Stillborn Beravement Quilt Group opened

In a perfect world, we wouldn't need this.

The Labor and Delivery unit I work on, has sadly had our Bereavement program, practically dismantled, another manager ago...

Well, she's GONE, and Leone and me, are BACK.
(She is the certified Bereavement Counselor. I am NOT, although I have been there, and done that. I lost my first pregnancy, halfway through, many years ago. It was all handled so differently back then...)

I would have loved to have something from that awful experience. ANYTHING. Was it a boy, or a girl? Did he/she have five fingers and toes? A mini quilt would have meant the world to me!

I'd LOVE some help on this project.

Please join me. Let's provide a memory, to empty arms...


http://forum.missouriquiltco.com/gro...ilt-group.html

So sorry to hear about you loss, Sue. I'm sure it still hurts many years later. I would be happy to help you out after the holidays, can you give us some "guidelines" - size?, boy/girl specific or not?

I would certainly like to help with this!!! I have a close friend that lost her son at birth a few years back.... I can not even imagine. I miscarried at 3 months. Thank you for starting this group!! I really think your right..it would mean the world to these mourning mothers!!

Just tell me what you need. I got this.

I wasn't going to open this up, until after the Holidays, but things happen.
As I said, our program is a mess....
I think you'll find the group easily. I hope the specs laid out are okay....
You guys are AWESOME!

I am in. It will be on the back of what I already do for the hospitals that saved my son's life if that is alright.

Sue, you've hit close to my heart with this one. I miscarried my first baby just after we had told everyone we were expecting, and I grieved deeply. The following year I gave birth to my sweet baby Travis who was born with an inborn error of metabolism. I was wheeled out of the hospital with a potted plant at the same time two other mothers were wheeled out with their newborns. For six and a half weeks I spent every single day up at the hospital, through so many tests and biopsies, questions and tears. He never did get to come home, and part of my heart went to heaven when he died in my arms on my third wedding anniversary. It would be an honor to participate in this group with you.

JAYZEE, Sheri!
Too much grief. SO, SO sad, my friend.
I'll understand if you can't join in.
If it helps, please join in.
Amazing how we can suppress a memory, and have it come back with a purpose....

I would love to be a part of this as well. I have had three miscarriages and all these years later, they are still painful to remember. I have been blessed with five wonderful children but those three babies I lost, will always have a special place in my heart. I am glad that we have gotten better at dealing with miscarriage, it needs to be talked about and grieving needs to take place. I know these quilts will bring much comfort to the families as they deal with their loss.

Thanks for doing this NYSue.

Sue... Please ought me in..... I am so sorry for your terrible loss. I would candid ER it a privilege to help.

As a trashed bereavement minister, I am so aware miscarriage and stillbirth are not talked about as openly as they should be.... Many do not understand the deep grief parents feel.... I can't even imagine the pain.

Thank you for inviting us to help.

count me in too please....I was one of the fortunate ones who was gifted with two healthy boys. But I know the loss that parents feel. Bless you for this.

I will try to help.

I have never lost a child, but I was a surrogate to help others become families because of infertility issues.

I was blessed with 3 children of my own and 3 surrogate babies. It was an honor to help them, and touched my family and me very deeply.

Count me in, this is our backyard and I would love to have something so close at hand to help with. I was blessed with 2 healthy boys, but my sister in law has has several miscarriages.

(((Sue))),

Don and I lost two babies before we were blessed with our Katarina, then almost lost her at one month. Those four years of trying to have Katarina were tough, a lot of people think "everyone has an easy time getting pregnant".

The timing of your project must be a Light of God, just two days ago Matt was admitted again to Emory Johns Creek as it looks like another Adrenal Gland tumor is growing which bring on Cardiac Arrest issues. Kat was with him and of course they are digesting this news because she was 6 months pregnant with Ollie in 2010 when Matt had 3 CAs. Just then one of Matt's best friends called from California to tell them that their other buddy's 8 month unborn daughter went into distress and had passed. Kat and Matt were heart broken along with us as we've known the couple for five years. Seen her belly shots on FB, the nursery photos, shower photos, the excitement of the grandparents.

Many tears have been shed, more will be shed for this little angel...

I will join your group and work up some small blankets over the next week to send your way. Send me a PM if there is any way I can help you.

Huggers, Ruby

Thanks for all the support, thus far.
Your generosity will give our Bereavement program a much needed boost in the right direction.
I was going to wait until after the first of the year to open this group up, but a couple of friends seemed anxious to get started.
No rush!
This will be an on-going project.

One of the German forums has a few ladies who make these kind of quilt memories for what they call "star children" and the request is to incorporate stars and/or angels in these quilts. For many of these quilts the name of the child is known and sometimes that is incorporated as well. I think it's a sweet (albeit sad) hug in quilt form. Whether it's a miscarriage or a non-viable birth, it must be just devastating for the parents. I'm glad there are people like you who can offer a glimmer of hope.

I will help out when I can. Wish I had more time to sew, but working 10 hours a day with a 40 minute commute on both ends leaves little time.

Can you give us some guidelines? I can't wait to get started, but I'm not sure what you want. Thanks for the opportunity to serve these grieving families...

Sandy, suggested size ranges were 18" X 18", 24" X 24", or 32" X 32". Not necessarily square, but as a reference to the approximate sizes that are needed.
Here's a very simple one I made this afternoon. As you can see, I have yet to tack down the binding...

Attachment 60974

Thank you..... I have a lot of soft baby flannel that will be perfect.

As I mentioned, Kat and Matt's dear friends have just been touched by this tragedy the other day...

"It is with the heaviest of hearts that Laura and I announce our beautiful Layla was born sleeping on 11/11, a month and a day before she was due to enter the world. We snuggled and loved our perfect 6lb 9oz baby girl and she was given every good wish that has been sent her way by so many people that love her.

We are just starting to comprehend, grieve and heal, in every sense. The outpouring of love from our friends and family has been incredible, and we thank you from the bottom of our broken hearts. Keep sending that good energy our way - we are going to need it in the days to come."

Please say a prayer for this young couple and Layla, a beautiful Angel who has joined our Lord for reasons only He knows.

Ruby and Don/Kat and Matt

Sue, count me in. Another wonderful way for us quilters to help someone that is hurting.

Ruby, I have all of you in my prayers. Lisa

(((((((Ruby)))))))) Oh, sweetie, may you and your family, and especially your grieving friends, find the sacred peace that will uplift and sustain you. ~with love dear.

My heart goes out to those young parents..... And their family and friends. I pray that they will have some kind of peace...

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Originally Posted by HandsOffItsMine

As I mentioned, Kat and Matt's dear friends have just been touched by this tragedy the other day...

"It is with the heaviest of hearts that Laura and I announce our beautiful Layla was born sleeping on 11/11, a month and a day before she was due to enter the world. We snuggled and loved our perfect 6lb 9oz baby girl and she was given every good wish that has been sent her way by so many people that love her.

We are just starting to comprehend, grieve and heal, in every sense. The outpouring of love from our friends and family has been incredible, and we thank you from the bottom of our broken hearts. Keep sending that good energy our way - we are going to need it in the days to come."

Please say a prayer for this young couple and Layla, a beautiful Angel who has joined our Lord for reasons only He knows.

Ruby and Don/Kat and Matt

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So, so, sad.
Can you imagine what it means to parents, to have a beautiful little quilt to wrap this 'little one' up in, for the short time they have with him or her?
A quilt would mean so much, for a years to come, to a grieving family.
What a wonderful forum we have here!
Quilts for Kids - A Baby Quilt From the Heart - YouTube
If you new, or unsure, Jenny adds a little guidance....
;)

Count me in as well.

Our first grandson was stillborn full-term at 7lb. 3oz. 3 years ago. He was so beautiful. Our hearts still hurt from the loss. The nursed were so wonderful to my daughter and her husband tho. They made plaster molds of both his hands and feet and the side of his head. They took many photos of him and well as contacted a professional photographer who volunteer for those situations.

You're correct when you say they do things differently now. It wasn't that long ago when parents weren't allowed to hold the baby or even sometimes see it. I'm so thankful that I could hold him and gaze upon his face for a few precious minutes that will never be forgotten.

Looking forward to get started...

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Count me in as well.

Our first grandson was stillborn full-term at 7lb. 3oz. 3 years ago. He was so beautiful. Our hearts still hurt from the loss. The nursed were so wonderful to my daughter and her husband tho. They made plaster molds of both his hands and feet and the side of his head. They took many photos of him and well as contacted a professional photographer who volunteer for those situations.

You're correct when you say they do things differently now. It wasn't that long ago when parents weren't allowed to hold the baby or even sometimes see it. I'm so thankful that I could hold him and gaze upon his face for a few precious minutes that will never be forgotten.

Looking forward to get started...

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As the grandmother of five boys, (four are my daughter's ) I can't even imagine your pain.... And I am so sorry you and your family has to endure such an awful experience....

I am so thankful that things are so different today than they were..... The new ways acknowledge the loss of a previous child, and allow family to truly grieve.....

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Originally Posted by IwantItgreen

Count me in as well.

Our first grandson was stillborn full-term at 7lb. 3oz. 3 years ago. He was so beautiful. Our hearts still hurt from the loss. The nursed were so wonderful to my daughter and her husband tho. They made plaster molds of both his hands and feet and the side of his head. They took many photos of him and well as contacted a professional photographer who volunteer for those situations.

You're correct when you say they do things differently now. It wasn't that long ago when parents weren't allowed to hold the baby or even sometimes see it. I'm so thankful that I could hold him and gaze upon his face for a few precious minutes that will never be forgotten.

Looking forward to get started...

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Such a heartbreaking experience for your daughter and her husband, and you as the grandmother. Thirty years ago, it was very different indeed, we had very little time with our children in those two separate occasions.

We have a beautiful daughter who blessed us with three grandchildren, who are our loves. We'll always think of our three children though, just like you will always included your first grandchild.

Thankfully things are done with more compassion today and these blankets will help these parents in a small way.

Do you ever use a fat quarter? It 's the right size for the smallest. quilts

Absolutely! The pic I posted this morning, under group photos, is made with a fat quarter, and a 2.5" contrasting border fabric. Very basic. But a 'little something', all the same...

I would love to participate in this. 'Easy Quilts' is a friend of mine and she told me about this group so I joined the forum. Still trying to learn how to navigate the site - very different from the other forum I play on. Thanks!

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Originally Posted by Brigitteew

I would love to participate in this. 'Easy Quilts' is a friend of mine and she told me about this group so I joined the forum. Still trying to learn how to navigate the site - very different from the other forum I play on. Thanks!

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Glad you joined us Brigit! welcome aboard.

Welcome to the forum and the Group, Brigit. You will figure out the working here in no time! Post a thread if you have questions.

Thanks for joining us, Brigit!

I would love to join, shipping is holding me back in this time of stress around my family right now.....
It is a ongoing project right? So I can make a blanket/ quilt now and ship it when I can, is that okay?

Great thing to do!!

That would be great, Klasien.
Welcome!

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Originally Posted by Brigitteew

I would love to participate in this. 'Easy Quilts' is a friend of mine and she told me about this group so I joined the forum. Still trying to learn how to navigate the site - very different from the other forum I play on. Thanks!

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Hey, Bee! Glad to see you here.... It's a little different than our other quilty forum, but really nice. I'm glad we're in this particular group together....

As you can see, Kermit lives....

OK.... Is the idea for us to simply begin making our small quilts, then ship them to a certain address? I just want to be clear about what to do.

Sandy, at this top header in blue, is Groups. If you click on that, it will lead you to our group.
Join.
Then you'll be privy to instructions and discussions. ;)

Thanks to everyone for the warm welcome. I think this is a wonderful thing to do and am excited to be a part of it.