How about a 'thank you'...

You post thanks on FB, Twitter, or whatever social site everyone is into now. Trouble with those sites - you seem to have to either join or friend to see the posts. While you might not see the post - kids may be tweeting other kids about their "cool, or whatever" present.

If I mailed it, just let me know you got the package. I had the fun of making the quilt or object, and I don't care what you do with it afterward. I was taught that a gift is just that, a gift, and what the receiver does with it is the receiver's right. The giver has no say in the matter. There's a lot of stuff I don't like getting. If you are giving a gift, take notice of what people use and/or like. Sometimes gifting an art quilt to someone who prefers old time quilting isn't a good idea. You are telling this person that they need to like what you like.

I get to play with stuff I wouldn't have around the house.

I've made baby blankets and recieved no TYs. Oh, I got thanked last Halloween when the 5 year old kid came to my doir, and his mom sad to him, "this is the lady who made your favorite blanket". So I guess that's sort of a TY if the kid has been carrying it around for 5 years!

Another one made, the kid is turning three, still waiting.

My mother didn't teach my brothers, sisters and I to say Thank You but when we were kids we hardly ever received gifts so maybe she didn't think of it. I always received a Bday and Christmas gift from my godmother, who was also my Aunt. Seeing her family thanking everyone for their gifts made me aware that I should do the same.

I taught my boys to say TKU and for special gifts a TKU note was expected even if they thanked the gift giver in person.
Most of their kids, my grandkids, do follow up with a TKU note, email or on Facebook so they are doing good in my eyes. Was wondering why we didn't receive a thank you for the check and gift we gave newest great grandchild a few months ago. Mystery solved, we were given it the other day at his older brother's Bday party as his mom, granddaughter Laura, wanted to save on postage. Come on Laura, you could have sent me an email.

I've made quilts for all of my siblings grandkids and have to say all my nieces and nieces in law have always thanked me many times. Last time we were all together each stroller had one of my quilts in them. Did make me feel very good as they appreciate the quilts and are using them.

Please don't feel bad. The same thing happens to me and my mom. People go about life differently, but I think all appreciate it when you give them a gift with a "piece" of yourself in it. I have one side who promptly acknowledge their gifts and another who don't acknowledge it but I know appreciate it. Somehow they just don't get the time to do it. I know that is not an excuse, but that is the reality and I still love giving them gifts from the heart.

This quilt went to a sweet baby girl of friends we know. http://forum.missouriquiltco.com/mem...aby-quilt.html But whenever they brought her over to visit they always had her wrapped up in a Walmart blanket! I really wanted them to use it and it would have been such fun to see her with it. Oh, well. Maybe (hopefully) she uses it in her crib.

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Originally Posted by cyndiofthevortex

This quilt went to a sweet baby girl of friends we know. http://forum.missouriquiltco.com/mem...aby-quilt.html But whenever they brought her over to visit they always had her wrapped up in a Walmart blanket! I really wanted them to use it and it would have been such fun to see her with it. Oh, well. Maybe (hopefully) she uses it in her crib.

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Take heart, Cyndi... Maybe Mama doesn't want the nice quilt you made to be dragged out to the car, where it will get all dirty!

Or put down on the floor in my house where the same thing could happen to it! Sewing before housework, you know.

I was very adamant that my boys always said please and thank you. They mean so much and cost nothing. Sorry you did not get the acknowledgment you so deserve.

Thanks yous are nice, whether by phone, email or snail mail. Some sort of acknowledgement. I'm of the frame of mind if you can't at least say thank you somehow, don't expect another gift.

Same thing with wedding invitations and birth announcements. If you don't bother to let me know (since I live out of state) don't expect ... my one niece never learned. My nephews and other niece send invitations and announcements (and thank yous) all the time. All of them are from the same family too, some just don't get it.

[QUOTE=K. McEuen;356095]Thanks yous are nice, whether by phone, email or snail mail. Some sort of acknowledgement. I'm of the frame of mind if you can't at least say thank you somehow, don't expect another gift.

Amen to that!! :icon_happy: