Group swaps, and such....

I've been on two sides of this. I was a swap leader and wasn't prepared for people that dropped out without saying anything. I even PM'd someone for advice and the answer was to drop them. lol . On the other hand I have been late and like Jean said you don't know what will come up where you can't finish on time. I told my leader so I think everything is okay and I won't get banned.

I'm looking forward to the stockings and the next mugrug, but I think that will be it for now.


Susan what a nightmare of a story :(

Now I feel like dirt. During the past few months I have received (from my daughter who thought it was important) many cards and an adorable tea holder from forum friends who were concerned. As well as many private email messages. A few days ago I logged in to see well over 40 PM's and got through about 10 to realize that my swap partner for 2 swaps didn't receive anything from me. One I was sick and never completed it and the other I sent. I haven't been able to find out what happened yet. I was the co-host on 2 swaps that have come and gone, I think.

I was back and forth to Mass General many times and if I had asked hubby or daughter to check the forum they would have thought I was delirious. I was stripped of my tablet and snuck onto my son's laptop only a couple of times because I had the chance and did let forum friends know I was sick.

I couldn't and am not the type to post about every drug, symptom or test I have but I really honestly was unable to do anything more than lay down. I am the one that makes excuses to myself why I feel the way I do until I wake up in an ER which is what I did. I am still unable to drive, do laundry, garden, pretty much anything. I am now however allowed to sew but not for more than an hour and when I did for 3 hours because no one noticed I ended up sleeping for like 6 more.

I am really sorry that I have let anyone down and that was not my intent. I will make amends and never do it again no matter what it takes. I had no idea this was going to happen to me. I am really sorry and I feel bad because before I was sick I was weeks late on mailing out a gift.

I feel so bad right now because I have failed so many people lately. I have no idea where the items I have received even are besides the cards and tea holder which is adorable. My daughter will be here tomorrow afternoon and I am sure she knows because hubby has no clue. He said a few packages came for me but he told Brenna to put them away and he doesn't know where. I will find out tomorrow, have her take pictures for me and I will post them.

I am so sorry and I hope you can all forgive me.

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Originally Posted by Lisapc

Now I feel like dirt. During the past few months I have received (from my daughter who thought it was important) many cards and an adorable tea holder from forum friends who were concerned. As well as many private email messages. A few days ago I logged in to see well over 40 PM's and got through about 10 to realize that my swap partner for 2 swaps didn't receive anything from me. One I was sick and never completed it and the other I sent. I haven't been able to find out what happened yet. I was the co-host on 2 swaps that have come and gone, I think.

I was back and forth to Mass General many times and if I had asked hubby or daughter to check the forum they would have thought I was delirious. I was stripped of my tablet and snuck onto my son's laptop only a couple of times because I had the chance and did let forum friends know I was sick.

I couldn't and am not the type to post about every drug, symptom or test I have but I really honestly was unable to do anything more than lay down. I am the one that makes excuses to myself why I feel the way I do until I wake up in an ER which is what I did. I am still unable to drive, do laundry, garden, pretty much anything. I am now however allowed to sew but not for more than an hour and when I did for 3 hours because no one noticed I ended up sleeping for like 6 more.

I am really sorry that I have let anyone down and that was not my intent. I will make amends and never do it again no matter what it takes. I had no idea this was going to happen to me. I am really sorry and I feel bad because before I was sick I was weeks late on mailing out a gift.

I feel so bad right now because I have failed so many people lately. I have no idea where the items I have received even are besides the cards and tea holder which is adorable. My daughter will be here tomorrow afternoon and I am sure she knows because hubby has no clue. He said a few packages came for me but he told Brenna to put them away and he doesn't know where. I will find out tomorrow, have her take pictures for me and I will post them.

I am so sorry and I hope you can all forgive me.

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oh my gosh, Lisa, we knew you were not able to do anything but sleep and try to heal. I sure hope your swap partner understands, I am sure she does. We were just all so worried about you when we didn't hear from you. I'm glad you are able to get back to doing some things. We hope to hear from you soon.

I guess I'm one of the lucky ones, I've only belonged to one mug rug swap and I sent mine to my partner and I received mine. I'm now ready to join another one!

Hi Lisa..............I think a most of us saw the post awhile back saying that you were very sick and could not do anything except rest. Sounds like you are still recovering.......take care of yourself and don't worry about this. We've missed you. :)

We all knew you were sick Lisa. I think it was Wendy that let us all know. If your swap leaders didn't take that into consideration and remove you or at least let your receiving partner know that their item may be months late, that is on them.

Lisa, Poor thing...we all understood and we all know how sick you've been! We have all missed you as well. I am glad to hear from you and can't wait to have you back regally.

(((Hugs)))) Lisa!! Gosh I pop in sometimes too much, then disappear busy sewing but I knew how sick you were - illness and healing MUST take over for you now - not to worry about a missing anything. My father used to say it's just "stuff" (his father was a fireman and really it IS all just "stuff".

I've ran one Group - we didn't swap anything thank goodness, but it was such fun in November I'll host it again!
I've joined a few groups and for me the "pressure" of thinking of cool items each month - or finding a different Mug Rug pattern that other's found helped me get er' done.

Very excited about the into the Light Project Fabric is hosting *Whooo hooo*!!!
I do get sometimes busy sewing for my business and fall behind, but knowing how much work the Group managers put into this, they do deserve to see items sent out or sew up :-) Mine will get done - Anything Black and... well I'm very excited about the colors too.

It is heartening to hear that most swaps go ok, but a shame on the others so sorry for those Group Managers! Dee I remember my 1st Swap I joined was your Mug Rug! I even offered to send some extra's in case ppl flaked out - No it's not the Group's manager or another member to do this Agree!!! But I also didn't want someone to not get one, when I made up so many extra's :-)

It's all good and I hope more folks do join in - but please Know - the other folks are counting on you!!

and I want my swap stuff too hehehe

Well, being new around here, I certainly intend to do my best to make a good impression and NOT flake on the B&W Charm swap I just joined by Fabriclvr!

My other passion is scrapbooking and a couple of years ago I was very active on a scrapbooking site where I hosted swaps and started/participated in Circle Journals and I know from experience it can get overwhelming very fast. I was much more experienced with scrapbooking when I got involved online so I was always able to just get it done. Still we had people flake on their responsibilities. If it was a swap, as the host I would always try and make it up to the jilted person, but a journal? That was always heartbreaking if someone didn't follow through. Especially if it had already been half way around the circle! Unless you are physically able to go to the person's address and find out what's going on - there is really nothing you can do about it. Thankfully that didn't happen often.

Since I am not that experienced a quilter - I do not intend to sign up for everything under the sun. I'm doing the B&W charm swap because I really want to do something in those colors (with a dash of purple!) and I have my mat and rotary cutter handy. What I DON'T have handy right now is my sewing machine, so as much as I can't wait for the next mug rug swap - it would definitely be better for me if it didn't start next week. ;)

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I am glad this thread was started. It is rude to not acknowledge a swap buddy when receiving what they've been given. I try to put effort in the things I make because I want my partner to be happy. I also look forward to seeing what everyone gets.

I didn't get anything in my last swap, the R, W, &B dresden table topper. Had I known I wasn't receiving one for the 4th of July from my buddy I would have made one for myself. Our wonderful leader sent me a pm the other day, telling me she would make one for me. I tried not to complain, though I showed my disappointment in my buddy. Although, I appreciated what our leader is doing for me, I did not and do not expect her or others to pick up the slack for another. It just isn't fare.

I do hope my partner is okay. I have wondered if something happened to cause her to "drop out".

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It's wonderful that Theresa is 'making up' for the flake out. I was going to chair a 'Big Star' topper in Oct/Nov, but bowed out because of these issues. Hope I'm not deemed a flake-out for doing so...
I am not about to chase after flakes, nor make 'good' for them. We are all adults, no? I just have no patience for this behavior. I deal with enough of this behavior at work. It's not entering my home.
I may continue to participate, now and again, but I'll know going-in I may get burned. I would never expect a chair to pick up the slack. It is what it is...
That said, I think it's a good idea to have a point person that keeps in charge of the flake-outs. Let's face it, some put a lot of time and effort into the BIG DADDY 'Secret Santa Swap'. Okay, it's not the chicken pinnie swap, BUT if you can't manage that, you're off the BIG list. Are we to expect Blondie and Sandy to make up for the flakes? I don't think so.
If you have a serious health issue, or you're in over your head, message your chair!
The kicker is the topper swaps are challenging and have made me gain confidence. I was scared to death to try a Dresden. But I did it! I wasn't ashamed to send it. It's not perfect by any means. But it's a N.Y Sue original! lol
My template came late, I messaged my chair before the deadline because I wasn't going to make the deadline, and she paired me up with someone who had the same thing going on.
Lucky me!
Ilive2craft (Lisa) sent me this beauty!

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Won't say if I'll never participate in a swap again, but I probably will. As the saying goes. a sucker is born every minute. I trust everyone, to a fault.

But the thought of chairing makes me a wreck....