I have taught both my daughters to sew and quilt. I have a butterfly quilt that years ago I was watching simply quilts and there was a guest and showed a kid friendly butterfly pattern...I thought perfect! I ran out to get the fabrics and sat with my oldest and we started she got bored by the second block...it sat there til my next daughter who is 8 years younger was old enough she sewed 1 block and was bored. I thought wow two daughters and no quilters wow! Then my oldest 16 at the time spots a charm pack of batiks and asks me if she can make something with them I said sure. She looked at patterns in magazines and books I had and found she loves stars and batiks. She took the charms sewed them into hST mixed with blocks and made a dresser topper with a star illusion. She quilted it and I helped her with the binding. My youngest who is 9 love to quilt small projects she gets board with putting blocks together but loves the decerative stitches. I cut she designs the blocks I sew and she quilts. I learned to ask. I did finish that butterfly quilt last year and I love the story that goes with it!! Happy Quilting and maybe that will help! Never forget to the simple and ask they all know what they like!!