How about a 'thank you'...

I'm not really sure what is 'going around' of late. I got into this quilting world with a goal to make something hand-made for the next generation, in tribute to my MIL, who made sure everyone had something hand made.
So the first go-around went poorly. I sent my grand niece a toddler quilt. (Yea, should have taken a pic. It was from the Chrysallis line of fabric, and it came out AWESOME. But hand tied....)
I had to solicit acknowledgement and a thank you, 2 weeks later on Facebook.
(I spoke to my sister (the GM) during that time. There was major stuff going on. Moving to a better place, and such...)
Okay. Life happens.....
They came to visit about a month and a half ago. (DS, her grand, and grand niece's Mom). Sophia is 2-3 year old toddler. And while she was here, she used my hand made placemats.
I sent her two whimsical placemats. The one, a frog theme, the other ladybugs. ADORABLE. Again, no pics,
And NO thank-you or acknowledgement...

But on the bright side, I delivered a 1rst BIRTHDAY quilt today (4 months late) to another GN and my phone is on fire.
Who knew? Some people do really still acknowledge and say Thank-You!

I think some people don't understand what goes into handmade things. They put them in the category of "I could get that at Walmart". Or, worst case, "she's too cheap to buy a gift, so she made it." I'm disappointed for you :(

Well, as they say - it takes all kinds! I just hope you never catch sight of one of your quilts being used on the ground under the car for car repairs or some of the other horrible sounding things I've heard about!

Take heart Sue and don't let this discourage you!

At least you know better. It's breeding sweetie. If mama had taught her to say thank you in everyday life, she would. You have better breeding! A simple thank you is the smallest thing you can do if someone gives you something.

You know you did it. Let God reward you... He always does it better!

A thank you costs nothing!
I know how you feel.
In life there are "givers" and others are "takers"
I like to be a giver and all I need to make what I've made worth while is a "THANK YOU "
My parents used to tell me that those who have no manners have been dragged up and those who have manners were
brought up LOL- so true !

It is breeding. Just two little words is all it takes to show appreciation...THANK YOU. When I was being brought up, every year I would receive a birthday and Christmas card with $5 from my Grandma. I always had to sit down and write a thank you letter.
I just don't think kids are raised to do such things anymore. Not all kids anyway. No excuse.

I totally agree with Kensington, good manners begin at home, it costs nothing to say please and thank-you, even our two year old grandson has been taught to say them - peas and tankoo. I'm sorry all your hard work wasn't even acknowledged, we know how much love, hard work and money go into making our quilts.

Agree! I also received $ from my Grandparents and was taught to sit right down and write a thank you letter. How hard is it for folks to say those two words? I see it on games I play and tease that their TY keys must be broken :-(

Sorry Sue, we do know what it takes to sit down, cut up all that fabric and make a quilt - What a shame your hard work was not rewarded by a simple action. Thank YOU for making them gifts. Those placemats sound cute as can be! I hope they all learn to treasure your special gifts soon

I've always been a stickler to teach my DD to say Thank You no matter how big or small something may be. It IS all in how you were raised. My youngest brothers kids wouldn't say thank you if their lives depended on it. I think showing appreciation in anytuing some one does nice for you is priority.I am so proud of my daughter. She gets it!

My knitting friend and I have to know a person is "knit worthy" or "quilt worthy" before we will gift our items. We want to make sure that before we put our money and time into a gift it will be appreciated. Some people are not worthy of all that goes into a handcrafted item.

That being said, kids get a pass on that rule to a certain age. The no thank you's go down a little easier if you remember you made everything for a toddler and I am sure the items get much use and are loved the way a child can love a special gift.

When they come to visit again, you can make sure you thank the toddler for little things and perhaps it will wear off since the parents probably won't be teaching that lesson.

My mother taught me to write thank yous, and I taught my boys to write them. It is important.

I think it is wonderful that you cared enough to brighten that child's day with the placemats once you noticed how much she enjoyed them.

You deserve a big cyber hug.

HUG!
Cheryl

You post thanks on FB, Twitter, or whatever social site everyone is into now. Trouble with those sites - you seem to have to either join or friend to see the posts. While you might not see the post - kids may be tweeting other kids about their "cool, or whatever" present.

If I mailed it, just let me know you got the package. I had the fun of making the quilt or object, and I don't care what you do with it afterward. I was taught that a gift is just that, a gift, and what the receiver does with it is the receiver's right. The giver has no say in the matter. There's a lot of stuff I don't like getting. If you are giving a gift, take notice of what people use and/or like. Sometimes gifting an art quilt to someone who prefers old time quilting isn't a good idea. You are telling this person that they need to like what you like.

I get to play with stuff I wouldn't have around the house.

I've made baby blankets and recieved no TYs. Oh, I got thanked last Halloween when the 5 year old kid came to my doir, and his mom sad to him, "this is the lady who made your favorite blanket". So I guess that's sort of a TY if the kid has been carrying it around for 5 years!

Another one made, the kid is turning three, still waiting.

My mother didn't teach my brothers, sisters and I to say Thank You but when we were kids we hardly ever received gifts so maybe she didn't think of it. I always received a Bday and Christmas gift from my godmother, who was also my Aunt. Seeing her family thanking everyone for their gifts made me aware that I should do the same.

I taught my boys to say TKU and for special gifts a TKU note was expected even if they thanked the gift giver in person.
Most of their kids, my grandkids, do follow up with a TKU note, email or on Facebook so they are doing good in my eyes. Was wondering why we didn't receive a thank you for the check and gift we gave newest great grandchild a few months ago. Mystery solved, we were given it the other day at his older brother's Bday party as his mom, granddaughter Laura, wanted to save on postage. Come on Laura, you could have sent me an email.

I've made quilts for all of my siblings grandkids and have to say all my nieces and nieces in law have always thanked me many times. Last time we were all together each stroller had one of my quilts in them. Did make me feel very good as they appreciate the quilts and are using them.

Please don't feel bad. The same thing happens to me and my mom. People go about life differently, but I think all appreciate it when you give them a gift with a "piece" of yourself in it. I have one side who promptly acknowledge their gifts and another who don't acknowledge it but I know appreciate it. Somehow they just don't get the time to do it. I know that is not an excuse, but that is the reality and I still love giving them gifts from the heart.

This quilt went to a sweet baby girl of friends we know. http://forum.missouriquiltco.com/mem...aby-quilt.html But whenever they brought her over to visit they always had her wrapped up in a Walmart blanket! I really wanted them to use it and it would have been such fun to see her with it. Oh, well. Maybe (hopefully) she uses it in her crib.

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Originally Posted by cyndiofthevortex

This quilt went to a sweet baby girl of friends we know. http://forum.missouriquiltco.com/mem...aby-quilt.html But whenever they brought her over to visit they always had her wrapped up in a Walmart blanket! I really wanted them to use it and it would have been such fun to see her with it. Oh, well. Maybe (hopefully) she uses it in her crib.

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Take heart, Cyndi... Maybe Mama doesn't want the nice quilt you made to be dragged out to the car, where it will get all dirty!

Or put down on the floor in my house where the same thing could happen to it! Sewing before housework, you know.

I was very adamant that my boys always said please and thank you. They mean so much and cost nothing. Sorry you did not get the acknowledgment you so deserve.

Thanks yous are nice, whether by phone, email or snail mail. Some sort of acknowledgement. I'm of the frame of mind if you can't at least say thank you somehow, don't expect another gift.

Same thing with wedding invitations and birth announcements. If you don't bother to let me know (since I live out of state) don't expect ... my one niece never learned. My nephews and other niece send invitations and announcements (and thank yous) all the time. All of them are from the same family too, some just don't get it.

[QUOTE=K. McEuen;356095]Thanks yous are nice, whether by phone, email or snail mail. Some sort of acknowledgement. I'm of the frame of mind if you can't at least say thank you somehow, don't expect another gift.

Amen to that!! :icon_happy:

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Originally Posted by Eileen83flowers

My parents used to tell me that those who have no manners have been dragged up and those who have manners were brought up LOL- so true !

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VERY WELL SAID!!

Handmade or not - those with good manners say thank you. My children, especially the youngest who is a boy, get a bit snarky when they have already thanked someone in person, and I have them also write a thank you note. It really was a battle with my son until he overheard some family members commenting on the difference between he and his sister and the other youngsters in the family. Now he doesn't complain as much!

Sue, thank you for sharing your talent with your family members and friends. Sorry that the recipient didn't thank you, but I appreciate your efforts on their behalf. I am lucky enough to have rec'd you as a swap partner in 2 swaps and I know you do great work!

The same thing happened to me. I made a double wedding ring quilt for my brother-in-law's wedding. It was all appliqued and quilted by hand and it took me a very long time. I got no thank you. And you would think that they would send out thank yous for all their gifts! I was very upset.

Sue, not all People can imagine how much work is in a quilted Piece and not all People can imagine how much love you put into your work. I know, this hurts. But maybe it is not this Generation of People who can say thanks for that gorgeous gifts, but the next one will look at it open mouthed what one of their elders were able to do .... quilts are sewed love we send into the future

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Originally Posted by ilive2craft2

Sue, thank you for sharing your talent with your family members and friends. Sorry that the recipient didn't thank you, but I appreciate your efforts on their behalf. I am lucky enough to have rec'd you as a swap partner in 2 swaps and I know you do great work!

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Well now, my friend, you've made my day!
I really do appreciate all the support shown here. When it's all said and done, the grand nieces and nephews will ALL get a quilt. That was my goal coming in, and I'm sticking to it. I'll see who was raised with manners and who wasn't, won't I?
I can't very well begrudge a baby, nor a toddler for their parents transgressions....
But I still have a very hard time with the 'no acknowledgement' part. How hard is it to say "We got the placemats. Thanks, Aunt Sue!" in a FB message? Life is busy. Life is sometimes hard. Believe me I 'get it'.
But JAYZEE, a thank-you today, doesn't even require a postage stamp!
My RANT for the day, I guess....
HAPPY quilting, peeps!

Talk about a sore subject! I, too, was raised to write TY notes; my Oma would give me paper and pencil as soon as I could write and she would dictate the notes for me until I was able to do it in my own.

I'm to the point where those who thank me will continue to receive gifts, those who don't will have to settle for a card.

I know exactly how all of you feel.

I say thank you for everything. Even when I ask a question from the forum. I feel if they took time out their busy schedules then, I think a Thank You is needed. If someone took the time to make me a quilt, I would probably kiss them with a hug and a thank you.