Am I too sensitive?

[Tippysmom]

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This Christmas I made a quilt for my sister, who lives out west. I used FQS from Kaffe Fassett, all shot cotton stripes. I pieced it using one of his quilts as an inspiration, and it turned out really well. I sent it out for quilting and my LA gal did a fantastic job. I was really proud of it.

After Christmas, I emailed her, just looking for an email address. When she replied, included in the message were two sentences. "Thanks for the quilt. It's beautiful".

Is it me? I just thought it would merit a little more appreciation. My bad.

[bakermom]

Well I'm not a "gusher" myself. You know , one of those that goes on and on about something. It's probably how I would respond"thank you, it's beautiful"

[Granny Fran]

In this day and age, I'd say that was a mouthful. Seems like everyone is using the text lingo or shortcut to a real conversation anymore. I am sure it was appreciated, but not as we would knowing all the labor intensive facts. She is your sister, though, so there it is.

We all appreciate you and the effort you made. Remember when you give a gift, a true gift, it doesn't belong to you anymore.

[RiverMomm]

There is a problem with the written word. Sometimes it just doesn't come across as the writer meant.

"Thanks for the quilt. It's beautiful" may mean:

"THANKS for the quilt. It's BEAUTIFUL."

[KnitWitRosie]

You're not being too sensitive.... Everyone has their own right to feel how they do. You know your sister.... Is the the kind that "gushes" over things? Or is she just a "Hey, thanks!" Kinda gal. If she usually is a gusher, than I would be taken aback by it too.

I made 8 quilts for Christmas, and all but one have been delivered. The ones I gave in person were very well received... But the three that were given to family out of state were only recognized because my mom took a video of them opening them, told them to say "Thank You Jessica", and sent me the video. Was I expecting cartwheels... No. But kinda thought I would have gotten a phone call or email from them. Ah well. It made me feel good to do it... So to me that is what is most important.

[Carrie J]

I can only relate how my Sister responds to things, she's very, very minimal in comment and showing ANY excitement, being tickled, etc. Hers was pretty similar. The telltale sign that indicated she really, really liked it, was she kept "petting" the quilt. My Niece and I just laughed as we know her so very well. Her SIL said, "Shirley, if you don't like that quilt Aunt Carrie gave you, I'll just put it in my truck." She gave him the "lizard look".............Standard sarcastic expression for not happenin' Bub! In this day and age, profusion of emotion along with/and the written word have declined drastically. It's becoming a "lost art". BUT, know that all of us here, are your biggest fans!! We love all the hard work, talent everyone does! Hugs!

[sidesaddles]

That's more than I got for my efforts. Sent baby blanket to my nephew and his girlfriend for their first baby (my brother's first grandbaby) and six months later I called and asked if they ever got it. "Oh yeah, they are using it." No thank you, nothing from the parents. Then just before Christmas they had their second child. I didn't learn from the first one...still haven't heard anything.

[Thimbleena]

All of us on this forum know how much time, love and effort goes into making a quilt, but not everyone does. Or if they do know it, they don't appreciate it. There are some friends and family members I no longer make things for, or if I do make something, I make sure it's a quick and easy version, because I know they really don't care about stuff that is made by hand. It sounds as though your sister may have hurt your feelings, but tone is pretty hard to evaluate from the written word, and at least she thanked you!

And the Kaffe Fassett quilt sounds beautiful, so feel free to send it my way. I'd definitely appreciate it.

[Vonnie]

At least you got some reaction.

I have given away several quilts where I have not heard anything back. And a few that sent word by someone else. The absolute worst was my oldest son's girlfriend when I gave her one for Christmas(this happened a few years ago). "Oh, another one." I had never given her anything before. I wasn't too upset when they broke up just still mad at her for the way she did it. My son was in the middle east when she top taking his calls but ran his cell phone sky high talking to her new boyfriend. Arg!

The ones that give me the most thanks are the ones that are crafty themselves and realize how much work goes into it.

[pcbatiks]

It sounds like your sister liked her quilt.........but a quick phone call would have been nice too.

For those that never got a thank you for your gift........remember.........we all learn the hard way. There are "quilt-worthy" and "not quilt-worthy" people in our lives.