Am I too sensitive?

Some people are just not quilt worthy. Thats all. I have given to people who are not crafty and to those that are and get equal astounding reactions from both. I do not give to anyone who is not quilt worthy.

I'm totally with you. If it were me, I would call my sister and say, Marg, that quilt took me 25 hours to make and I had to submit it to the LA woman 2 months ahead and then she got it back to me and I bound it, another 2 hours. And, ahem, it also cost a king's ransom. So you need to rave to me for at least several minutes on the wonderful ness of this quilt!

And then I think she'd get it, lol.

I gave my sister a quilt for her birthday. She gushed then, but she gushes over every gift, so it didn't mean so much. But the other day when we were talking she said, "I just want you to know how much the quilt means to me. It has kept me warm and been such a comfort" (she is going through some tough times). It really meant a lot to me. Maybe your sister isn't able to express it now, but a real thank you might come later. I hope so.

I dunno, I think in today's times people just aren't as grateful. That being said...when I give...it's to give, expecting nothing in return. I know it's nice if others show there appreciation...but some don't know how. My dear niece received a quilt I put a lot of love into of my own design as her mother is gone. She said a standard thank you thank you at the shower...but everytime she post a photo of sweet Lilah on her facebook page commemorating one month, two month...she has her on the quilt. Makes me proud..not at all why I gave it to her. I gave it to her because I love her and wanted her to have something heartfelt from me.

hmmmm.... I know us sewers/quilters. We would really appreciate the work of the gift, as well as the gift. Unfortunately, with all the high tech stuff out there, it has become rather impersonal. I believe this person does like the quilt and probably knows you made it. But the technology has created a time where instead of picking up the phone and calling or sending a thank you note in the mail, it has become easier for email. Don't beat yourself up. Proper Ettiquette has practically passed away. Give it time. You never know what is around the next corner.

So sorry that happened, I know your quilt was beautiful and full of love - wish quilt receivers were able to really appreciate the effort and money that quilts require. Love the "quilt worthy" comment. Gave my dil a really nice quilt and when I dropped by to drop something off, found it on the floor with the dog sleeping on it - she is definitely not a "quilt worthy" person!

I would not dismiss your sister as not being quilt worthy. It would have been nicer if she had sent a thank you before you emailed for an address. However, on her own volition, she did thank you and tell you that the quilt was beautiful. That is definitely praise. I understand your disappointment, I am dealing with something similar (and also with Kaffe Fassett material!). What may help you is to recognize, understand and accept your disappointment (it is valid) and then move on. Some things to help may be knowing how much love was put into the quilt and that your sister thinks it is beautiful.

I agree with all previous comments :)
A lot depends by the person's usual behavior... as it was said, some people are more sober and simple showing appreciation!
Btw I totally understand you... I was raised to always thanks properly for gifts and growing up I developed this even more! :) Now I love to write thank you notes, or to show with enthusiasm my joy when I receive a great gift (but this is also how I am, I love to show my feelings). If I'll ever receive a quilt I'll be sure to take a photo with the quilt and me and send it back to whoever got me such a gift with a thank you note! But again, that's me!

Surely, as your sister, she loved it :)

Hi....please don't take this personally but I think maybe you are being a bit sensitive.....e mail is an odd way of communication as is texting.
We write down what we think quickly without thinking how it will be received and then whizz it over to someone at the speed of light....so often I have re read an e mail I have sent and thought ouch...should have read that before I sent it and no matter how many times I think i must write and read first before sending somehow my finger gets to the send button before my brain gets into gear.
She told you it was beautiful......my thoughts are she loved it...she just was responding instantly without thinking.

I don't want to be sensitive when it comes to gift giving in general but I am. A lot of thought and time go into picking out or making a gift and I like it when people show excitement. Like some of the other people have mentioned they have experienced no thank yous at all. I have attended 3 weddings since the summer and have not received one thank you at all (by phone, text, email or mail).

That is something that I have drilled into my kids and nice to see they are drilling manners into my grandkids!