I realized that DH has more room for his stuff than I do for my quilty stuff!
I do believe we will be having a talk real soon.
Hugs,
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I realized that DH has more room for his stuff than I do for my quilty stuff!
I do believe we will be having a talk real soon.
Hugs,
No Fair No Fair!!!!!
Sounds like it's time for a GARAGE SALE.!
I completely understand. When hubby was 10 his mother bought him a dresser, night stand and desk. The night stand and dresser ended up in my daughters room which is now my sewing room. I have had enough of looking at these ugly things. I need the **** space. He actually suggested that we give this set to our son. Really? Our son got a brand new bedroom set which is beautiful when we moved in here 5 yrs ago. I am really excited to replace that set with a 40 yr old set. I don't care how solid that old thing is. If I can't paint it and change the hardware it is gone!
I vented, sorry. I really do understand where you are coming from!
I understand too. I have a sewing room but both of my dd's moved out and left all their stuff behind. I have two whole rooms filled with trash and crap. Grrr
My idiot husband does that, too. He's grabbed all the space and organized it HIS way. Any vacant space belongs to him. His recliner has to face the TV, and it's too bad if we can't walk through the room. If he can't walk through a room, he complains.
I can't complain about the yard tools too much, I'm responsible for most of those since I'm lazy.
Yes Trish, I do believe a talk with DH is necessary.
I know where you are coming from. We haven't put a car in the garage since the 1980's when DH and sons used to tune up their cars themselves. DH has almost the entire garage as his workshop while I have a small spot for our dryer. I have claimed the old kitchen base cabinets as mine and set up the ironing board and have a nice U shape space of my own, even put some leftover carpeting so I can work there barefooted. He had built a closet in there for a photography dark room but there was a problem getting a water supply there so it became storage area for his golf stuff. Ah Ha, I got there first and put an old double dresser to store my quilts in. Same with the spare bedrooms, he has the bigger closets but he never throws stuff away so they are overcrowded. No way will he get into the other closets in my sewing room, they are for quilting and art supplies and paintings.
Good Luck with your 'discussion' with DH.
Wow, I didn't know you were supposed to get rid of old furniture. I still have a hutch and chest in my spare bedroom that we bought for our 40+ year old kids when they were toddlers. I think I got my $40 worth of use out of them.
I totally feel your pain, except I did a coup - I claimed our sons room for sewing a year before he moved out. Then bought a long arm earlier this year, so that there is not any "extra" room in my sewing room for any of his stuff.
He has the entire basement - pool table, weight lifting room, a room for stained glass (I did the classes too and loved it, but dad died and then I found quilting). We are also storing my mom's "stuff" that she can't part with, but will never use again - she is now in an assisted living apartment. We have a ton of stuff from his mom who died last fall. We have a ton of our own stuff, since both of us are keepers, but not hoarders. We tend to tuck things into the basement, but the rest of the house except for closets are ok. :)
We have contractors coming tomorrow to start on the kitchen and hall bath. I have been pitching stuff as well as donating usable stuff from our son's room as well as the kitchen and bath. In order to have room for the stuff we are keeping, I keep trying to get rid of the old stuff. I think the stuff he packed, he just packed and did not sort through.....
I think we need to move all of the furniture in the living room out of the way and at least cover it with blankets and put up some kind of tarp or something in the hallway and to the sun room or everything will be ruined by the dust. He thinks I am over reacting.
Give him a dust cloth when it's all over, then he will know you weren't overreacting. haha!
Hugs,
I still have an old dresser from when my HUSBAND was a child! We used it for our kids too, then I had to choose: junk it or refurbish. I chose to paint it high gloss black with white drawer fronts and black drawer pulls. My kids liked it so well that it is still in service. I find those really old out of date pieces of furniture are a great place to try out new skills.
I am using the bedroom furniture I got as a teen in our guest room with the exception of the bed, it is a queen instead of the double that was orig. Now they call it mid century modern, lol.
I also have a dresser in my sewing room that was my BIL when he was a boy, solid rock maple and mostly in good shape except we whitewashed it 20 years ago and the paint has yellowed. It is perfect for storing sewing supplies and tucks under my cutting table pretty well. I should paint it again...... another UFO.
I prefer old furniture. It's often better made. If you look at the table for an old treadle machine, it's usually good wood, decent hinges dovetailed drawers. A lot of the stuff today is particle board.
I grabbed the dining room. Odd size, and wide open but it's a space.
When we bought this house 13 years ago I had told my DH "one day the attached garage was going to be my sewing room". Well one day about 8 years ago; well after he had a 3 bay garage built for himself; I simply said "I'm ready to make my sewing room".
By the time I got home from work he had the garage door off and had cleaned it out.We done all the work ourselves ( thank god for the DIY channel) we raised the floor 2 feet put a window in removed the outside door, built a closet ,drywall,laminate flooring and so on and so on and watta bing watta bang I had my own space. I have never looked back. Granted it looks like a bomb exploded every time I sew but it is my bomb and I clean it up and wipe it out again and again. If I were you I would definitely get my own sewing space because I use my sewing space waaaay more than my DH uses his 30x40 garage! Now if only I could get them to quit bitching everytime I spend time in there I would have it made:)
Just go for it!
Both my older 2 sons got married 33 years ago this summer and everything of theirs went with them, especially their books from college. DS#3 lived away from home during college, grad school and afterwards until he got married so somehow he left lots of books behind in his old room here. This week he will be moving in with us for awhile and when he leaves he has the option of taking them with him or bringing them to the recycling center. I think the recycling center would be best as he hasn't felt the need for them in 20 years. He originally was a Political Science Prof but somewhere along the line got into computers so those books aren't of use to him any longer.
**hangs head in shame** I am a hoarder. I hate to part with stuff as there is usually some sentimental connection to it. BUT, I do curb it and once a year viciously purge anything that does not make me smile. As a child we moved around a lot from my dad's military service, so it is my theory that now I make up for it by keeping everything.
Hubby and I try to keep equal personal space (though he does claim the kitchen is mine which is usually met with the typical eye roll and a snort). Stake your claim sweetie and fight to the death for it. :icon_slap: