Pat, I am thinking about you. We've all been there a time or ten thousand. Just had a total meltdown about two Saturdays ago myself dealing with my Mom who has Alzheimers. The short version..went to take her out for the day, didn't remember I was coming and the staff were clueless (even though I had called them). She left with a friend and got back about the time I was leaving. Got into an argument with the friend (she thinks we don't take very good care of Mom). Mom was hateful and said I was an embarrassment to her and her "people". Left in tears to drive 30 miles back to Wichita. Did a little shopping - didn't help and kept sobbing. Went to my Dads - they're wonderful. After about 4 beers - they decided to drive me 60 miles home, brought pizza and then things started looking up a bit. Take care, Pat. And...I'm hoping to go to the retreat next year...... Hugs.