Question for Guild members

[JCY]

I've never heard of this, but I've never been part of a guild or organized quilting group. IMO, it seems totally unnecessary & would be off-putting to any new folks attending. If there is cattiness or clickiness going on, only those people involved should be addressed, perhaps by a leader, or someone, to shape up & settle their differences. It's too bad that just a few can spoil the whole group dynamics. I hope things get settled to everyone's satisfaction. JCY

[Kgrammiecaz]

If I were to join any group, I would not be wanting to read or recite something every time there. That would be like reading the forum rules and checking off you agree before every time you log on to the forum. How ridiculous is that. I am a religious person but I respect there are those who are not or who keep it private. If the guild was started without a religous connection, it should remain that way. I have said it before, I am a brat, so I would have left and not gone back. Especially as,you say it was suggested to remove the religous portion and they declined. Sounds to me as if they had a motive maybe to get someone out.

[kaydee]

First off, I have to say how impressed I am that the members of your quilt guild actually arrive "on time". Our quilters float in and out of our weekly meetings as if we didn't have a start and stop time. If our leader read that aloud at start time, there's a good chance she'd probably be reading it to herself.

Second, my guild is associated with a church, but if that were read at the "start" of our Wednesday morning meeting time, I'd have a good reason to sleep an extra 10 minutes on Wednesday morning.

[Linda71]

Thanks for all your comments. I have been going to this guild for a few years. Everyone has always been caring, helpful and fun to be with. I looked forward to going every week. I will be revisiting this motion and now I have lots of wonderful thoughts to share.

[Claire OneStitchAtATime]

I'm probably about to give unsolicited advice, but ....Can you talk to some people before the meeting so others who are uncomfortable are ready to speak up about their feelings? Prepping for a meeting can help shyer folks express their feelings because they have time to think ahead about what they want to say. You also might talk to the person who chairs the meeting in advance about your concerns. The guild leaders might do better if they have a heads up that some people aren't happy about it. The people who proposed it surely didn't mean to make anyone uncomfortable & it would be best if they weren't surprised during the meeting -- in my experience surprise leads to defensiveness, & defensiveness leads to hurt feelings.

Good luck! I hope your guild can reach a resolution that works for its members.

[Hulamoon]

I belonged to a Childrens custom boutique applique group on Ebay for a couple of years. We would have group shows like patriotic, flowers, etc. We all voted. Then one of the gals brought up to put this religious thing in our listings. i didn't want to and made it clear i didn't want to be that kind of group, especially with advertising. She was a little hurt and left. I left for Etsy.

So I say it needs to be brought up, I would be uncomfortable with it.

[pcbatiks]

Even if this were not prayer based........it just seems odd to have to recite something.....especially this long before every meeting. If they live by those words there is surely know reason to recite them. After reciting them a few times......everyone will just be on "auto pilot" anyway. If you enjoy the meeting and can't get them to change this rule......I think I would just show up a few minutes late.

[Slokarma]

Seems odd.

I would be wondering who the "message" is for and if that's the case, she'll never get it.

Put it in needlepoint and hang it on the wall.