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Donna F
November 8th, 2012, 12:20 AM
Ok so how am I doing since my back and hip have been sliced, diced, and stapled? Well my staples are out and my outside incisions are healing nicely, my insides where they cut muscles is still sore and very tense at times. There are moments where I believe I'm all well (at least that's what I tell myself) then my body reminds me, no, you're not done yet. So surgery was 3 weeks ago today and I've gone outside once. I know I should be going outside and getting some sun & vitamin d but with hurricane Sandy, and today with the weepy storm I'm just not in the mood. What I need someone to tell me is what to do to get myself out of the blues. I'm getting cabin fever already and I still have a long way to go. So many restrictions on me, cannot ride in a car more than 15 to 20 minutes, no driving, walking, til released to do so. Can't sew for long before I have to go lay down, can't clean my sewing room, can't carry the baby, CAN rock baby to sleep every night ++, can't lift arms above shoulder height, can't do laundry, cleaning etc... I am barely able to shower without help.
I know I'm not the only person to go thru this but I want to catch my misery before it gets worse. What can I do?? Any suggestions are welcome. Please forgive me for my whining and crying.

Winniesfriend
November 8th, 2012, 12:34 AM
Whine away, I think sharing problems helps, its nice to have some one to talk to, and we are here to help/listen, I am sitting here feeling sorry for myself, I re injured my shoulder last week, the one that I initially hurt in May and had surgery on, now I am in pain again, on more pain meds, and it does not take long if I am sewing to be in pain again so I have had to slow down a lot, but that is nothing to what you are going through.

Try and concentrate on the positives what you can do, I would try and get outside, even if the weather is really bad some fresh air has got to help you, have you tried designing quilts, get some graph paper and some coloured pencils and whilst you a resting design some masterpieces so that when you can sew you can make some wonderful creations. Have you got someone that can take you for a drive, can you go to a coffee shop that is close by, have a cup of coffee and go home again, a change of scenery even for a short while is bound to help, just a couple of ideas hope they help, sending big hugs and prayers and I will stop feeling sorry for myself.

New York Sue
November 8th, 2012, 12:40 AM
I'm guessing maybe you're a bit of a Type A personality, much like myself. After my abdominal surgery, I felt much like this.
Everyday it gets a little bit better. Never fast enough for US, all the same, but a little better.
Try not to be so hard on yourself. Create a journal for the week and make small daily goals for yourself. (Something each day that is simple and attainable) At the end of the day, give yourself a pat on the back for for each goal achieved!
My Best to you, Donna! You'll get there, just try not to be to hard on yourself!

Madeforyouinma11
November 8th, 2012, 12:44 AM
Awwww I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way. I've been through that once and it's no fun when you feel like doing stuff but still can't. Do you have some handwork that you can work on to keep busy while relaxing and resting? Do you knit or crochet? Read? I did all of those things while I had to stay on the couch and not leave the house for about two weeks or so. I think I read two books, made an afghan and finished up a lot of mending that needed to get done.
I don't know what else to suggest but make sure you stay rested and don't do anything you're not supposed to be doing. You've come this far and it won't be long now and you'll be up doing all those things you listed that you can't do now. Then you'll wish you didn't have to do them, LOL Hahaha.... I really do hope that you feel better soon. ((((((((Donna))))))))

dwil23
November 8th, 2012, 12:57 AM
Donna,
What you are going through is normal. I had total knee replacement in August. It took me a full two months before I really STARTED to feel somewhat normal again. I had big plans for projects to work on while off work, but just didn't feel like doing much at all. Give yourself time, and a "pity party" if you feel like it - just don't beat yourself up over it. Do your therapy - yes, I know, I still hate going - I have three more sessions. And like someone else said - "whine away" - we are here to listen.

Donna W.

K. McEuen
November 8th, 2012, 01:29 AM
It's been 3 weeks and you aren't out running marathons?

It's only been 3 weeks. That ONLY is am important word. It takes more time for your body to physically heal and recover from such an invasive surgery. I remember when I had my c-section. Two weeks later I thought I was all better. Went to where I worked, walked to the back of the factory with my daughter and mom and darn near didn't make it to the front. I had to keep sitting down and resting and I was a lot younger then. Give it some time. Find someone that might take you out of the house for 10 or 15 minutes, if only just for a ride. Cabin fever sets in when you know you can't get out.

bkthomas
November 8th, 2012, 01:39 AM
PM Sandy N. she's hilarious!!!!!

auntiemern
November 8th, 2012, 02:08 AM
Oh Donna. It is perfectly normal to be feeling all that you are. I have been on total bed rest more times than I can count, but not for anything as serious as this. I love to read, so that helped me. And I actually had time to do it. If you do any hand work kind of things, knitting, crocheting, embroidery or anything else, maybe you can so something like that. Cross words, seek and find or sodoku (sp) puzzles. If you can get outside for just a few minutes a day, give it a try. But please please do not do anything you shouldn't be doing and thus risking setting your self back. But above all else feel free to get on here and 'whine' all you want. We are here for you, and have you in our prayers. Right now just enjoy the fact that you have others around you that are willing and able to help you out. I spent 3 weeks with my BF after she had back surgery, and took care of her. And yes I did it all, including help her go to the bathroom, and shower. Actually it was quite amusing at times. One time I was up to my elbows, helping to clean her after she had used the rest room, and she asked me how well I thought I knew her. I just said pretty darn well at this point. Try to think of the positives, even though that isn't always easy. There is an end in sight, though it may not seem like it right now. Hold that baby and rock him every time you feel blue. There is nothing like the smell and snuggling a new baby to lift your spirits. ((((Donna))) Hang in there, and try to look to the future when all of this will be behind you.

pcbatiks
November 8th, 2012, 03:06 AM
Hi Donna, Going outside if the weather allows will help a lot. Just having sunshine on your face and to feel the breeze can help lift your mood....even if you just sit and look at a magazine. Others on the forum have mentioned this before too. Everyone has mentioned good ideas for indoor things to do. I find watching something funny on tv to make you laugh does wonders for the blues. And as everyone else has mentioned don't do anything that you shouldn't do. You went through too much to back up now. Will be praying that you will be feeling better very soon.

lilmouse
November 8th, 2012, 03:22 AM
Keeping you in prayer Donna...and sending hugs to blow those blues away............oops; there they go...bye bye!

HandsOffItsMine
November 8th, 2012, 04:08 AM
(((Donna))) Hey there, now you promised that you wouldn't do anything that would put your back in jeopardy. You can whine and cry all you want with us. Of course, I would like it better if you would take a short stroll out side or just even sit on the stoop out side facing the sun. :)

It's true that cabin fever hits us the minute we can't go on road trips! We crave certain foods when we go on a diet. We want to lay a certain way the minute we're told not to. That's how the mind works. :D Just remember it's ONLY been 3 weeks since your MAJOR surgery. None of us can believe that you went home the same day! Craziness!!

You're talented, you could be designing applique quilts, block quilts, whatever you feel like.

Pogo.com is good for games and cheap, love the Hidden search games, did that a lot when I was recouping from my car accidents. Reading of forensic mysteries are my favorites. Crosswords too. Embroidery, crochet, knitting as well. Knitting to hot here but for you in PA, will keep your lap nice and warm. hehe

Most of all, know that you are loved. Folks are praying for you. You can come on here any time and whine, plus you know where to find me. ;)

Huggers and take care of yourself. Plus remember you can always get a double dose of hugs from DJ. :D

Ruby and Don

Divine Daisy
November 8th, 2012, 07:22 AM
welllllllllll....... you could recline divinely on a chaise and allow wafts of heady perfume to float around you. You could sketch an elegant drawing and send it to the Royal Academy and demand they exhibit it. ORRRRRRRR you could make random phone calls at mealtimes and ask whoever answers if the *****party can count on their vote at the election, then tape the replies and put them on utube..........soooooooooo much mischief you could get up to!

Ask whoever makes you a cup of coffee to put it outside so you HAVE to sit out for 10 minutes or go without coffee!!!!!!!!!! EEEK!
Design a wall hanging entitled 'Things I didn't have to do for 2 months'
Write 10 bad jokes about back surgery and a comedy sketch and make the family put it on. Film it obviously for future blackmail purposes.

Write a manual for the baby.....'Things you may not know about your mother but would embarass her if you told the vicar'. an invaluable gift for any teenager of the future.

Monique
November 8th, 2012, 09:43 AM
Daisy you are a riot. Donna I hope you feel better soon. The above are all good suggestions.

sewbizzy
November 8th, 2012, 10:01 AM
Donna, I am praying for you to make a speedy recovery...I am also like you and can't sit still for very long except if I'm sewing...I will probably be having hip surgery in the future (just had some x-rays last week and walking with a cane sometimes)...everyone is right, you have been through a lot...Hugs and Blessings

Jess1377
November 8th, 2012, 10:16 AM
Whine away, I think sharing problems helps, its nice to have some one to talk to, and we are here to help/listen, I am sitting here feeling sorry for myself, I re injured my shoulder last week, the one that I initially hurt in May and had surgery on, now I am in pain again, on more pain meds, and it does not take long if I am sewing to be in pain again so I have had to slow down a lot, but that is nothing to what you are going through.

Try and concentrate on the positives what you can do, I would try and get outside, even if the weather is really bad some fresh air has got to help you, have you tried designing quilts, get some graph paper and some coloured pencils and whilst you a resting design some masterpieces so that when you can sew you can make some wonderful creations. Have you got someone that can take you for a drive, can you go to a coffee shop that is close by, have a cup of coffee and go home again, a change of scenery even for a short while is bound to help, just a couple of ideas hope they help, sending big hugs and prayers and I will stop feeling sorry for myself.

I couldnt have said it better... All I would add is maybe try needlework like cross stitch or embroidery but the idea of some colored pencils and graph paper would be nice too, maybe sit in your sewing room where your fabric is while doing that would be fun? Give yourself more time, everyone heals on their own timeline too. You will get there!! Just hang in :)

Nursmate2
November 8th, 2012, 10:24 AM
Hi Donna,

I recovered from surgery recently and thought I would drive my self crazy. I had the no bending, lifting or twisting restrictions. I spent a lot of times reading, practicing my hand quilting, and surfing the net. I made list of things to do like Christmas card, Christmas shopping and quilts I want to do. It easy to get down and hard to get motivated. Keep your mind busy and do get out when you can...my grandma always said " get outside and blow the stink off", do what you can and celebrate even small successes. I was happy when I could put my own shoes on....big hugs to you and speedy healing.

Cindy

meemeecyn
November 8th, 2012, 10:39 AM
Oh, Donna.....You are not whining, it really is difficult to accept that feeling creeping up on you. Cabin fever stinks! And not being able to do the things you enjoy while you are cooped up. Several forum members have come up with great suggestions, and like Daisy, humor helps, too. What helped me is a mental mantra 'this too shall pass' and each day gets better. You may be feeling that you are not accomplishing anything, therefore wasting time......but that is not the case. You are healing! And your emotional health is important in helping that along, too. Could you be writing out cards/notes to our soldiers? Reading quilting magazines to find patterns you want to try when you are feeling better? Going through old recipes to sort and purge or keep to try? English paper piecing, a great hand sewing project? The important thing is to recognize what you are feeling, reaching out to folks that care about you (us!) and do what you need to do to feel better. Please take care of yourself and know that we are all routing for you!
Cynthia

Cathy F
November 8th, 2012, 11:24 AM
Wishing you a speedy and full recovery. Better to get your whining our than keep it in, and I love Daisy's suggestions, her response gave me the first chuckle of the day!

Donna F
November 8th, 2012, 12:34 PM
Oh Mrs. Daisy, you are a riot! Hey I have an idea, everyone list your phone #, I'm going to prank call everybody in the middle of the night!! Hehe. Thanks for all of your suggestions and your prayers. I need them all. My DH is going crazy too. He told me so the other day then apologized. With his work, me, Dr bills, the baby crying from teething, poor guy works all day and comes home to a needy wife, a sassy mouth step daughter and a crying baby....at least the house is clean. I feel more sorry for him than myself. He feeds off me and when I'm miserable he gets like that too so if I can stay sane hopefully he will too. Shame on me for saying it but I wish my daughter could afford her own place sometimes too, but then again I like the company and enjoy the baby. Needless to say my daughter is a handfull, God help us all. LOL