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Sew Perfect
February 8th, 2014, 01:47 AM
Bkthomas made a post about an accident my son had very recently. I want to thank everyone for your thoughts, prayers, and private messages. Here is the story of what happened:

My 19 year old son left for work @ 3:30 in the afternoon the other day. Before leaving, he told me goodbye and that he loved me. About 20 minutes later, I received the phone call from the paramedics informing me of my son's accident. Though, the paramedic had witnessed the accident because he was already on the scene taking care of another in the same area, he did not go into detail of Daniel's accident.

I showed up at the scene and saw Daniel's SUV on the other side of the median, facing the wrong direction. I could tell by looking at it that the vehicle was completely totaled and was wondering just what happened. Although, Daniel was in shock and was not completely coherent to what his surrounding were, he told me he was changing lanes due to an accident and he hit black ice. His vehicle began spinning then started flipping across the median. I could see his SUV barely missed the on-coming traffic and was glad the vehicle stopped when it had. The vehicle had flipped 4 times, according to witnesses. Daniel said it seemed like it was all in slow motion at the time.

Because the paramedics were so busy with accidents in the same area, I was the one who took my son to the ER. According to the paramedics, police, and medical team, Daniel was lucky to be alive. His air bag did not deploy. Between the SUV's roll bar, seat belt and God, Daniel was saved and I am grateful. He suffered a concussion, cuts from the glass on areas of his body that wasn't covered by his coat and jeans. He had a lot of tiny pieces of broken glass in his forehead and ears. (all the windows were broken). He has bad dreams from the accident. Other than that, Daniel came out pretty good. Sometimes he looks like he's doing okay and other times, he is at that accident.

As for me, I did very well through the whole thing until it was all over. Then I did not do so well because thoughts of nearly losing our son kept running through my mind. Now, every time Daniel or DH goes to work, I am desperately worried. Although, our DD doesn't live with us, I find myself worrying about her. She has an hour to drive to work everyday. I hope I can get over the worry sooner rather than later because it's no fun. I've even been feeling depressed lately. Don't know why, but there it is. Want everything back to normal.

Thanks ya'll, you're a really great group of people.


K. McEuen
February 8th, 2014, 01:52 AM
Glad to hear that he's basically ok. Time should heal the rest. It's your job to worry, it's all part of being mom. :)

February 8th, 2014, 01:56 AM
(((MISA))) So thankful Daniel is on the mend. Try to remember that he is okay, and will get better as time goes by, but do avail yourself of professional help if you need it. Can you talk to your clergy or doctor? Maybe that will help.
Blessings, ~ Sally \0/

February 8th, 2014, 01:58 AM
Sweet Misa....so glad to hear from you, sweetie. And so thankful that Daniel will be OK. Your family is in thought and prayer, darlin'! Reach out if you need a shoulder....

February 8th, 2014, 02:04 AM
Oh Misa, so scary - you sound like me - hold it together until everything is over and then have a mini meltdown. I hope that you have someone that you can talk to and express the fears and find a way to get a handle on them. Anxiety is no fun and it may take professional help.

Thank God he was not seriously injured. Continuing to keep all of you in my prayers.


February 8th, 2014, 02:10 AM
Continuing prayers Misa..............

February 8th, 2014, 02:12 AM
So good to hear from you Misa. That must have been so frightening.......but so thankful that Daniel is okay. I will be praying that his nightmares will stop and that you will not be overwhelmed with worry........anxiety is no fun. We are here for you if you need to talk it over. Take care of yourself too.

February 8th, 2014, 02:41 AM
I am so glad you son is doing ok and he will be better as time goes on, he is probably still in shock from it all as you probably are too. I understand your worry, its because you're a loving mother.

February 8th, 2014, 07:19 AM
Glad to see that he came out as well as he did. I pray that the emotional torment will fade quickly for both of you. Stay strong, you will come through this. ((Misa))

February 8th, 2014, 07:26 AM
Misa....I cannot even begin to imagine what you must have gone through....and to have to take Daniel to the ER yourself.....my goodness how terrible for you. I will certainly be keeping your and Daniel in my prayers.

February 8th, 2014, 07:28 AM
I'm so glad Daniel is OK..... As a former paramedic, I can appreciate how fortunate he was....

Give yourself some time.... It's so normal fir you to feel so worried about your loved ones..... This will lesses in time.,,,do you have someone you can talk to about this? Talking might help.... I know it helps me....

God bless....

February 8th, 2014, 10:19 AM
(((Misa))), incredibly happy that Daniel has survived that horrible accident. Time will heal the mental nightmares, he might want to find a professional to talk to. I was in my early 20s when I was in a bad car accident and it took a very long time before I could drive that stretch of Down Town LA freeway again. I would have panic attacks even as a passenger when others drove me to my clients. I wish I would have gone for help.

As another mom, the worry will stay with you for awhile on high alert, then taper off again. It's part of our make up dear friend. God made us this way. ;)

God has blessed our families that is for sure!

Huggers, Ruby

February 8th, 2014, 10:27 AM
(((HUGS))) to you, Misa.

New York Sue
February 8th, 2014, 10:49 AM
OH, chica!
I'm so glad to hear Daniel is okay! Black ice scares the heck out of me.
SO unpredictable....

February 8th, 2014, 11:30 AM
Oh Misa, I'm so sorry to hear about Daniels accident. I have you both in my prayers. Continued worry? That seems to be the thing I do best when my kids get hurt.


February 8th, 2014, 11:37 AM
Misa, what a scary thing to go through! Keeping you and Daniel in my prayers.

February 8th, 2014, 11:52 AM
Glad to hear from you Misa that Daniel's OK and is getting better.

I second what Ruby said, "As another mom, the worry will stay with you for awhile on high alert, then taper off again. It's part of our make up dear friend. God made us this way. "

If you don't have anyone to talk to when you feel and anxious just pop in here, there is always someone to talk to to get yourself through the worry. My sons are ages 48 - 58 and live in their own homes here in Jersey or in MA and I still worry about them driving to and from work in bad weather, and one of them works from home! I also worry about their wives and all our grandkids, so what you are going through is very normal and the high stress of it will lessen over time. May

February 8th, 2014, 04:21 PM
The first time that I started to drive my mother said to me..."Drive carefully, be home early, and don't forget to phone." When our boys were of age, I started the same things..."Driver carefully, be home early, and don't forget to phone." One day both boys were going out at the same time, they were both in college...and my youngest stopped and said,"Do you think if you don't say that we will be reckless and late and all sorts of crazy stuff?" I looked at him and said "If I didn't say it and something happened, I would never forgive myself. It is more of a blessing than anything else." They just rolled their eyes. But to this day, I say that when they are home and going out,...and these young men are farther now.....

You will get through this, and as the days progress, it will get easier...just give thanks every day that God and his car made sure that he was safe. God has other things for your son to do with his life. Rejoice in that! And we will offer up prayers tomorrow in church for such a blessing.

Sew Perfect
February 8th, 2014, 06:38 PM
Thank you again.

Miss Sheri
February 9th, 2014, 01:40 AM
Misa, sweetie, remember, YOU have been through a huge shock as well as Daniel. I think that is what you are still feeling, (the emotional trama, the depression, the worries, ect.) Time is a great healer, both physically and emotionally. I will keep you and your family in my prayers, that you will have peace in your mind and heart, and healing in all the forms needed. Take the time to feel the emotions you are dealing with, and then, when you are ready, purposefully let them go. Hugs for you my friend. Love, Sheri

February 9th, 2014, 01:45 AM
Goodness, trying times! So glad Daniel will be ok! I worry daily..it's part of my genetic makeup. I just really try to rely on God. Some days are better than others. Hugs to you!

February 9th, 2014, 01:47 AM
Glad to hear that your son is ok. This is a frequent fear of mine with my boys and it makes me paranoid at times. God Bless you, your son and family.

Andrea F
February 9th, 2014, 09:04 AM
Dear Misa, I am so glad to hear that your son is going to be okay. If my kids were in such a horrible accident I would probably want to tie them to my ankle so that I can watch them 24/7. As others said before, it might be a good idea for both of you to talk to a professional to help with the fear and the nightmares. I am sending strength and positive thoughts for quick healing. And lots of hugs.

February 9th, 2014, 10:23 AM
18 years ago today that I was in a major car accident. My right knee got wedged up against the dash. Although my knee will never be the same, I am greatful to be alive. Even to this day, I can tell you exactly what happened. I was afraid to drive for the longest time. I am still leary about driving in bad weather.

Give it time. And no matter what you never stop worrying about your children.