Would like to hear your thoughts about batting

[coffeebreak]

When people refer to softer or harder quilting does this mean the tension on the machine or just how far apart the quilting is apart

I use the term "stiffer" or "harder" to me the plyability of the finished quilt. Does it wrap around you nicely or is it to stiff to wrap. Does it "bend" or again, just to stiff. Stiff is okay for a blanket over a sheet on the bed, but I want softer for cuddeling and wrapping up in.