Quote Originally Posted by rebeccas-sewing View Post
Oh my dear Annika, this is such a difficult time in life for her, yes, but also for you. We spend so many years making everything right for our kids. Then one day we wake up and realize that we can't make everything better for our children. They have to figure it our for themselves. All you can do is keep reassuring her as you have been doing. Let her know that you will always be there for her. If she wants to talk you're more than willing to listen. Other than that there's really nothing you can do. If I had a nickel for every tear I shed and worry I had during the time my girls were teenagers I'd be rich. All I can say, is even though we suffered through some very trying times it's all behind us now. There are definitely scars but they learn to live with them and move on. The one who gave me the most worry was my older daughter. She is now about to turn 28 in September. She is a totally different person than the daughter I knew as a teen, and that's a good thing! Your daughter will work through this. It's just such a shame at their young age to be so unhappy with themselves. Some kids seem to just breeze through those years and others really struggle. You and I obviously are not in the latter category. Try not to worry. It really doesn't do a bit of good. I can attest to that. I wish I could give you a fix-it but it doesn't exist. As long as her feelings don't cause her serious emotional problems just keep on keepin' on. However, if you see any serious changes happening you might consider therapy. Unfortunately, our daughter's low self-esteem issues became such a problem that counseling was essential. It really helped our daughters but it also helped me to have someeone I could talk to when I felt so at a loss for what to do.
I have thought about counseling beacuse I do not seam to reach her and I am a bit afraid that she might take it to far.
Maybe that just me worring but better help before than after.

My elder daughter that is 16 has no such problems and I have treated them the same all their lives so I do not understand where here thought comming from.