There are also other things that determine how your quilt feels besides backing. Keep in mind that the more quilting you do on your quilt, the stiffer it will be. I don't like a lot of quilting in mine, unless it is for a bedspread that is just for decor or small projects like wall hangings, table runners, and such. I also find Warm and Natural batting is stiffer than Quilter's Dream. Someone may differ with me on that. You just need to experiment with battings and see what you think. I've order some Quilter's Dream Orient that I've heard has a wonderful softness and drape. I'm anxious to try it out. Good luck on your search for the quilt you are desiring.