Don't take this the wrong way and I don't mean to sound snarky. My husband does not sew but you two suffer from the same thing: It is called over-thinking or over-analyzing and you described the symptoms perfectly. It drives me absolutely crazy. (Maybe that's why a game of Scrabble with him takes like 3 hours) Just make up your mind already and move on. The colors don't have to be the same but if they were in the same charm pack in the end they WILL go together.I speak from experience, I have a gazillion charm packs. That's all I will buy.