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WendyI
February 13th, 2014, 01:06 PM
I have received some PM's and emails from some of you since I've kind of been a bit AWOL lately. Things have been a bit stressful in my world. I have suffered from depression for most of my adult life. I've managed it very well, am in therapy on an ongoing basis and for the past year and a half managed to be drug free. Unfortunately, along with depression comes a host of other issues, one of which involves problems with intimacy. Sorry if that's TMI...I'm a pretty open person so it doesn't bother me to admit this.

Anyway...my husband, who is an absolutely wonderful man, is now struggling with this after almost 17 years of putting up with me and so we've hit some rocky roads. We are working things out and I'm sure it will all be fine as we are very committed to our life together, and to our son, but it certainly has not been easy. I have been forced to go back on medication, which does not help the situation, and we are heading into couples counseling as soon as we can get something set up. It's ridiculous to me how expensive therapy is and even when you can afford to pay for it, the wait times are astronomical! But it took us almost 17 years for us to get into this mess, it's not going to get fixed overnight. Right now I'm operating one day at a time, one foot in front of the other.

Anyway, as a result of all this, crafting and being creative has kind of been put on the back burner and I have even packed up my sewing station...so I don't have a lot to post about really. :( I'm going away tomorrow for a week to visit my sister in Halifax. I think the break will do us both good. Wish me luck though..the east coast is getting hammered by bad weather tonight. I may be spending my Friday night stuck at the airport waiting for a new flight! :icon_rolleyes:

I do try and check in here as much as I am able to try keep caught up on everyone....but not as much as I should and I do apologize. I do miss you all and hope to get back to posting more often in the future. Hoping you all are well and sending lost of big (((((HUGS))))) to those who need them.

SallyO'Sews
February 13th, 2014, 01:14 PM
((((Wendy))))
I'm praying for you and yours, my quilty friend. Hope you have a lovely visit with your sister.
Blessings,
~ Sally \0/

Mpyles
February 13th, 2014, 01:19 PM
Best wishes Wendy, sounds like you are both committed to a solution! Enjoy your week away! Those can do a world of good!

Wwena
February 13th, 2014, 02:47 PM
Don't feel bad, we don't want to be a chore for you anyway! ;)

It sounds like you guys have a good plan. Going back on medication is not a failure! Allow for your "body" needing help, as well as your psyche. :)

easyquilts
February 13th, 2014, 02:58 PM
It's clear that you both are committed to your marriage, and to what is going to be best for your child.... I wish you the best.

((((((((Hugs)))))))

auntiemern
February 13th, 2014, 03:10 PM
Life happens to all of us. Carry on the best you can.

mommadeb
February 13th, 2014, 04:30 PM
I know exactly how you feel and pray and hope for the best for you. Have a nice trip to Halifax.

MayinJerset
February 13th, 2014, 04:30 PM
Sometimes a break for day to day stuff gives you time to reflect on your situation, enjoy your visit and come back refreshed and ready to take on anything in a positive manner.

EmmaB
February 13th, 2014, 04:48 PM
When I first joined this forum, I do remember you posting quite often and I wondered what had happened to you. I'm sorry you are going through a rough time. I hope things get better for you.

sewbizzy
February 13th, 2014, 04:58 PM
Sending prayers for you and your dh!!!

soul60s
February 13th, 2014, 05:09 PM
Just know, you are NOT alone. I speak from experience. PM me any time you need to talk with someone who has and is where you are. No judgements here.

Hugs.

RFREE
February 13th, 2014, 08:01 PM
Wow your situation sounds much like my own.As bad as I hate to admit it I probably should be put on medication myself but just can't break down and do it. Good for you for trying to get help. Sounds like you are doing all you can do. Good luck and I will be praying for you as well.
Thank you for letting us know where you have been.
Big hugs for you from Ky
RHonda

ilive2craft2
February 13th, 2014, 09:20 PM
Awwww honey, you have been missed, but was hoping it was due to a new hobby. Sounds like you have a good plan. Enjoy your time with your sister. Pop in and out when you feel like it, we are here for you. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

WendyI
February 13th, 2014, 09:58 PM
You are all so amazing. Thanks for your kindness. It means more than you can know!

xox

Suzyq
February 14th, 2014, 03:28 AM
Wendy, I too have suffered from depression most of my adult life,,then turned into anxiety. Yes the meds do cut the hanky panky but my doc assured us, that if we take our time, things do happen!! I too wish you all the best, and stay in touch.....enjoy your trip!

Madeforyouinma11
February 14th, 2014, 03:36 AM
So glad you checked in for a bit. Will keep you in my prayers that all works out for you. Have a wonderful visit with your sister. (((Hugs)))

Monique
February 14th, 2014, 08:58 AM
Wendy, take the time you need to heal. We will always be here. Pop in and let us know how you are doing. Have a great trip out East. Enjoy the time with your sister.

shermur
February 14th, 2014, 09:59 AM
Hey, sweetie...prayers and thoughts are with you! I understand as menopause has had this effect on my life in the last couple of years...being on anti-depressants is a 50/50 deal. They help and then again with me, they cause other things I didn't want.
Always know you can lean on your quilty friends!

JCY
February 14th, 2014, 11:52 AM
My husb. has suffered over the years from depression, so I can sympathize with what you're going through. It's ok to be on medication. I pray you & your DH will work through things & a brighter day is ahead. Keep on keeping on. No one promised us life would be a rose garden. May God be your strength through this difficult time. Thanks for sharing, so we can be praying for you. God bless, JCY

BellasQuilts
February 14th, 2014, 12:46 PM
Sending prayers your way!

GrammaBabs
February 14th, 2014, 02:16 PM
Best of Luck GF... take if from a gal with almost 50 years with my guy... there are UP's and Down's...I've had many months of forcing things.. but the right meds can be found... as well,, you both have to find a way that works for BOTH of you... not an easy task.. hope things work out for the best...:)B