done every hour to be sure his brain was getting enough oxygen. They warned me that he could be slightly brain damaged & have learning difficulties & be slower to learn to walk & talk.
Now I'm only telling this horror story so you will know that in spite of all this, all the worry & fear we went through, my son ( now 35 years old) walked at 9 months, started talking around the same time, graduated with honors in school, is now a financial analyst at a major brokerage house, & the soon to be proud father of my newest grandchild.
Remember, everything will work out fine & your little man will come home & you will start the great Parenthood Adventure.
God bless you & your family

February 16th, 2014, 05:10 PM
Being in pain and/or being exhaused both mentally and physically seem to make things seem much worse. Tabitha should jump on the pain BEFORE it gets bad, so if she needs the pain meds, she should definitely take them sooner, rather than later. It will help her heal and rest so much better. Everyone is correct about being a caregiver; YOU definitely need to take some time for yourself so that when baby Sawyer does come home you are rested and ready. I'm sure you already know all of this, but it is difficult to take care of yourself when you are worried about everyone else. It is better to have him stay in the NICU longer to be sure everything is cleared up and he is A-OK then to have to take him back later. A couple of my friends and relatives had that happen and I think it is worse to have to take your baby back once he is home. Sending some love and prayers that all will continue to look up for your beautiful family.

February 17th, 2014, 04:49 AM
It is hard to believe that 8 years ago I was about to step into something very similar.

It was hard, and scary, and horribly unfair. You did everything right and you still ended up here with your baby in the hospital. He is being well taken care of and will come home soon!
After 10 days we brought Em home and 2 days later I took Hubby to the hospital with a possible heart attack. DO NOT DO THIS TO YOUR WIFE! Take care of yourselves. It is hard to leave the baby there, very hard. Use it to get some rest, eat well, and keep hydrated!
The good news? Babies are pretty dang tough! He'll be home and healthy soon.
We'll keep you all in our prayers!
Cathy, Eric, & Emily

February 17th, 2014, 09:31 AM
He is such a handsome boy!! Get some rest because once he's home that will be something you will only dream about for a while.

February 17th, 2014, 07:44 PM
Ryan, please don't see it as going home without your baby. See it as you are leaving your baby in the best possible place he can be. It's temporary and you will have the next 18 years with him. It's only a few days (week?). He is beautiful and healthy. He just needs a little more time. Soon enough he will be demanding every second of YOUR time. You guys are doing all you can and are already being great parents. Patience Little Grasshopper. :icon_kiss:

February 18th, 2014, 02:47 AM
Ryan, he is so adorable. Your family is so beautiful. When Sawyer is napping so should you and your wife.

February 18th, 2014, 02:56 AM

I haven't had the pleasure of meeting you, but I'm thinking about you and your family. I have a niece who works in NICU and it is amazing the care and all that is done there. In no time it sounds like you and your wife will have Sawyer home and then life will really get interesting. Unfortunately, less sleep and less quilting time. But it will all be worth it.

Take care and enjoy every moment of your time with your family.

February 18th, 2014, 02:56 PM
Ryan, he is adorable! I'm praying that his infection goes away quickly so you can have him home with you soon.

February 19th, 2014, 08:58 AM
Three little birds told me that every little thing's gonna be alright. Take a deep breath and think about how blessed you truly are in this moment. You are a guy with a beautiful family, with a team of people around you caring for your loved ones, and another team all over the world that's ready to lift you up. That's pretty cool.

And that is one gorgeous boy. It bears repeating.