This site will help you understand the difference in needles.
http://www.craftstylish.com/item/240...sewing-needles
Like Ginny said, Perle 8 is a type of thread used for handquilting. I believe it's a little thicker.
I'm not sure what "the manger things" are that you are talking about.
For hand quilting all you need is your thread, needle and project. Some people like using a hoop or frame, but some like to just make sure it's pinned or basted well and not use any hoop or frame. Needle size is a preference too.
Blondie does a lot of handquilting so she will definitely be able to give you some pointers.
Good luck and post pics!